Just the other night, the opposite thing happened with us. I really needed that release, but he was too tired and not feeling well. So he helped me get to orgasm, with nothing for himself. It was funny, because afterwards he said "wow, I feel better now too". So I told him that's exactly how I feel when I help him orgasm, with nothing for myself. It was nice for him to be able to experience the way I feel when the reverse happens. We both really try to be there for each other in that way, and it really means a lot.

For me, it all depends on the context. I'm totally fine with my wife not being in the mood necessary to get off herself, but still wanting to please me - that's kind and generous of her, and I appreciate it greatly. If she says it in a way that suggests annoyance at my appetite, though, it can make me feel a little bad about myself for asking in the first place.

I think Wise Guys had it right. We have had this happen in both directions once or twice. We have talked about it, as we do everything, and we are fine with it when it happens. If the other stills wants to get off, we can help make that happen, usually orally and/or manually (with toys for her). In fact, she loves to see my masturbate and orgasm on her breasts. I love to get her off over and over orally and with toys! Nothing wrong with that!