It sounds to me like this is more about money issues than toy issues. I do think you need to have a very long, thorough talk with him about this. I know how it is when you don't want to fight, so you pretty much avoid the conversation. But money issues and control issues are HUGE! More marriages (relationships) have broken up over these than anything else. And avoiding them will not save your relationship. There may very well come a point where you're so fed up that you blow up and have a fight, when you could avoid that by having a calm conversation now about it. It may take more than one talk too. You two should to work out these differences calmly now. It will be worth it. less

We talked about it.

I told him how I felt bad about the comments he would make and how he shouldn't be so concerened with my purchases as I make my purchases with a lot of thought about need and about his reactions too. I told him that he might not have taken a peak at my collection in a while as although it is growing it remains pretty stable in amount as toys come and go.

He told me that he would stop making comments. He also told me that he would rather I not tell him when I get something new. I asked him what he would say if I got something new and eventually would like to try it with him and he said I would need to ask him at that point how he feels about it.

And it ended there. He didn't want to talk about it anymore. He knows that no matter what he says I will always keep the same argument so there is no point in continueing discussing the matter. He has settled in accepting how things are and will be.

Thanks for your support everyone, it really cheered me up, made me giggle at times and made me want to talk to my partner about it to resolve it. I really appreciate everyone's input and comments.

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I am pretty selective when it comes to toys. I try to choose toys that are different in texture, style, vibration, material, use, performance, etc. I try to avoid getting two or 3 or 4 of the same thing because ultimately I won't be using them all.

I routinely go through the collection to clear out the clutter of things I don't use/that doesn't work for me, give things away or recycle them. So my toy box, although filled with variety, is never actually completely full.

Everytime I get a new toy/product to review, my guy makes me feel very guilty. He asks when I'll ever have enough. He says that I would get upset with him if he had 20 hockey sticks. I feel like he doesn't understand how certain products are better than others and you just have to try things to find out. So everytime I get a new toy I have to muster up my courage to let him know. His reaction kills me every time. I don't hide things from him but the way he makes me feel sort of makes me want to stop telling him when new things come in (I have never not told him about any new toys).

He is hard on me about my toys and isn't very at ease about using them either but he won't stop me from using my toys alone or object using toys during sex.

What do you guys think? Has this happenned in your relationship? How would you deal with this? It's not an issue about him not liking my toys, it's an issue about him thinking and feeling that I have enough and should be satisfied. less