The New Intimacy

Who is more open to try new things in the bedroom? you or your partner?

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Contributor: Xarien Xarien
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Originally posted by Deidrenicole
I am constantly trying to find new and exciting things to do and try in the bedroom to make our relationship more exciting. My boyfriend on the other hand is weirded out by it and doesn't understand why I wanna do these things. I just want to ... more
We're both equally involved in what we try in the bedroom. We both have the mindset where we'll try nearly anything once.
11/05/2012
Contributor: MidnightStorm MidnightStorm
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Originally posted by Xarien
We're both equally involved in what we try in the bedroom. We both have the mindset where we'll try nearly anything once.
Exactly! We have boundaries, but we're both very open, which I'm incredibly grateful for. I couldn't go into a relationship knowing the other person would be extremely close-minded in the bedroom: there are so many things I want to try! It's not that the sex isn't good enough, I'm just curious and excited about so many things.
11/05/2012
Contributor: RememberMe RememberMe
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Originally posted by Do-Re-Mi
My boyfriend is really embarrassed by sex. Whenever I mentions anything he turns beet red and trys to shift the conversation even if he is interested in it. I usually try to explain why I want to try new things and start him off slowly with whatever ... more
Good tip.
11/06/2012
Contributor: RememberMe RememberMe
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Originally posted by unfulfilled
My husband doesn't get why I want to try things at all. If I buy lingerie he doesn't understand why I get so excited about it because to him it's "just clothes" I feel sexy when I wear it and that's all that matters to me. ... more
Aww, he's jealous of them, heh. Cute.
11/06/2012
Contributor: The Majikat The Majikat
We are both generally open.
11/10/2012
Contributor: lilacviolet lilacviolet
Me, which irritates me sometimes and has caused a few arguments. I'm always the one suggesting intimacy and wanting to be intimate, get the wheels moving. I want to have a great sex life with my boyfriend and even though he agrees with everything I say, agreeing with EVERYTHING I suggest but when it comes to plan or take action, he ignores it all and leaves me to deal with it myself. He can agree with me all he wants but when it comes to action, it's like he shows the opposite...almost like he's not interested, like he has a billion other things he would rather do than be intimate with me which makes me feel sad. I guess time will tell if things get better, hopefully it will.
12/05/2012
Contributor: lilacviolet lilacviolet
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Originally posted by unfulfilled
My husband doesn't get why I want to try things at all. If I buy lingerie he doesn't understand why I get so excited about it because to him it's "just clothes" I feel sexy when I wear it and that's all that matters to me. ... more
How boring, I couldn't possibly stand someone like that. I hope your husband will learn to understand you better one day. I'm glad that at least my boyfriend is open-minded about sexuality when we talk about it.
12/05/2012
Contributor: Modern^Spank^Anthem Modern^Spank^Anthem
got to say both
12/05/2012
Contributor: lovebites lovebites
both of us
12/05/2012
Contributor: Rraine Rraine
We are equally willing to try new things
12/05/2012
Contributor: Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
My partner is a little bit shy about telling me what he wants to try. I'm much more vocal about it, but he's always willing.
12/06/2012
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
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Originally posted by Deidrenicole
I am constantly trying to find new and exciting things to do and try in the bedroom to make our relationship more exciting. My boyfriend on the other hand is weirded out by it and doesn't understand why I wanna do these things. I just want to ... more
Both equally interested
12/06/2012
Contributor: butts butts
I might suggest more things, but we're both usually interested in trying new stuff. I dunno, maybe he's a bit more cautious than I am. It's hard to say.
12/06/2012
Contributor: Martiniman Martiniman
I'm the creative kinky one with the high sex drive.
12/06/2012
Contributor: burtnuh burtnuh
Me, my man always says he's open but we end up not usually trying the new things.
12/06/2012
Contributor: MsDrProfKitty MsDrProfKitty
I am definitely the one that comes up with new ideas and new things to try. My guy is willing but actively looking for these kinds of thinks makes him feel awkward (we're working on that)
12/07/2012
Contributor: AishiteruYO AishiteruYO
Quote:
Originally posted by Deidrenicole
I am constantly trying to find new and exciting things to do and try in the bedroom to make our relationship more exciting. My boyfriend on the other hand is weirded out by it and doesn't understand why I wanna do these things. I just want to ... more
It seems like I'm more open to try new things lately.
12/09/2012
Contributor: novanilla novanilla
We both like it equally and each contribute new ideas just as often as the other.
12/09/2012
Contributor: iabicpl09 iabicpl09
We are both pretty open to new ideas
12/11/2012
Contributor: Bill220 Bill220
My wife will try new things but I'm the one that introduces the new idea and after trying it, she usually won't do it again or only have a passing interest in it. It's a huge turnoff knowing that my partner is doing things just because I want to do them. Thus, I don't bring anything new to the table anymore.
12/14/2012
Contributor: nova2014 nova2014
I'm more open to trying new things in the bedroom, my SO is the type that'll stick with what works
02/13/2013
Contributor: Hummingbird Hummingbird
Me but I've come to learn he is more open then I ever realized and keeps an open mind.
02/15/2013
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
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Originally posted by unfulfilled
My husband doesn't get why I want to try things at all. If I buy lingerie he doesn't understand why I get so excited about it because to him it's "just clothes" I feel sexy when I wear it and that's all that matters to me. ... more
I can see why you chose your name...

Definitely me. I don't even think my partner has fantasies like most people. I think doing it in a car is the wildest fantasy she has.
02/15/2013
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
We are both open to try new things...but he may have a little more "kinkier" ideas, but I always love to try them!
02/15/2013
Contributor: wicked weasel wicked weasel
Most definitely moi
02/15/2013
Contributor: shorejen9 shorejen9
Both of us! We entered into this journey together hand in hand and its been wonderful so far!
02/15/2013
Contributor: Cosmonaut Cosmonaut
Equal I suppose...more in favor of him though.
02/16/2013
Contributor: ImportPerv ImportPerv
Quote:
Originally posted by Deidrenicole
I am constantly trying to find new and exciting things to do and try in the bedroom to make our relationship more exciting. My boyfriend on the other hand is weirded out by it and doesn't understand why I wanna do these things. I just want to ... more
Interesting, 'me' wins. I guess it makes sense since this is a sex toy website.
02/16/2013
Contributor: twelve13 twelve13
I think that, in my current relationship, we are equally interested.
03/02/2013
Contributor: Munko Munko
Me for sure. Anything new we try is usually instigated by me. He's either the easiest man to please and has no "fantasies" or he's not comfortable...I haven't figured it out yet, but he's always content with status quo...and while I'm content I like to spice things up from time to time!
03/02/2013