I think you know the answer to this already.
If your long term boyfriend wants you to have a relationship with his wife and you don't get along, can it work?
08/19/2012
Don't be pressured into a relationship with someone you don't like!
08/20/2012
NO!!! if it doesn't work don't force it
08/24/2012
No.
08/24/2012
No, you don't get along for a reason
10/27/2012
I think it could work. Not friends. But a civil relationship. Especially if there are kids involved. But both you and her would have to want that understanding, not just your man.
01/28/2013
Perhaps, if you both gave it a good and honest go, but I think both people would have to be willing to try to work through the differences. If not, then it wouldn't work. Compromise and genuine effort is key.
01/28/2013
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Definitely agree with you on every bit.
Originally posted by
Airen Wolf
I will respectfully disagree with the pack on this one. I am assuming that your long term boyfriend's wife knows about you and that you and she just don't seem to be able to see eye to eye.
I was in the same situation, myself, with my ... more
I was in the same situation, myself, with my ... more
I will respectfully disagree with the pack on this one. I am assuming that your long term boyfriend's wife knows about you and that you and she just don't seem to be able to see eye to eye.
I was in the same situation, myself, with my current guys. BOTH guys loved me but couldn't be in the same room alone without a referee! what it took was me stepping out of the middle and telling them that I loved them both but I wasn't responsible for their relationship...they had to build that for themselves. It was a MAJOR leap of faith and tested all my patience and courage but we went from "I love you but HE drives me nuts" to a wonderful month long living arrangement where they started planning seriously how to make it permanent.
Get him out of the middle and really look to see why he loves this woman. He has the good taste to love you so chances are she is a wonderful person as well. If jealousy is the issue tackle it head on, if it's a personality clash look for the good in her and build on that foundation. Find SOMETHING that you two have in common and use that as a building block.
Now, mind you, if his wife is being cheated on by both of you then get out now and save yourself the heartache. That's a situation I have never seen work and I have seen it end in the ultimate tragedy.... less
I was in the same situation, myself, with my current guys. BOTH guys loved me but couldn't be in the same room alone without a referee! what it took was me stepping out of the middle and telling them that I loved them both but I wasn't responsible for their relationship...they had to build that for themselves. It was a MAJOR leap of faith and tested all my patience and courage but we went from "I love you but HE drives me nuts" to a wonderful month long living arrangement where they started planning seriously how to make it permanent.
Get him out of the middle and really look to see why he loves this woman. He has the good taste to love you so chances are she is a wonderful person as well. If jealousy is the issue tackle it head on, if it's a personality clash look for the good in her and build on that foundation. Find SOMETHING that you two have in common and use that as a building block.
Now, mind you, if his wife is being cheated on by both of you then get out now and save yourself the heartache. That's a situation I have never seen work and I have seen it end in the ultimate tragedy.... less
02/01/2013
If you can't get along with someone, you can't force yourself to like them. It'll just cause resentment and most likely a lot of toxic feelings.
02/11/2013
Sounds like a messy situation. Ditch him.
02/11/2013
Communication is really important here. He may not grasp why you don't get along. If you aren't interested in her, he needs to hear it from you. If she feels the same towards you, put aside your differences, and sit him down together.
A splinter in a relationship or feeling forced into something you're not comfortable/happy about can really mess things up!!
A splinter in a relationship or feeling forced into something you're not comfortable/happy about can really mess things up!!
04/13/2013
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lol, this. LadyRelentless, I was thinking the exact same thing.
Originally posted by
LadyRelentless
....this is the polyamory board.
Have some respect for other peoples choices. If "seeing a married man" is absolutly a bad choice for you, then maybe this isn't the right part of the forums for you.
polyamory=more then ... more
Have some respect for other peoples choices. If "seeing a married man" is absolutly a bad choice for you, then maybe this isn't the right part of the forums for you.
polyamory=more then ... more
....this is the polyamory board.
Have some respect for other peoples choices. If "seeing a married man" is absolutly a bad choice for you, then maybe this isn't the right part of the forums for you.
polyamory=more then one consenting adult in a loving relationship.
pretty ridiculous to me that a bunch of people came into this thread to be like "married man! that'll never work!!!!" less
Have some respect for other peoples choices. If "seeing a married man" is absolutly a bad choice for you, then maybe this isn't the right part of the forums for you.
polyamory=more then one consenting adult in a loving relationship.
pretty ridiculous to me that a bunch of people came into this thread to be like "married man! that'll never work!!!!" less
If it's ok with you all that the two ladies will never be best buds, it shouldn't be an issue. However, if you both really despise each other, she may begin picking on him for the time he spends with you, or vice-versa.
I could see the situation going either way.
It could DEFINITELY work.
I like NOT meeting my partners' other partners. That just works well for me. Part of the reason I like this is so I don't have to know if they're dating insufferably awful people when they aren't with me.
04/16/2013
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