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Do you call your significant other before coming home?

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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
I have always called (now days maybe text) my wife before coming home. A quick..."on my way, need anything"? call. Others in my office do too....but a good dozen say they "never do that", and when I asked why, their response was eerily similar.."he or she does not need to know where I am at every moment",or the more cynical "this way I can find out what they have REALLY been doing since they got home (or all day).

Do YOU call your significant other before leaving work for home? Please explain.
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Always
16
Never
6
Sometimes
22
Total votes: 44 (44 voters)
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07/29/2011
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Contributor: EJ EJ
I only call if it's for a specific reason, like to make dinner plans or let him know I'm leaving particularly late.
07/29/2011
Contributor: Sir Sir
I do. Just to tell them that I'm out of work, just to say that I am coming home.

I stopped recently though, because I got fed up of my exes always knowing where I was when they never gave me the same courtesy.
07/29/2011
Contributor: Jimbo Jones Jimbo Jones
Quote:
Originally posted by EJ
I only call if it's for a specific reason, like to make dinner plans or let him know I'm leaving particularly late.
This is why I generally call as well.
07/29/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
If I had a partner I probably wouldn't worry about it. I'm my own person, they don't need to know what I'm doing at all times!
07/29/2011
Contributor: newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
I have always called (now days maybe text) my wife before coming home. A quick..."on my way, need anything"? call. Others in my office do too....but a good dozen say they "never do that", and when I asked why, their response was ... more
One of us always calls the other since we both work. Its just common courtesy.
07/29/2011
Contributor: AngelvMaynard AngelvMaynard
We text all day long, even if one of us is traveling. So we know where each other is pretty much at any given moment.
07/29/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
Quote:
Originally posted by AngelvMaynard
We text all day long, even if one of us is traveling. So we know where each other is pretty much at any given moment.
Yep! Us too. We text all the time. The only time we talk on the phone is when either of us is actually in the car and on the road, driving.
07/29/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
There's an old saying that if you don't want your feelings hurt, you should always call before you come home.

I send a quick celebratory text at his dismissal time to say that I'm happy he's on his way and he returns in kind.
07/29/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
My wife is at work when I leave for home so there is no reason to. Even before I only called if I was working late or had something to do.
07/29/2011
Contributor: JessCee JessCee
When I had a significant other, I always did. I would call when I got to work and I'd call when I got in the car to leave work. I just thought of it as a nice way to show him that I was thinking about him.
07/29/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
Quote:
Originally posted by AngelvMaynard
We text all day long, even if one of us is traveling. So we know where each other is pretty much at any given moment.
Ya, us too.

Because I work nights I'll call when I'm almost out of work so that he knows it's time to clean up wherever he's working on projects at and head home if he can. But we talk all the time anyway, so we always end up knowing where the other is anyway lol.
07/29/2011
Contributor: toxie m toxie m
I'll sometimes call after work to let him know that I've finally closed up and I'm on my way because depending on the night I'll be earlier or later and I want to give him a bit of warning (and to keep him posted that I didn't manage to get mugged on the walk home, he tends to worry).
07/29/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
Yes so he can open the door for me! He calls me to before he is on his way just to know to expect him there. Gives me time to tell mail man to leave...lol I am just kidding.
07/29/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
I have always called (now days maybe text) my wife before coming home. A quick..."on my way, need anything"? call. Others in my office do too....but a good dozen say they "never do that", and when I asked why, their response was ... more
I usually do. But, he almost always beats me to it. I can almost set my watch by his calls. More than 45 minutes out of the house, he's going to call to see where I am and what I am doing. He got upset once, because I was having Acrylics put on my nails for the holidays. I told him it would be a while. He called and there was no way I could get my phone (being in the chair and having wet acrylics on my hands) I have sensitive fingers and she was fixing the mistake a cheap nail salon had made on my hands, so it took her several hours. Of course, he doesn't spend more time that it takes to go to Boricks for a 10 minute hair cut on his appearance, (and he still looks good most of the time) so he doesn't get my need to take care of myself.

When I got home, he had been painting a room. He said, "I was able to put an entire coat on the living room in the time it took her to paint your 10 little fingers." No understanding of the things women need to do to look beautiful, mostly for him.
07/29/2011
Contributor: Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
Depends on if I'm in the mood to talk or not plus if I know they are busy or not.
07/29/2011
Contributor: meitman meitman
Never do unless something comes up unexpected. She could put a gps tracker on me for all I care. I'm usually always where I'm supposed to be. Never really gave her a reason not to trust me so she does trust me.
07/29/2011
Contributor: froggiemoma froggiemoma
i never did until my current partener. He lets me know what he's doing throughout the day and when he's on the way home and he asks about what im doing etc. not in a obsessive/ controlling way . i trust him he trusts me just like to keep track of each other.
07/29/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
We're different - I have a home office. She will text me on Friday night - or on a night when she's needing 'her fix'.

When I travel we always have sex upon my return - and I will test her to let her know if the flight is on time or not.
07/29/2011
Contributor: tickle me pink tickle me pink
I do sometimes, but it's only because when I get off work he's usually still working. In that case I'll just shoot him a text when I get home. When he's home I will always call him and he does the same when he gets off work. It's not so we can keep track of what the other is doing, it's just that after a full day of working we miss each other and want to talk.
07/29/2011
Contributor: js250 js250
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
I have always called (now days maybe text) my wife before coming home. A quick..."on my way, need anything"? call. Others in my office do too....but a good dozen say they "never do that", and when I asked why, their response was ... more
I don't feel like driving 15 miles back to town if I need milk, bread or any other item.
07/29/2011
Contributor: Eucaly Eucaly
Never unless there's some purpose such as whether to buy milk or not. Constantly monitoring each others' movements is kind of creepy to my mind.
07/29/2011
Contributor: Ivy Wilde Ivy Wilde
I answered for my husband since I rarely leave the house. He always calls to let me know he's heading home. What time he leaves work varies a great deal, and he just wants me to know when to expect him. It also gives me a chance to tell him that we're out of cat food or whatever and ask him if he could pick some up on the way home.

He's also just a very sensitive, caring guy and knows that I get anxious if I don't know where he is. I have a pretty nasty anxiety disorder. So he is very good about always telling me where he's going and apx when he should be home. I am very lucky to have such a considerate husband.
07/29/2011
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
My husband always calls when he gets off, so we can coordinate if something's come up with the kids. If he doesn't call, I know he's stuck at work.
07/29/2011
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
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If I'm running late!
07/29/2011
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
My husband always call the minute he steps out of his office - so I'll know when to start cooking dinner.
07/31/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
if I am going to be late, or plans have changed.
08/01/2011
Contributor: Starkiller87 Starkiller87
I always get a text or call so i can start dinner on time, since his schedule can be alittle wonky. I hate starting dinner late but man do i love payday when he shows me why he stays so late.
08/02/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Eucaly
Never unless there's some purpose such as whether to buy milk or not. Constantly monitoring each others' movements is kind of creepy to my mind.
No, it's not always. Some couples simply keep in touch frequently. With my husband and me, we are constantly checking on each other even in the house and if one of us is outside on the property. When we're together, we are constantly touching each other, so being in touch while one is out is common. He also calls me at least once or twice while he is at work and when he gets to the grocery store to see if I need anything for dinner every evening.
08/02/2011
Contributor: leatherlover leatherlover
I always call when I am coming home, because I commute from DC to Atlanta, and I am never sure when I will land. The only time I won't is when she is at work still.
08/02/2011