I wouldn't limit myself, but i don't think i would actively look, either.
How Long Til You Move On?
10/27/2011
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Sounds like that girl has been listening to some pop psychologists who makes that kind of fucked up recommendation. Life is way too short to wait somebody else's proscribed period of time before doing what one wants.
Originally posted by
~LaUr3n~
I met someone the other day that set a time limit on herself. Basically, this girl dated a guy for 6 years. They were high school sweet hearts and broke up a few months ago. When I told her I knew a guy I thought would be perfect for her, she turned
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I met someone the other day that set a time limit on herself. Basically, this girl dated a guy for 6 years. They were high school sweet hearts and broke up a few months ago. When I told her I knew a guy I thought would be perfect for her, she turned me down saying she wasn't going to date til it had been a year, even though her and the ex have no future.
Would you ever do this? Would you ever set a limit like this?
For me, even after my longest relationship, I figured I wasted enough years of my life with the last loser, why wait to find a much better person and be happy? I am so glad I did. I did set a time frame for myself for sex, but not for dating and considering new people. I started officially dating a guy two months after.
I feel like this girl is missing out! Not limiting myself is the best thing I could have done. I was happy so much quicker than I though I'd be. Happier than I had been even.
What do you think? What makes this a good choice or a bad choice? Have you done it and regretted it? Wish you had? jumped in too quick? Etc. less
Would you ever do this? Would you ever set a limit like this?
For me, even after my longest relationship, I figured I wasted enough years of my life with the last loser, why wait to find a much better person and be happy? I am so glad I did. I did set a time frame for myself for sex, but not for dating and considering new people. I started officially dating a guy two months after.
I feel like this girl is missing out! Not limiting myself is the best thing I could have done. I was happy so much quicker than I though I'd be. Happier than I had been even.
What do you think? What makes this a good choice or a bad choice? Have you done it and regretted it? Wish you had? jumped in too quick? Etc. less
10/29/2011
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No time limit.
Originally posted by
~LaUr3n~
I met someone the other day that set a time limit on herself. Basically, this girl dated a guy for 6 years. They were high school sweet hearts and broke up a few months ago. When I told her I knew a guy I thought would be perfect for her, she turned
...
more
I met someone the other day that set a time limit on herself. Basically, this girl dated a guy for 6 years. They were high school sweet hearts and broke up a few months ago. When I told her I knew a guy I thought would be perfect for her, she turned me down saying she wasn't going to date til it had been a year, even though her and the ex have no future.
Would you ever do this? Would you ever set a limit like this?
For me, even after my longest relationship, I figured I wasted enough years of my life with the last loser, why wait to find a much better person and be happy? I am so glad I did. I did set a time frame for myself for sex, but not for dating and considering new people. I started officially dating a guy two months after.
I feel like this girl is missing out! Not limiting myself is the best thing I could have done. I was happy so much quicker than I though I'd be. Happier than I had been even.
What do you think? What makes this a good choice or a bad choice? Have you done it and regretted it? Wish you had? jumped in too quick? Etc. less
Would you ever do this? Would you ever set a limit like this?
For me, even after my longest relationship, I figured I wasted enough years of my life with the last loser, why wait to find a much better person and be happy? I am so glad I did. I did set a time frame for myself for sex, but not for dating and considering new people. I started officially dating a guy two months after.
I feel like this girl is missing out! Not limiting myself is the best thing I could have done. I was happy so much quicker than I though I'd be. Happier than I had been even.
What do you think? What makes this a good choice or a bad choice? Have you done it and regretted it? Wish you had? jumped in too quick? Etc. less
10/30/2011
I have never set a limit, but I think I might in the future. I have been in steady relationships for 4 straight years now, and I'm only 20. :/
10/30/2011
sometimes you need time to recover, to rediscover yourself as a person and not as a couple.
11/07/2011
You only live once! Why wait?
11/07/2011
It's up to each person. Personally, I am in the middle of the worst breakup of my life right now (we still love each other), but I'd like to focus on myself, my happiness, and working through therapy to figure out why I have never had a good romantic relationship and how to change that in the future. I don't need to worry about getting into another relationship for awhile, because I'm worried that until I work on these issues, I'll fall right back into another bad one. Dating (possibly, casual only) or sex are still on the agenda though...
11/07/2011
I think there should be an "Other" option. I don't think I would set myself a specific date or time frame ("one year", one month, etc). It just doesn't seem like something you can set a date to, you never know what will happen. I also think it depends on the relationship. I was with one person for several years, and though I did not think I was ready or interested in another relationship in the months after, I WAS interested in sex. The person that I hooked up with after that, I ended up in a relationship with! You never can tell with these things, you never know what will happen.
