Occasionally I'll have sex with him if I don't feel like it...although once things get going, I end up wanting it.
Having sex to please your partner?
03/01/2011
We've both done it for each other. Sometimes you just need to get laid...
03/01/2011
I'm really working on this
03/02/2011
It happens on occasion. You're not always in the mood at the same time as your partner. As long as you aren't feeling forced or obligated I don't see the problem. You're doing it because you love them and want to please them. I actually tend to get in the mood after a little bit of action in these cases-because I know he's loving it.
03/02/2011
Sometimes I'm not in the mood at first, but always end up loving it
03/03/2011
I've never done it when there's no potential for me to get in the mood. Sometimes I just need a few minutes of tempting.
03/04/2011
I think it's completely normal to do this on occasion.
03/04/2011
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I have done this before. Studies actually show most women feel like it is an obligation.
Originally posted by
Naughty Student
I was just thinking about this as I was reminded of this from another discussion.
In the past I have had sex with my partner although I wasn't in the mood to do it, but did it anyways to please my partner bcs I loved him. It sort of ... more
In the past I have had sex with my partner although I wasn't in the mood to do it, but did it anyways to please my partner bcs I loved him. It sort of ... more
I was just thinking about this as I was reminded of this from another discussion.
In the past I have had sex with my partner although I wasn't in the mood to do it, but did it anyways to please my partner bcs I loved him. It sort of created a problem for us that we luckily were able to get over.
However, I am wondering how many people have done this and if it is or isn't an issue for them. less
In the past I have had sex with my partner although I wasn't in the mood to do it, but did it anyways to please my partner bcs I loved him. It sort of created a problem for us that we luckily were able to get over.
However, I am wondering how many people have done this and if it is or isn't an issue for them. less
03/05/2011
I did it with my ex a few times because i had a hard time getting into the mood for sex. I promised my current bf i wouldn't do that. He wants me to want to not do it just for him.
03/05/2011
I know what you mean... sometimes i am not in the mo0d, but i just let him do it, quickly lol, but he normally feels bad after/can telll when i am not into it as much.
Although, there are times when i start off not enjoying it, and end up loving it... so.. either or... our sex drives do not always match up- but that is for other reasons.
if it really hurts me sometimes (emotionally), we have a chat about it after, we are very ooen that way, and able to talk about things.
Although, there are times when i start off not enjoying it, and end up loving it... so.. either or... our sex drives do not always match up- but that is for other reasons.
if it really hurts me sometimes (emotionally), we have a chat about it after, we are very ooen that way, and able to talk about things.
03/07/2011
When I'm not in the mood I'll occasionally do it to be nice, plus I usually get in the mood once we've started. It hasn't been a problem so long as they don't force the issue if I do say no.
03/07/2011
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Yes, I have read about that in my Sexuality class.
Originally posted by
ichwillwaffels
I have done this before. Studies actually show most women feel like it is an obligation.
03/08/2011
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Very similar for us.
Originally posted by
RedGoddess
I know what you mean... sometimes i am not in the mo0d, but i just let him do it, quickly lol, but he normally feels bad after/can telll when i am not into it as much.
Although, there are times when i start off not enjoying it, and end up ... more
Although, there are times when i start off not enjoying it, and end up ... more
I know what you mean... sometimes i am not in the mo0d, but i just let him do it, quickly lol, but he normally feels bad after/can telll when i am not into it as much.
Although, there are times when i start off not enjoying it, and end up loving it... so.. either or... our sex drives do not always match up- but that is for other reasons.
if it really hurts me sometimes (emotionally), we have a chat about it after, we are very ooen that way, and able to talk about things. less
Although, there are times when i start off not enjoying it, and end up loving it... so.. either or... our sex drives do not always match up- but that is for other reasons.
if it really hurts me sometimes (emotionally), we have a chat about it after, we are very ooen that way, and able to talk about things. less
There are times when at first I am in the mood but as we go along, it's painful or uncomfortable and It's no longer as good or as fun and I just want him to get it over and done with, just as I may not be in the mood and doing it gets me into it.
