I am putting aside money to get divorced from my husband of just over three years. He's a liar, verbally abusive, controlling, and has been living in a "poly" lifestyle for the last two years. He did this despite my objections. His last girlfriend lived with us for a year, and just moved out. I live in a 50/50 state. Everything acquired in marriage is split roughly 50/50. The car is only in my name, and I got the loan on it before I got married. So it is mine, and it doesn't affect what I get in the divorce. I'm thinking once the divorce is paid for I could just leave to get away from him. The issue is, this is the only car. He doesn't have one and wouldn't be able to get one before I leave. He makes a ton of money, but he also spends like crazy. I have been a housewife for the last three years, and gave up my degree in my senior year to marry him. Due to all of this, he is going to pay 1k a month in alimony until I can finish my degree and my masters or accelerated BSN, so I need for him to actually be able to get to work. Just curious as to what opinions are out there. I could stay until he was able to get his own car, but I am completely alone in this state; he has isolated me and I have no family or friends here. My days will continue to consist of him taking my car to work, and me being home alone every day, then my only company being him in the evenings; as you can imagine, it's pretty lonely, and he's a complete jerk most of the time. With putting aside for the divorce, it would take several months before he could get his own car; the payments on this car would affect his ability to pay debts he has promised to in the divorce. all of these agreements will be in binding legal documents from the lawyer. Any ideas are welcome. I just don't know how much more I can stand to put up with. I'm mostly interested in answers and suggestions, but I would like to see which way people vote as well. Thank you for taking your time to read this. less