11/07/2011
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A prescribed period of time. Yes! that is what I really find fault with in this.
Originally posted by
RonLee
Sounds like that girl has been listening to some pop psychologists who makes that kind of fucked up recommendation. Life is way too short to wait somebody else's proscribed period of time before doing what one wants.
11/07/2011
I started dating immediately after a huge break up with my first love-
and I don't regret it.
Of course, everyone is different.
If she's for some reason holding out fir this ex of hers, then there's a problem. But if she's just giving herself time to get to know who she really is, then that is perfectly healthy, in fact, most women I know would encourage it. If they dated in high school through the present, she should certainly give herself some time to figure out who she is as a person.
and I don't regret it.
Of course, everyone is different.
If she's for some reason holding out fir this ex of hers, then there's a problem. But if she's just giving herself time to get to know who she really is, then that is perfectly healthy, in fact, most women I know would encourage it. If they dated in high school through the present, she should certainly give herself some time to figure out who she is as a person.
11/09/2011
When we're with someone for so long and from such a young age, we subconsciously change/hold ourselves back/grow in different ways from other women who did not/have not had that constant influence on us.
11/09/2011
After a breakup, I'm not actively out looking for someone new, but I wouldn't turn down a date or set a time limit.
01/29/2012
I think some extra time can be good, if you jump in to fast and are still hurt by the last guy, then you can merge him into the next person your dating, so you have to be careful
01/31/2012
I crave that closeness you get with having a partner. After I got out of a joke of a 4yr relationship that went on far longer than it should have I put myself back out there after a few days. Though I was'nt happy with my ex it still hurts and is scary to me to be single again after so long. I met a few losers going out with my friends that just wanted to try to get in my pants but I met my fiance 3 months later through a friend on myspace and found out he only lived 5mins away from me! I was weary to trust and fall for someone but I'm a hopeless romantic so I took the risk. But everyone is cdifferent and we deal with breakups differently. I love love and the bond, affection and sexual closeness so was'nt going to let this one slip by when we hit it off the first might we met in person.
01/31/2012
Lifes to short. Few months max
01/31/2012
I'd never set a limit on myself.
01/31/2012
i agree
01/31/2012
I've never been single for more than a month or two. After a breakup, I don't sit around and mope, I got out and live it up!
03/13/2012
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I don't set limits. What if I missed out on something great just because someone was too scared to set me up based on my limit?
Originally posted by
~LaUr3n~
I met someone the other day that set a time limit on herself. Basically, this girl dated a guy for 6 years. They were high school sweet hearts and broke up a few months ago. When I told her I knew a guy I thought would be perfect for her, she turned
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more
I met someone the other day that set a time limit on herself. Basically, this girl dated a guy for 6 years. They were high school sweet hearts and broke up a few months ago. When I told her I knew a guy I thought would be perfect for her, she turned me down saying she wasn't going to date til it had been a year, even though her and the ex have no future.
Would you ever do this? Would you ever set a limit like this?
For me, even after my longest relationship, I figured I wasted enough years of my life with the last loser, why wait to find a much better person and be happy? I am so glad I did. I did set a time frame for myself for sex, but not for dating and considering new people. I started officially dating a guy two months after.
I feel like this girl is missing out! Not limiting myself is the best thing I could have done. I was happy so much quicker than I though I'd be. Happier than I had been even.
What do you think? What makes this a good choice or a bad choice? Have you done it and regretted it? Wish you had? jumped in too quick? Etc. less
Would you ever do this? Would you ever set a limit like this?
For me, even after my longest relationship, I figured I wasted enough years of my life with the last loser, why wait to find a much better person and be happy? I am so glad I did. I did set a time frame for myself for sex, but not for dating and considering new people. I started officially dating a guy two months after.
I feel like this girl is missing out! Not limiting myself is the best thing I could have done. I was happy so much quicker than I though I'd be. Happier than I had been even.
What do you think? What makes this a good choice or a bad choice? Have you done it and regretted it? Wish you had? jumped in too quick? Etc. less
06/03/2012
wait until im fully ready
07/29/2012
It depends much more on how I'm feeling than the amount of time. Some break ups take a while to recover from, and some don't take as long.