03/08/2011
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We do it all the time for each other and then feel like crap.
Originally posted by
Naughty Student
I was just thinking about this as I was reminded of this from another discussion.
In the past I have had sex with my partner although I wasn't in the mood to do it, but did it anyways to please my partner bcs I loved him. It sort of ... more
In the past I have had sex with my partner although I wasn't in the mood to do it, but did it anyways to please my partner bcs I loved him. It sort of ... more
I was just thinking about this as I was reminded of this from another discussion.
In the past I have had sex with my partner although I wasn't in the mood to do it, but did it anyways to please my partner bcs I loved him. It sort of created a problem for us that we luckily were able to get over.
However, I am wondering how many people have done this and if it is or isn't an issue for them. less
In the past I have had sex with my partner although I wasn't in the mood to do it, but did it anyways to please my partner bcs I loved him. It sort of created a problem for us that we luckily were able to get over.
However, I am wondering how many people have done this and if it is or isn't an issue for them. less
03/13/2011
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sometimes it upsets me afterwards, and sometimes i am way more into than i thought i would be...it all depends.
Originally posted by
Naughty Student
I was just thinking about this as I was reminded of this from another discussion.
In the past I have had sex with my partner although I wasn't in the mood to do it, but did it anyways to please my partner bcs I loved him. It sort of ... more
In the past I have had sex with my partner although I wasn't in the mood to do it, but did it anyways to please my partner bcs I loved him. It sort of ... more
I was just thinking about this as I was reminded of this from another discussion.
In the past I have had sex with my partner although I wasn't in the mood to do it, but did it anyways to please my partner bcs I loved him. It sort of created a problem for us that we luckily were able to get over.
However, I am wondering how many people have done this and if it is or isn't an issue for them. less
In the past I have had sex with my partner although I wasn't in the mood to do it, but did it anyways to please my partner bcs I loved him. It sort of created a problem for us that we luckily were able to get over.
However, I am wondering how many people have done this and if it is or isn't an issue for them. less
03/14/2011
jdog76roof
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I have a woman in the same situation who never informed me of the problems in her childhood but i suffered greatly and would not do it again and still suffer as our sex life is always on her and usually i know right away when she isn't into it and it is not possible for me to go forward with this knowledge. I think it is extremely damaging to do this to a loving sexual partner and communication is the key as well as trust.
Originally posted by
soulrain
As a sexual assault survivor, I care very much about my own prerogative when it comes to sex. I used to just "do it" with former partners because I felt that what mattered most was pleasing him, even if I wasn't in the mood or even if
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As a sexual assault survivor, I care very much about my own prerogative when it comes to sex. I used to just "do it" with former partners because I felt that what mattered most was pleasing him, even if I wasn't in the mood or even if it hurt me to do it (physically or otherwise). My current partner and I have had many discussions about this. I still sometimes fall back into my bad habit of just doing it to please him. Being together for 2 years now, he can now tell if I'm not in the mood and will call me out on it. He doesn't like the idea of me doing things just to please him unless we are both in the mood, and are both going to enjoy it. Of course, I am open to him doing things to try and get me in the mood, but if I don't respond or fall out of the mood in the middle of fooling around, he won't push me.
It's a tough issue sometimes, but my partner and I have the understanding that we both enjoy it or we don't do it. I don't really like the "because I love him" excuse. Because if he really loves me, he will understand if I'm not in the mood for sex and it will be okay. less
It's a tough issue sometimes, but my partner and I have the understanding that we both enjoy it or we don't do it. I don't really like the "because I love him" excuse. Because if he really loves me, he will understand if I'm not in the mood for sex and it will be okay. less
03/20/2011
I am pretty sure this goes both ways.
03/20/2011
It happened a lot when we first started having sex because it was always painful for me, but I wanted him to be happy. Eventually it started causing problems but thankfully all has been well in the past few years.
It's happened the other way around too where I wanted it and he didn't, and I'll never do that again. Worst sex ever.
It's happened the other way around too where I wanted it and he didn't, and I'll never do that again. Worst sex ever.
