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Is it ok to stay friends with ur ex's?

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Contributor: Mlee Mlee
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Originally posted by southernhawtie
So who here thinks its ok to stay friends with ur ex's?? And if u think it's ok how has it affected ur life (relationship wise)??
I am still friends with one of my ex's that is my best friend. He lived with me and my current boyfriend for a year and help raise our son. There is no tension or anything between any of us
01/25/2011
Contributor: MattBryant MattBryant
i'm on good terms, dare i say good friends with all of my exes (that actually led to a fun hookup with one of them before my fiance and i started dating exclusively.. so yes never burn a bridge!), and i'm friends with one or two past hookups. i don't see a problem if they don't interfere with you're SO. i know my fiance is friends with some of her exes or past hookups. doesn't bother me. its in the past. i'm more focused on the present and the future
01/26/2011
Contributor: BadassFatass BadassFatass
I am at least on good terms, if not friends with most of my ex's. I don't really see a reason not to be unless they treated me horribly or something. Just because a relationship didn't work with a person doesn't mean I can't still value them as a friend. I have had other people I've dated be bothered by the fact that I'm still friend's with ex's. The way I see it though is that if they can't accept me and my life then they aren't worth my time.
01/26/2011
Contributor: Valentinka Valentinka
Never worked for me
02/02/2011
Contributor: Mistress M. Mistress M.
I think its alright to stay friends with your ex's as long as there isn't any feelings left there. Though, for me to say that I guess I'm a hypocrite, because I have issues with my boyfriend talking to his ex Fiancee'.
02/03/2011
Contributor: Kaltir Kaltir
It it to an extent. If you're s/o isn't happy, it's not worth it. And if you are with someone, you shouldn't be hanging out with any ex where it's just the two of you or anything close to it. Be respectful.
02/09/2011
Contributor: slynch slynch
If it wasn't for the kids, I would never had any contact with my ex-wife after the divorce.
03/05/2011
Contributor: Alyxx Alyxx
My last ex didn't like me talking to any exes, let alone being friends with them. The current boyfriend doesn't mind that I'm really good friends with one (the boyfriend thinks he's pretty awesome, and the relationship was sort of casual to begin with, in some ways at least) and that I still talk to another one. It's nice being with someone who feels secure in the relationship instead of seeing everything as a threat and a cause for jealousy.
03/06/2011
Contributor: Happy Camper Happy Camper
I think that immediately after a break up, space should be established. I find that I need at least two months of little to no contact with the ex until I can come back to see them with my head clear. After initial awkwardness, we usually find a way to go back to that place where we can be good friends. I had one ex who was so persistent in wanting to get back together, that I had to try and limit the time I spent around him. But we were still friends. Just slightly distances for our own wellbeing.
03/06/2011
Contributor: boredbi69 boredbi69
My boyfriend doesn't like it. I don't care. One ex is one of my best friends, and they hate each other (never mind the fact that I've been with the current bf for over 6 years).
03/10/2011
Contributor: EJ EJ
I think it's okay to stay friends with your ex, and if there are children involved it's actually preferable UNLESS the ex is someone intent on creating trouble in your relationship.
08/06/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
It depends. In my situation, my exes are exes for a reason and there's no way I could remain friends them. If we had children (which we don't) I'd try my best but I think my best would hover between silent disdain and being cordial because I have to be.
08/06/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
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Originally posted by UnknownGirl
In my experience, when you stay friends one person eventually wants to get back together. So, no, I don't tend to stay friends with exs.
Yeah, this is my experience as well. It has a tendency to get messy, so I tend to avoid it and not stay friends with exes.
08/06/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
i don't really talk to my exes to be honest. but i don't mind saying hi to them once in a while
08/06/2011
Contributor: beachluv51800 beachluv51800
Quote:
Originally posted by southernhawtie
So who here thinks its ok to stay friends with ur ex's?? And if u think it's ok how has it affected ur life (relationship wise)??
I don't think it would work...there is always some jealousy to come up one way or the other
08/08/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by southernhawtie
So who here thinks its ok to stay friends with ur ex's?? And if u think it's ok how has it affected ur life (relationship wise)??
for me it takes time afterwards to really be 'friends' without many emotions getting in the way. but there will always be some strangeness there.


08/08/2011
Contributor: daveysgirl daveysgirl
NO, just causes issues! Unless you have children together there is no reason to be friends.
08/09/2011
Contributor: Starkiller87 Starkiller87
I talk to two of my exs. One who was my first bf and that was 10 years ago that we dated. And we dont talk often just say something occasionally. And the other I dated right before my current boyfriend. And things just ended amicably so theres no issue. My boyfriend doesnt care because he knows nothing would ever ever happen again. I know nothing would ever happen we broke up for a reason. We always made better friends anyways, we play well off each others humor.
08/09/2011
Contributor: SassySam SassySam
I think so, as long as your both completely ok with it being over.
02/14/2013
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
As long as you're both okay and it doesn't cause either one of you emotional pain, it's good
02/14/2013