The only reason a lactating woman will leak when a baby cries is because it triggers the milk to let down - that only happens if you have milk to begin with, it doesn't cause lactation.
One could easily lactate if they really wanted to - a breastpump mighyt be more effective than nippleclamps though!

Also, leaking from a nonlactating woman is usually ok as long as it isn't blood-streaked. (I had nipple "discharge" for years before I got pregnant.)

I understand! I don't think not breastfeeding would make you a bad mother. I doubt I was breastfed and my mom was a great mom. If you want the nutritional benefits of your own milk, breast pumps can help. But I don't think women should have to use their breasts to feed. For me, breasts are too erogenous to share with a child.

I realize that such a device isn't made to hold liquid, though! This would be to help me at the stage I'm at now. It would just be more entertaining to use a pink, glittery device than to use my fingers all the time. But I may just go ahead and order one anyways, and might know if it works soon enough.

Exactly! I see them more sexual than maternal and I want to keep those worlds seperate.

Some people get really upset by my seeing breasts as sexual parts, but I can't help that I see boobies that way. T-T And with my not wanting kids, what are my breasts then?! They are toys!!

I changed my post, because I didn't want to offend anybody, and I think I got a little....enthusiastic about my opinion.

But, yeah, as a Lactation Nurse, I see the beauty and the functionality and necessities of the female breast and human milk every day. It is important for a couple to be able to see and appreciate the dual nature of the female breast and not sexualize it to the point where any children would suffer from being DENIED human milk SIMPLY DUE to fear of "those are for my husband" attitude. He can share, believe me, and a good man would.

A healthy couple can understand that, yes, the breast is sexy, but when lactating, THAT is it's main job. That doesn't mean that they can't also be toys, but just that breasts were MEANT for lactation, and any other uses are secondary and not as important as the proper care feeding, loving and comforting nature of the breast for the baby.

No, I can't sexualize human milk in any way. I see it in a clinical way, I see women suffer and grieve when they are having difficulty transferring milk to their babies, and I see too many women and men who deny babies, when lactation WAS possible, by refusing to see that breasts are GLANDS for making milk for infants and that doesn't take away the fact that they can still have a dual purpose.

I've also nursed my own kids, some of them for a LONG time, and there is nothing sexual about breastfeeding, when you are doing it full time. It's sensual, as you are using your body to feed a child, and it feels good to do so, but NOT sexual in any sense of the word. I just wouldn't and couldn't want to confuse those two things, when there was a child at my breast.

That doesn't mean that I couldn't go from feeding the baby to, once the baby is asleep, making love to My Man, with breast play involved, but there is a difference. Putting First things First is important if you want your priorities straight. Also, the first few weeks of breastfeeding are HARD WORK, and you simply don't feel very sexual for a while, and y'know, it's totally OK if you don't! You have other things on your mind, like, say, keeping an other human being who is TOTALLY dependent on you ALIVE!

My Man and I resume sexual relations (no PIV for a few weeks, though) within days of my giving birth, but the Baby ALWAYS comes first at this time. My Man just reminded me that only a day or two after I got home from the hospital after our last baby was born via C Section, I was in pain from my incision, my nipples hurt like hell (because my last one had a slight oral anomaly which caused her to never really latch on properly and I in pain for months and was slightly uncomfortable for, well the entire 4 years of nursing.) I was leaking like crazy, I had a chunk of tissue missing from my inner thigh fold, where the sterile dressing had caught my skin, I was exhausted, I couldn't get INTO our water bed, due to my pain, so I was sleeping on an air mattress on the floor with the Baby.

Yet, he said as soon as I nursed the baby to sleep that second night, I called him over to the air mattress I was sleeping on and said, "Somebody needs a blow job." And proceeded to take care of him. He said it was one of his sweetest memories, because I was thinking of the Baby AND him, (individually) and I was still able to keep my priorities straight. (And he got a blow job, too. He likes that.)

The Breast can be used for both sex play AND feeding babies, but I think the reason we HAVE breasts needs to be remembered and honored.

It's my Profession and my Passion, so your mileage may vary. I, in no way judge other people's decisions, I'm too busy to do so, and too many people WANT my help for me to worry about people who make alternate decisions with their breasts. But I just want people to THINK about the importance of human milk to the baby (while I still understand and can empathize more than most with the women who simply could not get breastfeeding to work) and that importance just doesn't make sense to me to sexualize human milk.

Ramble over. I hope I didn't offend anyone, I certainly didn't intend to, but I had to say what I felt about this. NO human milk is NOT sexy to me.

Your experience may be very different and I totally respect that.

I to love to suck on milk filled titties...18yr old's are so so sweet!! Hit me up.

I did not let my hubby near my breast when I was breast feeling. It was just to weird for me. He did however have a sip of the pumped milk. You are right about the taste and food effecting the milk.

I'd just like to remind everyone that posts like this one are not appropriate for our community. We want everyone to feel safe and comfortable, and this is a perfect example of instilling feelings of the opposite.

Let's keep it relevant and respectful.

These are fun threads and we'd like them to stay this way.

I honestly don't see how. 18 is of age and Lickz is just talking about a preference.

I think the whole post is fine except for the "Hit me up" part. Users should not feel like they are getting hit on here or like this is a dating site in any way. Other sites are better for that.

No, he's attempting to use the site as a dating-stalking site and has been warned and flagged. He's done this on more than one thread.

It's actually to the baby's advantage that the taste of human milk changes. Formula always tastes exactly the same, but as an older person you eat a variety of foods. Human milk prepares the infant for different food by changing taste. It has been proven that babies PREFER milk with garlic or onions in it, just as a matter of taste and variety. Babies will drink MORE milk that is "flavored" than not. There are several studies to prove this is true.

The human body is a amazing thing! The Mother-Baby symbiosis is even more fascinating.

LOL

My lactation consultant told me pretty much the same thing. My daughter loves foods with stronger tastes... Pickles, Lemons, Garlic, Spicy peppers. I think she likes the taste of and can tolerate the stronger tastes because of the breast milk. We have several kiddo's the same age as my daughter in my family. I notice the formula fed babies seem to be picky eaters.