i couldnt do them
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Long Distance Relationships?
09/29/2012
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Never had one
Originally posted by
JessieDawg
Just to see how people view them.
09/30/2012
My current one is fairly short... (4 hour train ride.) but I have been in one where it was US/UK and I couldn't stand the fact how much uncertainty my partner had about the relationship's future. Had to get out of it.
It's definitely for the faint of heart.
It's definitely for the faint of heart.
10/01/2012
Never had one but will for about a year I believe
10/01/2012
I would be very reluctant to try it again. It would have to be with someone I had already established a strong relationship with before we got separated. There would also have to be an end to the long distance status in sight.
10/01/2012
I'm in one and it's very difficult and sometimes not fun, but it comes down to how committed you are.
10/02/2012
Not for me. I need a lot of interaction with my lovers.
10/03/2012
Twice I've done it....well three times, but twice with the same person (we broke up and then got back together.) It's hard, but can be done. Skype helps!
10/03/2012
I've only had one, not for me..
10/03/2012
I was in one for years. It definitely isn't for everyone. They're really hard to do but so worth it
10/03/2012
Honestly, I'm a really shy person and I'm a bit chubby and self-conscious... Or maybe just afraid to ever initiate anything offline, so a lot of my relationships end up being online. I love dating online, but I hate LDRs. I love online dating because instead of just 'settling' for your town or area, you can look all over the world and really find that perfect person, regardless of anything else. Unfortunately, it results in a lot of LDRs. My last relationship, I lived in Missouri and my (ex) boyfriend in Montreal. My current boyfriend lived in KY when we first started dating, which wasn't very far at all, but over the summer he had to move to Florida... He feels so far away now. I hate doing the LDR thing and there are so many things I'm sad that I'll never experience, like going over to his house at midnight for no reason or hanging out doing homework or meeting up somewhere to have coffee or kissing between classes.
We're planning to move in together soon though and that's something, at least! I can't wait. <3
We're planning to move in together soon though and that's something, at least! I can't wait. <3
10/08/2012
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That's fantastic. Let us know how it goes. Good luck!
Originally posted by
MidnightStorm
Honestly, I'm a really shy person and I'm a bit chubby and self-conscious... Or maybe just afraid to ever initiate anything offline, so a lot of my relationships end up being online. I love dating online, but I hate LDRs. I love online dating
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Honestly, I'm a really shy person and I'm a bit chubby and self-conscious... Or maybe just afraid to ever initiate anything offline, so a lot of my relationships end up being online. I love dating online, but I hate LDRs. I love online dating because instead of just 'settling' for your town or area, you can look all over the world and really find that perfect person, regardless of anything else. Unfortunately, it results in a lot of LDRs. My last relationship, I lived in Missouri and my (ex) boyfriend in Montreal. My current boyfriend lived in KY when we first started dating, which wasn't very far at all, but over the summer he had to move to Florida... He feels so far away now. I hate doing the LDR thing and there are so many things I'm sad that I'll never experience, like going over to his house at midnight for no reason or hanging out doing homework or meeting up somewhere to have coffee or kissing between classes.
We're planning to move in together soon though and that's something, at least! I can't wait. <3 less
We're planning to move in together soon though and that's something, at least! I can't wait. <3 less
10/08/2012
Other. I've been in one, and another that was long distance for a few months and every few weeks after that. I didn't "hate" it, but I hated not being able to see my partner ever. Although, that can strengthen things for you in the long run. It can be hard; some can do it, others can't.
10/08/2012
They aren't for everyone
10/08/2012
Never had one
10/08/2012
I have tried one and I'm convinced they do not work.
10/08/2012
I am in one, but I think it helps to know that once my time here is up we can be back together. Having a definite end date helps. Also, we trust each other completely. We talk every day- even if it is just a short e-mail. And we Skype often. All these things help. But the biggest is the end of the long distance date. That gives you something to look forward to.
12/16/2012
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I had one and didn't like it
Originally posted by
JessieDawg
Just to see how people view them.
12/16/2012
I'm not a fan, I probably wouldn't do it again unless it was easy and guaranteed that I could spend time with the person IRL.
12/16/2012
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both ldr i was in failed or almost failed.
Originally posted by
JessieDawg
Just to see how people view them.
12/17/2012
I'm in one. Five years but we are having some issues with him and him not showing that he cares for me too much. I went to see him last summer and he was just the opposite of everything he said he would be and he didn't "wow" and surprise me like he said he would. The reality and expectations were miles different and he talked the experience up a lot. But I think we will make it pass this if he works to make this relationship work.
They do take a lot of trust and understanding. I got in one when I was 14, so he is all I've ever wanted and known but I think people with trust issues and all that other stuff can't handle it. People who like being a free bird and all that stuff. Also, I think it goes without saying that people who want "open relationships" and all that stuff should stay away from them. If you want to fuck and be independent then it's really not worth the extra effort.
I think the biggest shift will come when we move in together and all that stuff. We've only been together for two week time periods but you really learn about someone when you live with them.
They do take a lot of trust and understanding. I got in one when I was 14, so he is all I've ever wanted and known but I think people with trust issues and all that other stuff can't handle it. People who like being a free bird and all that stuff. Also, I think it goes without saying that people who want "open relationships" and all that stuff should stay away from them. If you want to fuck and be independent then it's really not worth the extra effort.
I think the biggest shift will come when we move in together and all that stuff. We've only been together for two week time periods but you really learn about someone when you live with them.
12/17/2012
I couldnt
12/17/2012
I just got out of one, and I personally didn't mind the distance as much, but he definitely did and it hurt him too much to stay.
12/17/2012
I'm in college so we're apart most of the time with a travel time of about 2-3 hours. We see each other maybe 2-3 times a month for 2ish days each time so we see each other pretty often for an LDR but I hate it I'd rather us be close but not much you can do
01/25/2013
My partner and i have been in a "long distance" relationship since we started dating almost three years ago, and i dont mind it so much, although we're only a three hour drive from one an other. it has it cons, like not being able to be physically there for one an other when something bad happens or doing little things like surprising them with lunch at work. My partner and i talk daily and it helps, and we see each other when we can usually for an extended amount of time (4-7+ days). Some days are harder than others, but they're well worth it.
01/26/2013
i'm in one, and i'm happy. but not everybody can do it
01/26/2013
It's awful.
05/02/2013
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