I love you and sex don't come together for me, either. Afterwards, maybe...when I get that rush of warm and fuzzy. But during it's all pure fuck me baby! I've really only ever connected love and sex with my current partner, but sex for us isn't a very loving act...it's more primal for us, and rarely passionate or loving (though I wouldn't mind it more often)...I'm generally too busy biting the pillow to say much of anything!!