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What was the first thing that you noticed and drew you to your current partner?

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Contributor: padmeamidala padmeamidala
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Originally posted by guard083
When you met your current guy/girl what was trhe first thing that drew you to them?
I love his personality and knew from the start that we would be best friends forever. He's got a really great personality. He's also very intelligent. And good looking too.
06/14/2011
Contributor: dezzydezire dezzydezire
my hubby and i met over world of warcraft and on vent. so i fell inlove with his personality.
07/21/2011
Contributor: jesseftm jesseftm
I guess what drew me to my girlfriend was her personality, but it was so much more. She's the kind of person who just fills a room with her joy/warmth/other mushy things. It's true though, and it was completely intimidating. She managed to be completely uninterested in me and the sweetest person ever to me at the same time until I finally wore her down and convinced her to like me. I was also extremely attracted to her morals and her beliefs and her drive. Not to mention she's a god damn fox.
07/23/2011
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
Her personality for sure!
07/23/2011
Contributor: anonomous anonomous
He had a great personality and the first day we hung out everything went perfect.
07/23/2011
Contributor: Kdlips Kdlips
personality
07/23/2011
Contributor: Linga Linga
I can't say exactly, I was just drawn to him and have been completely and utterly smitten ever since. 6 years and counting
07/24/2011
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
His screen name - knotty_or_nice. I knew - despite his non-descript appearance - that he was a Dom with that name.

As we got to know each other, definitely his personality won me over. Intelligent, open-minded, dominant, appreciative, understanding, loving, perceptive.

When we met in person it was his eyes. They exuded such gentleness and kindness.
07/24/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
He picked a fight with some drunk down the bar who was making rude comments about me even though I had only known him for a few hours.
07/24/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
We were introduced by through a friend. She had - still has a very honest vibe. You know you could trust her with your treasure - or your heart. After 21 years she owns both 100%.
07/25/2011
Contributor: ac0313 ac0313
Other: all the above. I cannot pick just one since I am attracted to different things and she has all of them in one person.
07/26/2011
Contributor: Noira Celestia Noira Celestia
We met online so this is hard to answer. He was just so easy to talk to. Then once things started getting more intimate over the phone I realized he was just as kinky as me. Omg I miss the awesome phone sex we used to have.
07/26/2011
Contributor: M121212 M121212
His overwhelming sexiness and mischievous air.
07/26/2011
Contributor: Lady Nina Lady Nina
eyes
07/27/2011
Contributor: Crichton Crichton
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Originally posted by Beaners
I loved how chill my boyfriend was, and still is. And how hot he looked playing a guitar. Rowr.
Same with mine. He makes the cutest faces while playing guitar or video games.

I love his personality. He's very shy and I'm very forward and it just made me that much more attracted to him. He's smart, sweet, well mannered and honest.
07/27/2011
Contributor: js250 js250
I first noticed his height and build when he got out of the car at my yard sale, but thought nothing of it, other than he was tall and muscular. I was married at the time. He asked me a question and when I answered, I looked at him, noticed his eyes, and immediately felt like I knew him.

It was weird, but I didn't think much of it. He worked with my husband, and we became very good friends for about 6 years. I promise! That is all!! When my marriage was over, I fantasized about him and was attracted, but it wasn't for another year that anything changed that. He tried! I finally gave in one night and the rest is history. (Reality is much much better than any fantasy I ever had about him!!!)
08/05/2011
Contributor: melbellex3 melbellex3
One of the perks of meeting somebody online is being able to fall for their personality first before the physical stuff!
08/05/2011
Contributor: EdenG EdenG
Quote:
Originally posted by guard083
When you met your current guy/girl what was trhe first thing that drew you to them?
We have great conversation and he's so laid back. I was attracted to the fact that everyone seemed to get along with him so well.
08/05/2011
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
personality
08/06/2011
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
I don't really know, I guess he just grew on me after a while. XD
08/07/2011
Contributor: Woman China Woman China
His mind. He kicked my ass at chess with a move I'd never seen before and it just blew me away I was so turned on!!! Then the nerdy banter. It's all about the mind I tell you.
08/07/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
Tattoos lol!
10/24/2011
Contributor: IslandGoddess IslandGoddess
The way he was dressed and the way he looked....It was just something about him that was very different and sexy..Left me wanting to know more
10/26/2011
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
He has a great personality and that's important.
10/29/2011
Contributor: Kynky Kytty Kynky Kytty
We met at work, and he was one of the top 3 person that I liked the most, for his intelligence, sense of humor and great conversation. Since I wasn't looking at the time, he was only a very good friend and stayed like that for 2 years. I remember wondering for a fleeting moment, "if something could happen if he was single" and brushed the thought away as he had a girlfriend of a few years.

When he eventually left his ex, it never crossed my mind to ask him out - and neither did he, as he admitted that he didn't think I'd accept. The thing that changed everything was a dream. I dreamed that he was getting married to his ex and I wasn't happy about it. So the next day, I looked at him with new eyes and started to make moves. Within the end of that week, I had a boyfriend.

Some of you don't know, but I had been abstinent for 2 years and a few months, so that I would be able to choose a new partner wisely, and bla bla bla, and I couldn't be happier now.
10/29/2011
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
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Originally posted by Kynky Kytty
We met at work, and he was one of the top 3 person that I liked the most, for his intelligence, sense of humor and great conversation. Since I wasn't looking at the time, he was only a very good friend and stayed like that for 2 years. I remember ... more
That is so wonderful, Kynky Kytty. I was wondering how he came into your life because you always said you were being extra careful this time. *hugs*
10/29/2011
Contributor: Kynky Kytty Kynky Kytty
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
That is so wonderful, Kynky Kytty. I was wondering how he came into your life because you always said you were being extra careful this time. *hugs*
*Hugs* It helped that he was a long term friend, I was able to trust my judgement.
10/29/2011
Contributor: MeliPixie MeliPixie
When I first met my boyfriend, he was wearing a studded collar with a big O-ring on it and OWNING it. I knew what the collar meant, and his submissive nature really appealed to me, though I didn't really know that's what it was at the time. I may be a switch now, but I really only knew my own subby side back then. But these days, almost everything about him draws me closer to him ^_^
10/29/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by guard083
When you met your current guy/girl what was trhe first thing that drew you to them?
Everything!
10/30/2011
Contributor: jenn g jenn g
Pretty much his eyes, and that way he looks at me
10/31/2011