What has been your longest relationship? What has kept the love going?
                    
                    
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                        Ten years with my ex-husband. It wasn't love. It was fear.
                        
                        
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                        20+ years!
                        
                        
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                        Excuse me while I go cry now...
                        
                        
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                        Between 3 and 4 years, so I voted 4. 
Second longest is 1.5
                        
                        Second longest is 1.5
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                        Just means you didn't waste your time on anyone for too long!
                        
                                        Originally posted by 
                                            Darling Jen
                                        
                                        
                                
                                            Excuse me while I go cry now...
                                        
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                        Aww...there's someone special for everyone just gotta keep looking.
I've been with hubby since 1988. Hardly even remember how to do things without him around at this point.
                        
                        I've been with hubby since 1988. Hardly even remember how to do things without him around at this point.
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                        8 years...
                        
                                        Originally posted by 
                                            ~LaUr3n~
                                        
                                        
                                
                                            Just means you didn't waste your time on anyone for too long!
                                        
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                        Check your Wall, honey.
                        
                                        Originally posted by 
                                            Darling Jen
                                        
                                        
                                
                                            8 years...
                                        
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                        Thanks, Chili. It's not getting easier yet.
                        
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                                            Chilipepper
                                        
                                        
                                
                                            Check your Wall, honey.
                                        
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                        My current relationship! We are going on 6 years on the 7th of december but I voted 5 years.
                        
                        
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                        I've been with Sigel for 24 years and Arch 5 years.
                        
                        
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                        It was around 3.5 years so I voted 3 years. It really never should have even lasted that long though, not that I'll ever regret it because of my daughter and the way I loved that man, but he was never really in it.
                        
                        
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                        21 years. Communication, understanding and honest love. It is a lot of work to keep things running smooth but worth every minute. 
                        
                        
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                        Had no idea what I was doing when I was 13.  I stayed in it out of habit.
                        
                        
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                        Seven years, including four married.  Communication, trust, and empathy.
                        
                        
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                        9 years. 1 living together and 8 married.  Quite the adventure.
Inevitably there will be ups and downs. We've had some pretty LOW downs. It's all about BOTH being willing to stick it out and BOTH being willing to communicate. It's also about learning to speak each other's language, which takes time. (Learning to communicate most effectively for your partner to understand your point of view)
                        
                        Inevitably there will be ups and downs. We've had some pretty LOW downs. It's all about BOTH being willing to stick it out and BOTH being willing to communicate. It's also about learning to speak each other's language, which takes time. (Learning to communicate most effectively for your partner to understand your point of view)
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                        Almost 9 years...holy cow, where does the time go!..
                        
                        
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                        We've been together 33 years, married 26 of them.  Many things that have already been mentioned make a long term relationship work.  But I feel the biggest thing that kept us together through the good and the bad is that we're totally committed to each other, for a lifetime, no matter what. To me that's the most important thing.
                        
                        
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                        We've been together for 21 years, 15 of them married.  Like all relationships, we've had ups and downs, but thankfully mostly ups.
                        
                        
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                        Cynthia and I have been together almost 3 years.
                        
                        
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                        We've been together for a little over 9 years now-still going strong as ever.  We make it work by being best friends, being 100% honest with each other, respecting each other as individuals and working together-I don't like to say compromising, because to me that makes me think of someone not getting what they want..and for us we try to see both sides so that we both get what we want 
                        
                        
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                        I chose 3 because next year it will be 3 with my current partner. I have never been in a long lasting relationship until now.
                        
                        
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                        3 1/2 years with ex bf
                        
                                        Originally posted by 
                                            mnc5051
                                        
                                        
                                
                                            What has been your longest relationship? What has kept the love going?
                                        
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                        Been with my current boy about 1.5 years now.
                        
                        
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                        So very true!
                        
                                        Originally posted by 
                                            removedacnt
                                        
                                        
                                            
                                                
                                    
                                
                                                    We've been together 33 years, married 26 of them.  Many things that have already been mentioned make a long term relationship work.  But I feel the biggest thing that kept us together through the good and the bad is that we're totally
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                                                    We've been together 33 years, married 26 of them.  Many things that have already been mentioned make a long term relationship work.  But I feel the biggest thing that kept us together through the good and the bad is that we're totally committed to each other, for a lifetime, no matter what. To me that's the most important thing.
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                        Longest relationship is current one. We have known each other for 43 years. Yes, I said FORTY-THREE! We have been married for 29 now. Furthermore, we are totally happy, satisfied and fulfilled with each other and our relationship and life that we have built together. What helps to make it work so well after these many years? Determination, respect for each other and ourselves, honesty, friendship with each other and something that many forget...a great sense of humor and the ability to laugh at yourself. Also being able to accept when you are wrong and having the courage to say you are genuinely sorry and apologize. When you are right and your partner is wrong, being gracious and humble when accepting their apology, goes a long way. Common interests, backgrounds and values help in the long run but I also know of couples who are vastly different from each other and still maintain a healthy and loving relationship. Randy (my husband) and I share a vast bond of interests, backgrounds, values, morals, goals, dreams and childhood memories since we have known each other since we were young children. And yes, we did experience many, many other people in our younger days, so we do known what else is out there. We both know how hard maintaining a good and healthy long-term relationship can be and wish all those that are earnestly trying the best.
                        
                        
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                        More than 20. We have stayed together due to allowing the Relationship to be Open near the beginning (not that I'd recommend it for everyone, it isn't but it worked for us) and then dedication, Love, kids, LOTS of sex, mutual respect, and luck. 
The Open Relationship after about 6 months together probably saved us. I was young when I met him, he was a little older, but we both needed more experiences before settling down. We were Open for about 4 years, maybe a little more, then we decided we were both ready for Commitment. I was only 16 when I started dating him so I NEEDED to date other men. I was also a virgin when I met him. He had experience with women, but needed to sow some Wild Oats, in part, to prevent both of us from waking up years later and thinking, "What did I miss?"
We put a LOT of work into our relationship. We don't talk about "The Relationship" that much (he's a guy....most guys shudder if you mention the term "The Relationship") But we both feel free to bring up something if it's bothering us, and have learned when to shut the hell up about something that isn't that important. The hardest part is knowing what to bring up and what to NOT say anything about. That comes with experience.
                        
                        The Open Relationship after about 6 months together probably saved us. I was young when I met him, he was a little older, but we both needed more experiences before settling down. We were Open for about 4 years, maybe a little more, then we decided we were both ready for Commitment. I was only 16 when I started dating him so I NEEDED to date other men. I was also a virgin when I met him. He had experience with women, but needed to sow some Wild Oats, in part, to prevent both of us from waking up years later and thinking, "What did I miss?"
We put a LOT of work into our relationship. We don't talk about "The Relationship" that much (he's a guy....most guys shudder if you mention the term "The Relationship") But we both feel free to bring up something if it's bothering us, and have learned when to shut the hell up about something that isn't that important. The hardest part is knowing what to bring up and what to NOT say anything about. That comes with experience.
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                        We'll have been married 25 years this December. I knew him for a year before we were married.
                        
                        
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                        The one I'm in now, with my husband. We celebrated our ten year "together" anniversary on August 16th, 2010. <3
                        
                                        Originally posted by 
                                            mnc5051
                                        
                                        
                                
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