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Do You Always Get/Give A Massage Before/After Sex?

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Contributor: Kaltir Kaltir
The title says it. What do you do?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
We always have to include a massage, whether it's before or after.
Ghost , rex73 , LunaLuthor
3
We always include a massage before.
sexykiss
1
We always include a massage after.
We include a massage before at least 50% of the time.
ejrbrndps , N&M , sweetiejo , chibi1091 , wes
5
We include a massage after at least 50% of the time.
chibi1091 , wes
2
We include a massage before occaisionally.
Mr.RightNow , PiratePrincess , Love&War , toxie m , darthkitt3n , M121212 , Redboxbaby , padmeamidala , LostBoy988 , CharlieBrown , lick123 , K101 , zracer , anonymouse58 , The Curious Couple , bayosgirl , Lummox , ~LaUr3n~ , Airen Wolf , Musicsoul , kutekatie , Shorty32 , faust , Illumin8 , EvilHomer , Ms. Spice , ellejay , rockopera , potstickers , mcl272 , Stagger13 , TheHardOne , stlouisxxx , Jon S , mpfm , Stinkytofu10 , gsfanatic , pinkpottergirl , wes
39
We include a massage after occaisionally.
joja , dhig , darthkitt3n , Redboxbaby , K101 , ZenaidaMacroura , ~LaUr3n~ , Airen Wolf , Shorty32 , gsfanatic , wes
11
We never include massages.
liilii080 , tkdchick90 , hysteriaremedy , Istanbull , indiglo , slynch , JRabbits , Bignuf , socceras , Anne , Bex1331
11
It varies.
OhMy! , MaryExy , Redboxbaby , ily , dezzydezire , Airen Wolf , EvilHomer , mcl272 , Lime , LilLostLenore , chibi1091 , wes , Cora Jane
13
Other?
Gunsmoke , Taylor , Istanbull , redstarr681 , Noira Celestia , kawigrl
6
Total votes: 91 (73 voters)
Poll is closed
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Contributor: Skitlz Skitlz
Quote:
Originally posted by Kaltir
The title says it. What do you do?
My wife loves a massage before sex.
03/11/2011
Contributor: Mr.RightNow Mr.RightNow
we don't massage all the time before sex
03/11/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Wouldn't you know it, I had pick 'Other' - even with all those choices!

The reason I did is that in our relationship a 'massage' is specifically sexual. If we want something else, we ask for a 'back rub'.

We do not do a back rub every time we have sex - maybe 1/2 the time.

I do a 'groin' massage before 99% of our sexual encounters. Starting with firm pressure I massage the muscles and ligament area where the legs and hips meet - it really helps her relax and get in the mood for sex. When the time is right things change from firm to soft and from muscles to her vulva, etc...
03/11/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
We have massages sometimes beforehand. I've never really paid attention to the number of times a massage turns into sex.
03/11/2011
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
We don't really, since I massage for a living it usually just makes me think of work and not sex so it's not really a turn on for me.
03/11/2011
Contributor: PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
Sometimes we do, but not very often at all. It's usually a special occasion thing, although I wish it was more often!
03/11/2011
Contributor: liilii080 liilii080
He's not into giving or receiving massages so it is not part of our play.
03/11/2011
Contributor: Kaltir Kaltir
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Wouldn't you know it, I had pick 'Other' - even with all those choices!

The reason I did is that in our relationship a 'massage' is specifically sexual. If we want something else, we ask for a 'back rub'.

We ... more
I'm just glad that someone choosing other still thought there were a lot of choices! Lol! Thank you for a very thorough "Other" :-D
03/12/2011
Contributor: Kaltir Kaltir
Quote:
Originally posted by Taylor
We don't really, since I massage for a living it usually just makes me think of work and not sex so it's not really a turn on for me.
I think I need to visit you. Lol!
03/12/2011
Contributor: Kaltir Kaltir
Quote:
Originally posted by liilii080
He's not into giving or receiving massages so it is not part of our play.
Awww, I'm sorry to hear that. A massage, even in a non-sexual way, can be so amazing after a rough day. Maybe he'll come around someday
03/12/2011
Contributor: Kaltir Kaltir
Quote:
Originally posted by PiratePrincess
Sometimes we do, but not very often at all. It's usually a special occasion thing, although I wish it was more often!
Maybe try to incorporate a small amount of massage during foreplay, etc. For example, while I'm performing oral sex for him, I randomly massage areas like his legs, sides, etc, so he grew to like massage by association, and now he can't get enough of them, especially after a long work day. I hope that helps a little!
03/12/2011
Contributor: Love&War Love&War
Occasionally before, haven't done it after yet
03/25/2011
Contributor: joja joja
I love post-orgasm massages. Request them from my partner all the time. He on the other hand prefers massages before bed, regardless of sex.
03/25/2011
Contributor: M121212 M121212
More massages are welcome in my sex life!
04/06/2011
Contributor: padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by Kaltir
The title says it. What do you do?
Both Anakin and I enjoy getting/giving massages and sometimes it happens before or after sex. It all depends on how much time we have and if we are having some back issues.
06/27/2011
Contributor: Istanbull Istanbull
I clicked "other". I give her a message, she doesn't me.
06/27/2011
Contributor: redstarr681 redstarr681
Quote:
Originally posted by Kaltir
The title says it. What do you do?
no never
06/27/2011
Contributor: LostBoy988 LostBoy988
Massaging before always helps me relax.
06/27/2011
Contributor: curmudgeoncat curmudgeoncat
With a really good massage, I can orgasm. But I rarely get really deep massages since most people I know don't have good finger strength. Regardless, being massaged feels good unless it's light touching. Light touching doesn't do anything for me and makes me frustrated. As for leading to sex or not, I haven't been keeping a tally. Sometimes yes, sometimes no.
06/27/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
We've never done that. It's not even something I would think about, because to me a massage isn't sexual - but I sometimes need to get professional massages for medical issues, so I think that's why they're so separate in my book.
06/27/2011
Contributor: salaciousrex salaciousrex
He doesn't seem too into massages unless my back is hurting then he'll give me one.. and he always just wants his back scratched, never rubbed I'm thinking about buying massage oils just to see if I can get him to open up to them and we can make massages sexual
06/27/2011
Contributor: CharlieBrown CharlieBrown
It's good to give a massage to your partner before the act, this can help one relax and feel more comfortable.
06/27/2011
Contributor: Noira Celestia Noira Celestia
Hardly ever anymore unfortunately. I wish we did. My partner hates the way massage lotions/oils feel on his hands.
07/19/2011
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
I sometimes give my fiancee a massage before, but that's about it.
07/19/2011
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
Sometimes.
07/20/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Kaltir
The title says it. What do you do?
I am a registered Masseuse (not for a living..however). Helped pay for college that way. However, my wife HATES massages. Go figure. Thus, NONE, EVER at my house.
07/21/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Kaltir
Awww, I'm sorry to hear that. A massage, even in a non-sexual way, can be so amazing after a rough day. Maybe he'll come around someday
I need one right now!!!!
07/21/2011
Contributor: N&M N&M
I like to loosen my wife up with a good massage
08/09/2011
Contributor: faust faust
We include a massage before occaisionally.
09/10/2011