I think making love stay is hard work, relationships don't just happen. However, I think if love isn't meant to be it isn't going to stay no matter how hard you work.
how do you make love stay?
11/02/2012
It stays around if it's meant to be.
11/02/2012
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You have to keep things intresting and spicy. However if its meant to be it will definetely be, but love can be forced, it has to be wanted on both ends. One person cant hold up a relationship.
Originally posted by
aliceinthehole
is it possible to prolong that state of being 'in love?'
or will it stay as long or as fleetingly as it wishes?
how do you know you've fallen out of love?
how do you bring the life back? can you?
or will it stay as long or as fleetingly as it wishes?
how do you know you've fallen out of love?
how do you bring the life back? can you?
11/03/2012
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Hugs.
Originally posted by
aliceinthehole
what! no magic formula?
shit.
i mean, i honestly believe that loving someone and being 'in love' with someone are two different things. you can love someone forever but how the hell does that passionate, energetic ... more
shit.
i mean, i honestly believe that loving someone and being 'in love' with someone are two different things. you can love someone forever but how the hell does that passionate, energetic ... more
what! no magic formula?
shit.
i mean, i honestly believe that loving someone and being 'in love' with someone are two different things. you can love someone forever but how the hell does that passionate, energetic feeling stick around?
lately we've just been so fucking blah. i feel like together we turn into a mush of laziness. apart for a few days and i'm a different person. i create, i move, i act, i react. together i am often stuck in my bed when we're not together, napping away the sunshining hours til we can be together again, or until i go to work and am obligated to do something else. it's pathetic.
we've tried a 'break' and it worked... for a short time. now it's back to the old grind. god i love him. but are we good for eachother? can we be?
fuck this is hard. less
shit.
i mean, i honestly believe that loving someone and being 'in love' with someone are two different things. you can love someone forever but how the hell does that passionate, energetic feeling stick around?
lately we've just been so fucking blah. i feel like together we turn into a mush of laziness. apart for a few days and i'm a different person. i create, i move, i act, i react. together i am often stuck in my bed when we're not together, napping away the sunshining hours til we can be together again, or until i go to work and am obligated to do something else. it's pathetic.
we've tried a 'break' and it worked... for a short time. now it's back to the old grind. god i love him. but are we good for eachother? can we be?
fuck this is hard. less
11/03/2012
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I love this response. I'm not sure how I feel about a triad.
Originally posted by
Ansley
My husband and I are constantly reminding each other that we are the exception, not the rule. We really, really like each other. Like a lot, a lot.
Sure, we get on each other's nerves and have the occasional "did you really just say ... more
Sure, we get on each other's nerves and have the occasional "did you really just say ... more
My husband and I are constantly reminding each other that we are the exception, not the rule. We really, really like each other. Like a lot, a lot.
Sure, we get on each other's nerves and have the occasional "did you really just say that" moment, but we're willing to look past it all and remember why we work so well together. Could I find someone to match me the way he does? Probability laws state it must be true. Do I want to even remotely think about it? Absolutely not!
I think the reason our relationship works so well and why we're still in love after all of these years is the simple and pure fact that we did it backwards. All of those bad things that people fear will destroy their relationship, we did them in the beginning. There was even a triad in there at one point in time.
Scientists say that being in love and the feeling of being in love has a honeymoon stage and that it will eventually go away. I don't believe that. I think in a lot of cases people are far too quick to settle down in a relationship because it works in the moment, but they don't really consider the scope of a longterm committment. They were in lust, not love and that's why the relationship fails. You have to be willing to grow and change with the relationship and if that doesn't happen, then there's nowhere left to go in the end and the relationship stagnates. less
Sure, we get on each other's nerves and have the occasional "did you really just say that" moment, but we're willing to look past it all and remember why we work so well together. Could I find someone to match me the way he does? Probability laws state it must be true. Do I want to even remotely think about it? Absolutely not!
I think the reason our relationship works so well and why we're still in love after all of these years is the simple and pure fact that we did it backwards. All of those bad things that people fear will destroy their relationship, we did them in the beginning. There was even a triad in there at one point in time.
Scientists say that being in love and the feeling of being in love has a honeymoon stage and that it will eventually go away. I don't believe that. I think in a lot of cases people are far too quick to settle down in a relationship because it works in the moment, but they don't really consider the scope of a longterm committment. They were in lust, not love and that's why the relationship fails. You have to be willing to grow and change with the relationship and if that doesn't happen, then there's nowhere left to go in the end and the relationship stagnates. less
11/03/2012
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=)Stories like these give me hope.
Originally posted by
P'Gell
That "passionate energy" is going to ebb and flow. Sometimes you can't wait to tear each other clothes off and fuck like monkeys and then lie there in each others arms several times a day, other times, you just barely say
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That "passionate energy" is going to ebb and flow. Sometimes you can't wait to tear each other clothes off and fuck like monkeys and then lie there in each others arms several times a day, other times, you just barely say "Hi." when you pass each other in the hall way, during dinner or even in the bed.
It isn't a static thing. Love is alive, it evolves, devolves, moves, and changes. It's dynamic and it also takes a lot of work. You can't make someone love you, I think you know that, but sometimes you are in a slump, it happens.
We've fucked our way out of slumps, sometimes that works, sometimes it doesn't. Sometimes talking helps, sometimes one of you just want to shout "For the Love of G*d, Stop talking!" Sometimes you have to work on yourself more than on your lover, and sometimes you have to know when to lie low. After more than 20 years togehter we still don't always get it right, but we must be on the right track, or we wouldn't have been together, falling out and back into love again for decades. It IS possible, but you both have to be committed to working, trying, loving and knowing when to hold back a little, or a lot.
I know, that wasn't really specific, but I think if the two of you are really in love and desire the commitment and the long term crap that comes with being together forever, it works out with work, a lot of sex, and knowing when to shut up.
I don't have a smilie to end this. less
It isn't a static thing. Love is alive, it evolves, devolves, moves, and changes. It's dynamic and it also takes a lot of work. You can't make someone love you, I think you know that, but sometimes you are in a slump, it happens.
We've fucked our way out of slumps, sometimes that works, sometimes it doesn't. Sometimes talking helps, sometimes one of you just want to shout "For the Love of G*d, Stop talking!" Sometimes you have to work on yourself more than on your lover, and sometimes you have to know when to lie low. After more than 20 years togehter we still don't always get it right, but we must be on the right track, or we wouldn't have been together, falling out and back into love again for decades. It IS possible, but you both have to be committed to working, trying, loving and knowing when to hold back a little, or a lot.
I know, that wasn't really specific, but I think if the two of you are really in love and desire the commitment and the long term crap that comes with being together forever, it works out with work, a lot of sex, and knowing when to shut up.
I don't have a smilie to end this. less
11/03/2012