not something i would want to try but want to know what others think
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Do you think ball gags are degrading?
10/19/2010
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Which ball gag would be better?
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10/19/2010
I've personally never had one on, but from a viewers perspective they seem like more work then anything else.
Over all I say it depends on the mind frame of the situation.
Over all I say it depends on the mind frame of the situation.
10/19/2010
I think it depends. Gags (whether they be ball gags, bit gags, medical gags, whatnot) can be degrading in a scene. Personally, I've had it go both way. I just really love the feel of being gagged. I love the drool and the comfort of it. That's me though. Those are from scenes I've participated in. I think for myself it is almost harder to make me feel degraded while wearing one because I love them so much (I am guilty of wearing my medical gag around the house just because I like the way it feels). However in the context of the right scene- hell yes they can be degrading.
10/20/2010
To me they arent degrading but I doubt I'd wear one. Just not really my thing.
10/20/2010
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Yes, but I like degradation
Originally posted by
socceras
not something i would want to try but want to know what others think
10/20/2010
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It's not degrading unless it's meant to be degrading! Which some people find unbelieveably hawt. To be honest, in my situation, it would be something I asked for and was fully participating in. So not at all degrading to me.
Originally posted by
socceras
not something i would want to try but want to know what others think
10/20/2010
When I see someone wearing one degrading doesn't even come to mind. For myself, I wouldn't feel degraded with people I was sexually comfortable around.
10/20/2010
I like them and on the practical side they keep me more quiet as I am very vocal. Some ball gags make me look so sexy so I only use the two that do.
I don't feel degraded at all and I so love the struggle!
I don't feel degraded at all and I so love the struggle!
10/20/2010
I said no...and here is why:
They can be degrading when they are meant to be, BUT since the partners are willing I don't consider it degrading at all. At least not in a bad way.
They can be degrading when they are meant to be, BUT since the partners are willing I don't consider it degrading at all. At least not in a bad way.
10/20/2010
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I agree, I however voted yes because I think that they are degrading, but I kind of think that's the point. And that's not a bad thing when the person is willing
Originally posted by
J's Alley
I said no...and here is why:
They can be degrading when they are meant to be, BUT since the partners are willing I don't consider it degrading at all. At least not in a bad way.
They can be degrading when they are meant to be, BUT since the partners are willing I don't consider it degrading at all. At least not in a bad way.
10/20/2010
I love ball gags. Sometimes I just need to be quiet and I like being able to bite down it. I agree with the "it's degrading and meant to be with consent" comments. In a scene it can be degrading but I am willing and enjoy it.
For me it's also about giving up control with is soothing and comforting. In that sense it's not degrading. It really depends on the purpose and the words that are used in the situation.
For me it's also about giving up control with is soothing and comforting. In that sense it's not degrading. It really depends on the purpose and the words that are used in the situation.
10/20/2010
I voted a little, but none of the answers really fit my opinion. I primarily use ball gags to quiet myself, but I also immensely enjoy being submissive. I don't ACTUALLY feel degraded when I'm being called a dirty little slut, getting spanked or playfully slapped. It's just part of the fun in our sexual relationship, and we both like it rough. If someone is unwillingly being dominated, then yes, I would imagine it's very degrading.
10/20/2010
not at all. you like what ya like
10/20/2010
As long as the play involving them is consensual and enjoyable by all involved parties, absolutely not.
10/20/2010
They can be if in the scene they are meant to be, but generally I don't think that they are.
10/20/2010
They can be degrading in a nice consensual way.
10/20/2010
That depends.
Sometimes, they can be - and sometimes, they're MEANT to be.
Sometimes, they can be - and sometimes, they're MEANT to be.
10/20/2010
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This. Totally.
Originally posted by
Sir
That depends.
Sometimes, they can be - and sometimes, they're MEANT to be.
Sometimes, they can be - and sometimes, they're MEANT to be.
10/21/2010
I think the mood would have a lot to do with it so I just put a little cuz they can me and might be but might not as easily.
10/21/2010
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Personally, I do not think it is, but I have never used them. I think that an item like this, if you give it that emotion then it will, if you use it as a tool like any other then its not degrading.
Originally posted by
socceras
not something i would want to try but want to know what others think
10/22/2010
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They can be degrading. It depends on the way you look at them. My husband despises them because he finds them degrading, because he wants to hear me make sounds of joy. He wants me to be able to tell him to stop, and he's always careful not to hurt me, even when we play rough. That's why we don't own a ball gag, and don't intend to. I would be willing, however, to try one out with him, because I trust him, and I can always make a signaling noise or hand signal to say no, but it's better to play it safe.
Originally posted by
socceras
not something i would want to try but want to know what others think
10/22/2010
Yes, but I thought that was the point?
10/22/2010
Yes, but in a way that many people, including myself, finds hot provided everything is consensual.
10/22/2010
It depends on the situation.
10/22/2010
I don't mind them, since I can get pretty loud sometimes and the walls in my building echo like none other. It actually prevents some very awkward laundry-room conversations very quickly. If someone forced me to however, it would be completely degrading.
10/23/2010
It depends on the situation. Some people want to be degraded. Others probably enjoy it for what it is without feeling degraded at all.
11/04/2010
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I'm with VampKitty on this one.
Originally posted by
VampKitty
It depends on the situation.
11/05/2010
It's only degrading if you want it to be
11/08/2010
I don't really care if other people want to use them or not, and I'm not going to judge them for what they use with their partners. However, I think if I was to use something like that in my relationship, I'd feel pretty degraded.
11/08/2010