We would have to discuss why she would want to get rid of toys that bring so much pleasure.
If They Asked?
02/03/2012
I feel like there are some things that are unreasonable for someone to ask their partner, giving up on toys being one of them. The kind of person that would demand this I doubt would be the kind I could compromise with.
02/03/2012
compromise is everything in a relationship. If he had a good reason like it was affecting my relationships and giving them up was the only solution of corse I would.
03/09/2012
My boyfriend wouldn't ask me to. He's a teenage guy he thinks it's kinky.
03/12/2012
I would.
03/15/2012
A compromise would probably lead to the best solution unless they won't budge for any reason.
03/16/2012
Probably a compromise since I think we both have too much stuff anyways.
03/16/2012
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First I'd have to pick myself up off the floor...it would be a nasty surprise if either of my partners asked me to get rid of my toys. Now they have asked me to weed through them and get rid of some of the unused ones.
Originally posted by
Kaltir
If your partnered asked you to get rid of yours toys, would you? Feel free to elaborate.
We would find a compromise, however, as both of them know how hard I have worked to buy each toy I own. I wouldn't let whatever nasty thought crept into their brains about my toys dictate whether I kept them though.
03/16/2012
Hell no. I can't think of a single non-petty reason why their wants should win out over my need for the pleasure they provide. I make sure that my partners like toys though.
03/16/2012
In the past, I have had 2 different partners who wanted me to get rid of my toys. Both had the same reason. They both felt that they should satisfy me enough that I would not need the toys. I felt in both relationships that they did not put in the effort they should have to try to satisfy me. If they had, I would have been willing to make some sort of compromise, but both men were very selfish.
Strangely enough, both the men decided to get rid of the toys themselves after our talks about it. The 1st one to do this got rid of my whole collection while I was at work. I never got a one back. He had no right. The relationship ended with me throwing him out of my home. The second man evidently just hid them from me because he wound up giving them back to me after he saw my unhappiness at what he had done.
In both cases it was ultimately their male ego that refused to face the fact that their "wonderful penises" and wham bam thank you mam approach to "satisfying" me were not enough.
I have not had a serious partner or relationship now for 10 years, mostly because I will no longer "settle" for a man who is not willing to put his all into a REAL relationship with me sexual and otherwise. I do not have to worry about this problem at this time, but thought I'd try to shed some light on why a partner would possibly try to make you give up your toys.
Strangely enough, both the men decided to get rid of the toys themselves after our talks about it. The 1st one to do this got rid of my whole collection while I was at work. I never got a one back. He had no right. The relationship ended with me throwing him out of my home. The second man evidently just hid them from me because he wound up giving them back to me after he saw my unhappiness at what he had done.
In both cases it was ultimately their male ego that refused to face the fact that their "wonderful penises" and wham bam thank you mam approach to "satisfying" me were not enough.
I have not had a serious partner or relationship now for 10 years, mostly because I will no longer "settle" for a man who is not willing to put his all into a REAL relationship with me sexual and otherwise. I do not have to worry about this problem at this time, but thought I'd try to shed some light on why a partner would possibly try to make you give up your toys.
03/16/2012
I doubt that such a situation would ever arise, but if it did, I'd probably be willing to part with the majority. But, I'd want to keep a couple.
03/16/2012
That probably wouldn't happen. I would involve them.
03/18/2012
I don't have a dire need for my toys I have them to spice things up here and there so I would get rid of mine, if he asked but if he told me I'd keep all of them and add more bottom line!
10/29/2012
It would be very surprising.
11/10/2012
Depends why, and it better be worth it.
11/10/2012
I'd try to compromise, but it really depends on why. Like, if it's an out of control collection that we don't have space for that's fine. But if it's insecurity that's something we would need to discuss. And if it's pure disdain and disgust for them or whatever then I'm not sure we'll work out.
11/10/2012
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I'm not sure why a partner would ask that, but I think if they were doing it to be controlling or out of insecurity there would be an issue.
Originally posted by
Kaltir
If your partnered asked you to get rid of yours toys, would you? Feel free to elaborate.
11/10/2012
We do have a lot of toys and other things (thanks EF!) so I could definitely see reducing our inventory...especially if it was to make room for more. My husband was the one who introduced me to EF so I don't see him asking me to get rid of toys anytime soon. However, there are some that we don't use but haven't wanted to actually part with yet.
11/12/2012
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same here...knowing their reasoning can make a really big difference and is good to talk openly
Originally posted by
potstickers
I agree with this.
11/12/2012
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Compromise would be the way to go.
Originally posted by
Kaltir
If your partnered asked you to get rid of yours toys, would you? Feel free to elaborate.
11/12/2012
I'd try to make a compromise but at the end of the day my toys are my toys.
11/12/2012
I think in a relationship both parties have to be happy. If you give up something you are very happy with then you become unhappy. Where does that leave the two of you then. Compromise can always be reached.
11/12/2012
Honestly, there's no way I would agree to that. I'm normally all for compromise but after compromising SO much of myself in my last relationship, I refuse to compromise on something like my personal property, especially when it's probably just insecurity on his part. We'll work on his issues rather than throw away my toys.
11/12/2012
wouldnt happen in my relationship BUT if it did there would be a LOT of discussion and darn good reasons, but if it came down to him or the toys he'd win every time
11/12/2012
I chose other because it would truly depend on his reason behind it. If they were somehow making him feel like he wasn't good enough, than it's something I would consider. The last thing I want to do is have my husband feel like he's not good enough for me. Some things would be difficult, but I would get rid of them all if he wasn't feeling good enough about himself.
If it was for another reason; thinking that it's becoming a collection, I have too many, etc. I might weed through them (which I do every few months any way) and get rid of some, but the ones I use the most, I wouldn't part with.
If it was for another reason; thinking that it's becoming a collection, I have too many, etc. I might weed through them (which I do every few months any way) and get rid of some, but the ones I use the most, I wouldn't part with.
11/12/2012
hell no, really? should try your best to include them in the toy play hopefully they will be more understanding about toy uses show they are not a replacement of them but a bonus to the sexual experience
11/12/2012
If my partner had a good reason, I would consider it. I would try to work out a compromise. Fortunately, my partner enjoys my toys.
11/12/2012
Kind of a cop out answer, but... I can't quite imagine my partner doing that.
11/18/2012
I'd have to talk to my partner and figure out WHY he wanted me to get rid of them and decide from there.
11/19/2012
id try to come up with a comprimise
12/01/2012