03/22/2011
I am pretty sure it goes both ways, although I am sure I have done it more than she has. Until very recently I was going through a bit of a downturn in my drive, so she would want it more often than I, but since we never know when it would happen because of the kids, I would go along with it.
03/22/2011
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usually if im not in the mood , he can put me there so havent encountered this problem yet
Originally posted by
Naughty Student
I was just thinking about this as I was reminded of this from another discussion.
In the past I have had sex with my partner although I wasn't in the mood to do it, but did it anyways to please my partner bcs I loved him. It sort of ... more
In the past I have had sex with my partner although I wasn't in the mood to do it, but did it anyways to please my partner bcs I loved him. It sort of ... more
I was just thinking about this as I was reminded of this from another discussion.
In the past I have had sex with my partner although I wasn't in the mood to do it, but did it anyways to please my partner bcs I loved him. It sort of created a problem for us that we luckily were able to get over.
However, I am wondering how many people have done this and if it is or isn't an issue for them. less
In the past I have had sex with my partner although I wasn't in the mood to do it, but did it anyways to please my partner bcs I loved him. It sort of created a problem for us that we luckily were able to get over.
However, I am wondering how many people have done this and if it is or isn't an issue for them. less
03/25/2011
I have had sex with my wife when I was not really in the mood and it was not a problem for me. But I do not want my wife to have sex with me just because she thinks I need her to. We are kind of going through something right now, she has not shown any signs for months of wanting to have sex, I said something yesterday and last night she kind acted like she wanted to but fell asleep inside of a 60 seconds. This kind of pissed me off, not because we didnt have sex, but because she was fakeing the fact she wanted to which probly would have lead to fakeing later.
03/25/2011
It's created a problem sometimes, but usually i'm just happy to make them happy and I'm sure they do it for me sometimes too!
03/27/2011
He can whine like a baby so ill cave just to make him stop!
04/13/2011
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Love the kitty pic! Sooo adorable. I have one the same color!
Originally posted by
SexyTabby
I choose other because there's been times when it was more like obligations of the wedding bed especially when we were first married. Other times I just wasn't over another topic and he was moving forward. Can't say it was the
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I choose other because there's been times when it was more like obligations of the wedding bed especially when we were first married. Other times I just wasn't over another topic and he was moving forward. Can't say it was the healthiest choices but it seemed necessary at the time.
Now I will just tell him exactly what I'm thinking if he can't figure it out himself. My sex drive has been insane as of lately so more often then not he's the one with the headache not me.
Been together for 22 years and I know everything he needs, wants and expects so I'd seriously doubt he'd even know if I was faking it or not but our relationship isn't about sex or just pleasing him so it's simply not necessary. less
Now I will just tell him exactly what I'm thinking if he can't figure it out himself. My sex drive has been insane as of lately so more often then not he's the one with the headache not me.
Been together for 22 years and I know everything he needs, wants and expects so I'd seriously doubt he'd even know if I was faking it or not but our relationship isn't about sex or just pleasing him so it's simply not necessary. less
04/13/2011
I've done it but typically if he wants sex and I don't we compromise and I just help him jack off.
09/21/2012
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I haven't done it and I wouldn't want my partner to do it. If I get that desperate I can grab a toy lol.
Originally posted by
Naughty Student
I was just thinking about this as I was reminded of this from another discussion.
In the past I have had sex with my partner although I wasn't in the mood to do it, but did it anyways to please my partner bcs I loved him. It sort of ... more
In the past I have had sex with my partner although I wasn't in the mood to do it, but did it anyways to please my partner bcs I loved him. It sort of ... more
I was just thinking about this as I was reminded of this from another discussion.
In the past I have had sex with my partner although I wasn't in the mood to do it, but did it anyways to please my partner bcs I loved him. It sort of created a problem for us that we luckily were able to get over.
However, I am wondering how many people have done this and if it is or isn't an issue for them. less
In the past I have had sex with my partner although I wasn't in the mood to do it, but did it anyways to please my partner bcs I loved him. It sort of created a problem for us that we luckily were able to get over.
However, I am wondering how many people have done this and if it is or isn't an issue for them. less
09/22/2012
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