10/14/2012
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I would never limit myself
Originally posted by
~LaUr3n~
I met someone the other day that set a time limit on herself. Basically, this girl dated a guy for 6 years. They were high school sweet hearts and broke up a few months ago. When I told her I knew a guy I thought would be perfect for her, she turned
...
more
I met someone the other day that set a time limit on herself. Basically, this girl dated a guy for 6 years. They were high school sweet hearts and broke up a few months ago. When I told her I knew a guy I thought would be perfect for her, she turned me down saying she wasn't going to date til it had been a year, even though her and the ex have no future.
Would you ever do this? Would you ever set a limit like this?
For me, even after my longest relationship, I figured I wasted enough years of my life with the last loser, why wait to find a much better person and be happy? I am so glad I did. I did set a time frame for myself for sex, but not for dating and considering new people. I started officially dating a guy two months after.
I feel like this girl is missing out! Not limiting myself is the best thing I could have done. I was happy so much quicker than I though I'd be. Happier than I had been even.
What do you think? What makes this a good choice or a bad choice? Have you done it and regretted it? Wish you had? jumped in too quick? Etc. less
Would you ever do this? Would you ever set a limit like this?
For me, even after my longest relationship, I figured I wasted enough years of my life with the last loser, why wait to find a much better person and be happy? I am so glad I did. I did set a time frame for myself for sex, but not for dating and considering new people. I started officially dating a guy two months after.
I feel like this girl is missing out! Not limiting myself is the best thing I could have done. I was happy so much quicker than I though I'd be. Happier than I had been even.
What do you think? What makes this a good choice or a bad choice? Have you done it and regretted it? Wish you had? jumped in too quick? Etc. less
10/25/2012
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Sometimes it takes me years...
Originally posted by
~LaUr3n~
I met someone the other day that set a time limit on herself. Basically, this girl dated a guy for 6 years. They were high school sweet hearts and broke up a few months ago. When I told her I knew a guy I thought would be perfect for her, she turned
...
more
I met someone the other day that set a time limit on herself. Basically, this girl dated a guy for 6 years. They were high school sweet hearts and broke up a few months ago. When I told her I knew a guy I thought would be perfect for her, she turned me down saying she wasn't going to date til it had been a year, even though her and the ex have no future.
Would you ever do this? Would you ever set a limit like this?
For me, even after my longest relationship, I figured I wasted enough years of my life with the last loser, why wait to find a much better person and be happy? I am so glad I did. I did set a time frame for myself for sex, but not for dating and considering new people. I started officially dating a guy two months after.
I feel like this girl is missing out! Not limiting myself is the best thing I could have done. I was happy so much quicker than I though I'd be. Happier than I had been even.
What do you think? What makes this a good choice or a bad choice? Have you done it and regretted it? Wish you had? jumped in too quick? Etc. less
Would you ever do this? Would you ever set a limit like this?
For me, even after my longest relationship, I figured I wasted enough years of my life with the last loser, why wait to find a much better person and be happy? I am so glad I did. I did set a time frame for myself for sex, but not for dating and considering new people. I started officially dating a guy two months after.
I feel like this girl is missing out! Not limiting myself is the best thing I could have done. I was happy so much quicker than I though I'd be. Happier than I had been even.
What do you think? What makes this a good choice or a bad choice? Have you done it and regretted it? Wish you had? jumped in too quick? Etc. less
11/06/2012
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Thanks for the tip.
Originally posted by
- Kira -
I dated a guy for about a year that I thought I was in love with. He was emotionally abuse, cheated on me, and broke my heart. When we broke up I dated someone new a few months after even though I really wasn't over him. I figured the best way to
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I dated a guy for about a year that I thought I was in love with. He was emotionally abuse, cheated on me, and broke my heart. When we broke up I dated someone new a few months after even though I really wasn't over him. I figured the best way to start to get over him was to move on with my life. It ended up not working out with the next guy. We weren't a good fit together. I think dating other guys helped me to not sit around and mope about the previous relationship and how hurt I was. It took me about a year to really get over that bad relationship but I did date during that time. I wouldn't set a limit on "I won't date for X period."
In another circumstance, when I was younger I broke up with one of my first boyfriends and said I wouldn't date until I figured out what I was looking for in a guy. That didn't work out because I because so desperate for sex I ended up dating whatever loser I could find after about eight months.
So, yeah, I don't know that time limits work out so so well. less
In another circumstance, when I was younger I broke up with one of my first boyfriends and said I wouldn't date until I figured out what I was looking for in a guy. That didn't work out because I because so desperate for sex I ended up dating whatever loser I could find after about eight months.
So, yeah, I don't know that time limits work out so so well. less
11/06/2012
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