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Contributor: Tuesday Tuesday
Quote:
Originally posted by Tuesday
No one should ask their partner to part with something they care about if its unhealthy. I would object if my husband asked for this. I would take it as a sign that he doesn't care about me or my happiness.
Oops. I meant 'unless its unhealthy.'
03/05/2011
Contributor: Stephanie Marie Stephanie Marie
No I wouldn't.
03/05/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
I'd be curious why, my SO currently doesn't mind them, and I'd be unsure what changed between us.
03/05/2011
Contributor: beautifulpierced beautifulpierced
the reasoning behind it would have a lot to do with it, but i doubt my husband would ever ask for that... our toys we share and use have helped us learn and understand each other better we both enjoy them equally!! and there's just some of my toys im not willing to give up, if there's one Ive had a mind blowing orgasm using than there's no way im getting rid of it!!!
03/05/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
My husband would never ask me to do that. He is usually the one who talks me into them.

However, if he asked me to toss then all (especially my Hitachi and Pure Wand), he'd better have a damn good reason, like there was a new study proving toy play caused cancer or something.
03/05/2011
Contributor: Alyxx Alyxx
I had an ex that didn't like me getting stuff like rabbit vibes, he thought he'd be 'replaced.' But as long as he got to use them on me or watch from time to time he was mostly ok with it. Not that he ever really wanted to do either... But I find the idea of 'replacing' a flesh and blood partner with toys pretty offensive, it's not like I'd ask him to stop masturbating (not that this one even did that much). I'd understand someone not wanting me to get more for some reason, but to get rid of ones I had already spent money on? Hell no. Maybe to hide them away or something, but to toss them? No.
03/06/2011
Contributor: A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople)
I can't imagine the situation where my partner intrudes so much on my personal life. I'm very protective of my lifestyle choices and wouldn't date a person like that.
03/06/2011
Contributor: jfree jfree
I'd attempt to ask what was their reason, but in the end, I wouldn't (unless I've been wanting to get rid of them.) I like what I like, come now.
03/06/2011
Contributor: RedGoddess RedGoddess
why would he? lol
My man loves our toy collection, and some are his too! He wouldn't ask me
03/07/2011
Contributor: al16 al16
It depends if the reason for getting rid of the toys is because they feel threatend by them, or why specifically.
03/08/2011
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
Although my guy is still a bit apprehensive about my toys, he would never ask me to get rid of them.

If he did, I would seek a compramise, where by I am aloud to keep a select essential few, and that if these break I could get a replacement.
03/08/2011
Contributor: cobiffle cobiffle
It would really depend, some I would be okay with but some no. I am glad my girl is getting into them
03/08/2011
Contributor: lezergirl lezergirl
if they were a legit problem to her of course I'd get rid of them... I don't use them for personal time anyway, so she's the only one missing out!
03/08/2011
Contributor: IrishLassie IrishLassie
I think i would be able to get rid of any vibrators or dildos but I know my husband wouldnt ask me to get rid any toys for kinkier play. He likes them too much. But luckily for me, my husband likes having the toys so I dont have to worry about it.
03/10/2011
Contributor: gone77 gone77
It would depend on why they wanted me to. There would be a LONG talk about it. lol
03/10/2011
Contributor: AngelicaU AngelicaU
I put other like another person did because I have a similar response. My boyfriend wanted me to get a toy. There's some toys he doesn't see the point in me getting, like a dildo. Why get one when I could have the real thing. But he'd never say "get rid of it" sometimes it's nice for him to sit back and watch me do it on my own even though he eventually wants it for himself anyway haha. I guess if I became obsessed with new toys and spent all my money on them he would say I need to calm down and stop for a bit but that'd be understandable. Other than that I think he wants me to get them just as much as I do.
03/11/2011
Contributor: PussyGalore PussyGalore
Ultimately, it boils down to the reason they are asking me to get rid of them.
03/11/2011
Contributor: girl next door girl next door
Most of the guys that I have been with like that I have toys, so it has never been a problem. But, I would be willing to compromise, if my bf ever asked. But I would not get rid of all of them.
03/11/2011
Contributor: Xavier7 Xavier7
Quote:
Originally posted by Kaltir
If your partnered asked you to get rid of yours toys, would you? Feel free to elaborate.
I'd "edit" our toybox. But I couldn't do all.
03/11/2011
Contributor: guy4guyz420 guy4guyz420
I would not get rid of my toys unless i choose to.
03/11/2011
Contributor: Bunnycups Bunnycups
I agree with Tuesday. I think that if your partner asks you to get rid of your sex toys he is more concerned with himself and his insecurities than having a healthy and happy sex positive relationship. The only way I could understand someone asking their partner to give up their sex toys is if someone consistently chose their sex toys over their partner.
03/11/2011
Contributor: Mr.RightNow Mr.RightNow
compromise
03/12/2011
Contributor: Ajax Ajax
I would just say no. He would never give up his video games if I asked him too so I don't feel the need to give up the things I enjoy.
03/12/2011
Contributor: Mr. E Mr. E
There was actually a time years ago, when we did dispose of most all or our sex toys. They were all crappy rubber and jelly toys. Once we realized that she was having bad reactions after using them, it was an easy decision to get rid of them.

Then something happened. We discovered silicone. The rest is history. We quickly built quite an arsenal of toys. We use them quite regularly. They have greatly enhanced and heightened our sex. We will never get rid of them. Never!
03/14/2011
Contributor: beautiful beautiful
If he didn't want me having them anymore, of course I would. The real thing is better anyways.
03/22/2011
Contributor: skunked skunked
I could never part with certain toys, especially given their cost.
03/22/2011
Contributor: tickle me pink tickle me pink
Unless there was a really good reason, then no way!
03/22/2011
Contributor: Collodion Collodion
Quote:
Originally posted by toxie m
I could pare down the collection, but there's no way I'd get rid of them altogether. He'd never ask, though. He likes them
This.

The only way I could see him asking would be if my toys were taking over the bedroom...
03/23/2011
Contributor: tffnyandrs tffnyandrs
Depends on the reason! There would obviously be something wrong and lets face it, it's not about the toys! This is where communication is key!!!
03/24/2011
Contributor: jaimijacklin jaimijacklin
For every 1 I have to get rid of, that's a pair of shoes he gets to buy me!
03/24/2011