Maybe the ultimatum was given out of hurt feelings, or anger. Maybe she doesn't know how else to deal with it. If this relationship is one that your friend really wants to keep, maybe he could make it clear to her that bullying won't solve the problem, but talking through it together and finding out what the real issue is would be a better solution. We really don't know why she reacted so strongly to porn. Maybe she felt like it was the same as him cheating on her, or that he didn't think she was good enough so he went to porn to get what he needed. Everyone has issues they feel strongly about, maybe this is one of hers. Don't let someone treat you in a way that is unfair, but don't cut someone you care about out of your life because they have an issue with something. If someone never compromises in a relationship, they are going to end up with no one but themselves to be with.
Would you stop watching porn for your partner?
02/04/2012
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The risk is too great, issuing an ultimatum like that is a SURE SIGN that it WILL get worse. I guarantee this is not really about porn, it is about CONTROL.
Originally posted by
Wide Awake Daydream
Maybe the ultimatum was given out of hurt feelings, or anger. Maybe she doesn't know how else to deal with it. If this relationship is one that your friend really wants to keep, maybe he could make it clear to her that bullying won't solve
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Maybe the ultimatum was given out of hurt feelings, or anger. Maybe she doesn't know how else to deal with it. If this relationship is one that your friend really wants to keep, maybe he could make it clear to her that bullying won't solve the problem, but talking through it together and finding out what the real issue is would be a better solution. We really don't know why she reacted so strongly to porn. Maybe she felt like it was the same as him cheating on her, or that he didn't think she was good enough so he went to porn to get what he needed. Everyone has issues they feel strongly about, maybe this is one of hers. Don't let someone treat you in a way that is unfair, but don't cut someone you care about out of your life because they have an issue with something. If someone never compromises in a relationship, they are going to end up with no one but themselves to be with.
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He should DUMP HER immediately and walk... no, run away from her.
She is toxic, he should end it before he really falls in love.
02/04/2012
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I would if it was an issue but he doesn't mind so I don't have to. =3
Originally posted by
<3BF
My friend just had his girlfriend give him an ultimatum: stop watching porn, or we are through. He doesn't watch it very often, and argues that watching pornography is not hurting their relationship in any way. Would you give up pornography for
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My friend just had his girlfriend give him an ultimatum: stop watching porn, or we are through. He doesn't watch it very often, and argues that watching pornography is not hurting their relationship in any way. Would you give up pornography for your partner?
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It can be a pretty intimate experience if you watch it together and get naughty ideas to use on each other so it isn't all bad.
02/08/2012
I would. I don't *need* it.
02/08/2012
I would give up porn if it was having a negative effect on my relationship and it would really help, sure. But if I'm regularly watching porn, it means there's something missing from our sex life (I only watch porn during solo play). It's probably a sign of other issues if we're arguing about that.
02/09/2012
i really love porn, so i would really really have to love that person.
02/14/2012
My man wouldn't ask. He likes porn, probably more than I do, and despite being a Dom, he isn't a control freak about every single thing I do.
I agree that people who "demand" certain things have agendas that have more to do with controlling than the actual actions.
I agree that people who "demand" certain things have agendas that have more to do with controlling than the actual actions.
02/14/2012
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No I would not ask my love one to give it up.
Originally posted by
<3BF
My friend just had his girlfriend give him an ultimatum: stop watching porn, or we are through. He doesn't watch it very often, and argues that watching pornography is not hurting their relationship in any way. Would you give up pornography for
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My friend just had his girlfriend give him an ultimatum: stop watching porn, or we are through. He doesn't watch it very often, and argues that watching pornography is not hurting their relationship in any way. Would you give up pornography for your partner?
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02/14/2012
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no cause theres nothing wrong with watching a lil porn he could be out cheating instead
Originally posted by
<3BF
My friend just had his girlfriend give him an ultimatum: stop watching porn, or we are through. He doesn't watch it very often, and argues that watching pornography is not hurting their relationship in any way. Would you give up pornography for
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My friend just had his girlfriend give him an ultimatum: stop watching porn, or we are through. He doesn't watch it very often, and argues that watching pornography is not hurting their relationship in any way. Would you give up pornography for your partner?
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02/21/2012
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Definitely, but I'm not big on porn
Originally posted by
<3BF
My friend just had his girlfriend give him an ultimatum: stop watching porn, or we are through. He doesn't watch it very often, and argues that watching pornography is not hurting their relationship in any way. Would you give up pornography for
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My friend just had his girlfriend give him an ultimatum: stop watching porn, or we are through. He doesn't watch it very often, and argues that watching pornography is not hurting their relationship in any way. Would you give up pornography for your partner?
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11/30/2012
Nope. Can't think of any compelling reason that would lead me to change my mind. Good thing I don't have to worry about it!
11/30/2012
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