Would you forgive your partner if he/she had a sexual affair?

Contributor: sbon sbon
It would really depend on the circumstances and as I haven't experienced that situation, i can't really say what I would do, but I'm inclined to say that I wouldn't forgive my partner for a sexual affair.
11/03/2010
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
For me it totally depends on the situation, and as someone else stated the apparent sincerity of the remorse/how it happened, etc. That's a really hard question! It's easy to have a knee jerk reaction and say no, but when you're actually in the situation it's a TOTALLY different story.
03/18/2011
Contributor: KennyMister KennyMister
They'd be dead to me
03/18/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I don't think you'd know what you'd do until it happens.

It hasn't happened, so I don't know what I'd do.
03/18/2011
Contributor: ninaspinkturtle ninaspinkturtle
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Originally posted by butterflygirlxo
Just a general question
it would depend if it was sexual if it was emotional i would never be able to forgive that...if it was only once than yes
03/18/2011
Contributor: REDRUM REDRUM
I voted no, but I do think it depends.
Obviously there will be trust issues after that. I think I'd have to depend on who it was with, why, how long did it last. I wouldn't just forgive them on the spot. I'd ask them to prove to me why I should forgive them.
03/18/2011
Contributor: Armsjlove Armsjlove
Being able to forgive somebody is one thing. Keeping that person in your life and being able to fully trust them again with your heart is another. ~ Arms
03/18/2011
Contributor: sexyintexas sexyintexas
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Originally posted by butterflygirlxo
Just a general question
Probably not, once you destroy the trust I don't think that there is any getting it back.
03/18/2011
Contributor: zeebot zeebot
It would depend on the circumstances.
03/18/2011
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
I'm not sure, but I lean toward no. That would be really painful.
03/18/2011
Contributor: liilii080 liilii080
It really depends on the situation. And what he'd be willing to do after. I would have a lot of thinking to do and we would have to be willing to work equally hard and be equally committed to fixing things.
03/18/2011
Contributor: Solar Ray Solar Ray
It of course depends on the situation... my mind says no but my heart would likely listen and forgive... but let's hope it never comes up and we never have to go through that process.
04/06/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
I could forgive him but it would still be the end of our relationship. At this point in the game, if either of us cheats it's a sign we want out. We communicate openly, daily. There is nothing that cannot be brought up and we will rehash a problem until it's no longer a problem.
04/06/2011
Contributor: nicole07 nicole07
defintely not
04/07/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
It depends on the situation. My wife and I have been talking about getting into cuckolding for the past year or so, so I'd be hurt if she were to go with someone else, but it would more be a breach of trust than me being upset by the action.
04/07/2011
Contributor: *Ashley* *Ashley*
I can't honestly say until he's done it to me. WHICH I HOPE NEVER HAPPENS! But I don't think I could ever forgive him.
04/07/2011
Contributor: BadassFatass BadassFatass
I think it really depends on the situation. Most likely, I would try to make things work but if it ever happened again I'd walk away from the relationship.
04/07/2011
Contributor: eggiweg eggiweg
I have and I would expect the same from her... we are pretty open. Honesty is the best policy for us.
04/07/2011
Contributor: Choolz Choolz
I couldn't and I wouldn't. It's complete disrespect and he would lose all my trust. You just don't do that to someone that you truly love, plain and simple.
04/08/2011
Contributor: SexyTabby SexyTabby
I don't think it would be possible for me. I doubt I'd be strong enough. I have very real issues with forgive and forget. Doesn't matter what the reason if I don't agree and know in my heart that something has been done to me or my family that isn't just I don't forgive especially not if it hurts my babies. Forgive and forget are just ideals before God - I may never be able to let go and forgive. I know some I should but it just isn't in me too. Grew up with too much to let go of what injuries me.
04/08/2011
Contributor: froggiemoma froggiemoma
unforgivable for me
04/09/2011
Contributor: sexyk515 sexyk515
yes i i have but only cuz im having one for 3yrs
04/09/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
Forgive? I'd try, but mostly so it wouldn't cause me to become bitter and unhappy, but I would not stay or have any kind of relationship with the cheating bastard there after. It's unacceptable.
08/18/2011
Contributor: Ivy Wilde Ivy Wilde
Probably not, but it would depend on the circumstances. If he admitted it and apologized soon after, I would be more likely to forgive him. If he tried to keep it hidden and I found out on my own, I would probably kick him to the curb.
08/18/2011
Contributor: Kkay Kkay
I wouldn't be able to. With how our relationship is, if he wanted to have sex with someone else, we could work something out. I might want to be involved, or present, or just know the person and be certain that they're aware of the situation and that they're someone I wouldn't mind having a couple of drinks with, but we could work something out.

Because of that, I think it'd feel more like a betrayal if he went behind my back and cheated.
08/18/2011
Contributor: sarki sarki
I doubt it cause they will probably do it again and the trust is broken
08/18/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
I might take it into consideration since I am married with two sons and am a stay at home mom. I would end up having to move back into my mom and dads which would not be fun. I know it would not work out though, I would end up leaving first chance I got. I would not be able to forgive completely and the relationship would not work.
08/19/2011
Contributor: Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
Never.
09/03/2011
Contributor: systematicweasel systematicweasel
for me it'd depend on the situation. I can say yea I'd forgive him but when/if it actually happens is a different story.
09/03/2011
Contributor: catgirl9 catgirl9
Yes, I would forgive my husband. The only way that I possibly wouldn't forgive him is if it was a long term affair. Even then, I might. If it was like a one time thing, then sure. We're best friends and I couldn't imagine throwing that away because of a simple affair that meant nothing.
09/03/2011