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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
How long have YOU been in this "Long Term Relationship" to call it "long term"?
Wonder if we are all thinking along the same lines?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
1-3 years
Dusk , Noira Celestia , Avant-garde , joja , froggiemoma , mandiegk , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , El-Jaro , Ryuson , JessCee , darthkitt3n , MaryExy , qwertypop , Lady Nina , Crystal1 , kjkitty , Beck , Yaoi Pervette (deleted) , Diabolical Kitty , Ava5 , Sunshineamine , Howells , rockym690 , SecretToyLover2 , Graniteal , Mwar , Rawr4483 , Harpina is gone , SouthernBelle , Love Obsessed , xOhxSoxScandalousx , Lilith Bealove , potstickers , BiteOnThis , Missmarc , Bex1331 , mjtheprincess , johnnylove , HisLittleFiend , butts , Gdom , wrecklesswords , Awux , llellsee , MsDrProfKitty , burtnuh , Femme Mystique , ToyBunny
48
3-6 years
PiratePrincess , I'mNotYourToy , Hadespark , Shellz31 , LikeSunshineDust , Diabolical Kitty , guard083 , Apirka , Stagger13 , <3BF , Bex1331 , jr2012 , souviet , ashboo32 , Bleu , srexom , TrenchcoatHunters , Septimus , Rraine
19
6-10 years
Airen Wolf , slynch , LilyLust , ColorMeCute , TameTemptress , Kitty Grub , onehotmomma , ily , Diabolical Kitty , Eliyahu , Ms. N , Kitka , Stinkytofu10 , cowgirl1130
14
10-15 years
Ansley , LilyLust , BeautifulDarkness , Diabolical Kitty , swf , Kitka , Bignuf
7
15-20 years
married with children , Rossie , sexyintexas , Diabolical Kitty , Selective Sensualist , CreamySweet
6
20-25 years
Diabolical Kitty , mpfm , Gunsmoke
3
25-30 years
newlady , Diabolical Kitty , Hummingbird
3
30-35 years
Diabolical Kitty , Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
2
More then 35 years....how many?
Diabolical Kitty , Bignuf , Rory
3
Of course..."OTHER"?
El-Jaro , MeliPixie , Vanessa Weiss , Owl Identified , SecretToyLover2 , ID42 , ToyBunny
7
Total votes: 112 (97 voters)
Poll is closed
07/19/2011
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Contributor: married with children married with children
we have been together for almost 20 years. I dont know what everyone considers long term, but I would have called it long term 15 years ago
07/20/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
How long have YOU been in this "Long Term Relationship" to call it "long term"?
Wonder if we are all thinking along the same lines?
I have been with Sigel for 25 years and with Arch for over 6 years, Both are long term relationships.
07/20/2011
Contributor: Dusk Dusk
We have been together two years and I have called it a long term relationship since the end of year one.
07/20/2011
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
We've been married for 18 years. I consider anything over 10 years is a long term relationship.
07/20/2011
Contributor: Noira Celestia Noira Celestia
Ooops, I answered wrong. ;/ Man why do I always answer polls wrong? I vote and then I remember something or I change my mind or something.
07/20/2011
Contributor: sexyintexas sexyintexas
We were friends first. Have been good friends for 20 years. Started a sexual relationship 13 years ago then went our seperate ways for a while and have been monogamous for 3 this time around. How about...it's complicated
07/20/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
It's hard to draw a concrete line on the matter but I figure once a relationship hits five years it can be considered long-term. I definitely don't consider anything under a year to be long-term. Not with the way 20-somethings these days think that any flaw a person may have is grounds for breaking up.
07/20/2011
Contributor: LilyLust LilyLust
I think of long term in milestones. For me its once you hit the 10 year mark. but not many people get there anymore so I have been rethinking it to five years.
07/20/2011
Contributor: froggiemoma froggiemoma
a few years?
07/20/2011
Contributor: PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
I've considered us to be long term since the first year. We are now almost at four years
07/20/2011
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
I'd think anything after a year would be "long term". I compare "long term" to "dating". You don't really date someone for 2 years...you can, but what does that say to the commitment level?

I think "long term relationship" ends with marriage or civil union.

I base my definitions comparatively though - Just met, Hang out, Fool around, Date, Long Term Relationship (LTR), Marriage/Civil union, (Divorce)...repeat. I wouldn't hold anyone to these though (except myself).
07/21/2011
Contributor: newlady newlady
I think anything over half your life is long term.... lmao!!
Seriously, I think it's when you are really, seriously committed to each other; I think it varies as well-depends on the couple, really.
07/21/2011
Contributor: MeliPixie MeliPixie
I think many people will define "long-term" differently. In my humble opinion, it's not the number of years you HAVE lasted... It's your intention to last a lifetime that makes your relationship "long-term." My boyfriend and I have been together for less than two years (friends for four before that), but we consider ourselves "long-term" even when many others will not. This is because we don't plan on breaking up, ever, or even that awkward high-school concept of "taking a break." (Though for the record, we are 23 and 28, lol!) We have plans for the future like children, and we have even combined our life's dreams to include one another and their dreams. I think that certainly qualifies us to call our relationship, a long-term relationship.
07/21/2011
Contributor: Lady Nina Lady Nina
1-3 years
07/27/2011
Contributor: Crystal1 Crystal1
I'd say anything over a year starts falling into the long-term category.
07/29/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
We called it long term after 2years but we have been together 5years.
07/29/2011
Contributor: Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
Been with my man 14 years. I think I thought of it as long term at around the 3-year mark.
07/29/2011
Contributor: Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
Long term I think is anything past a year together.
07/29/2011
Contributor: guard083 guard083
I would of said 2-3 because 1 year I don't think is long enough
07/29/2011
Contributor: Sunshineamine Sunshineamine
We were best friends for nearly six years before we got together. He was the first person I met when I moved to WI. We've been together for almost two years now though.
08/06/2011
Contributor: Vanessa Weiss Vanessa Weiss
I'm of the opinion that "long term" is a type of relationship rather than a quantifiable quality. If you are intending to be together long term and share a life, then I would define that type of relationship as a "long term" relationship - the intent being that the relationship last... well... long term.
08/06/2011
Contributor: Apirka Apirka
To me, "long term" is around 4 to 5 year mark. Though I've personally never had a relationship that long.
02/15/2012
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
Quote:
Originally posted by Vanessa Weiss
I'm of the opinion that "long term" is a type of relationship rather than a quantifiable quality. If you are intending to be together long term and share a life, then I would define that type of relationship as a "long term" ... more
Agreed.
02/15/2012
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
How long have YOU been in this "Long Term Relationship" to call it "long term"?
Wonder if we are all thinking along the same lines?
Feb 1996 to now. Un-interrupted.
02/16/2012
Contributor: SecretToyLover2 SecretToyLover2
Once a couple hits one year together, dating or married or whatever, that is long term to me. But nothing before a year.
02/16/2012
Contributor: Graniteal Graniteal
A couple years
02/16/2012
Contributor: Harpina is gone Harpina is gone
I'd say a year or two and both people wanting to stay together for longer.
03/29/2012
Contributor: SouthernBelle SouthernBelle
We've been together for 5 years now, but I think we became a long term thing after about 2 of those. I think long term just means that both parties want (and expect) it to last.
05/09/2012
Contributor: Love Obsessed Love Obsessed
I call long term 2+ years.
05/09/2012