When we go out, we usually take turns paying. If one of us is having a bad week money wise, the other will just pick it up instead.
Pay or not pay?
12/20/2010
When we dated, he paid more often than I did. Now that we're married, what's mine is his and his is mine...so we both pay
12/20/2010
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Same with my boyfriend. He makes decent money and I'm jobless so I allow it.
Originally posted by
Blinker
I pay for myself. I don't like other people paying for my shit, but my boyfriend is a rich, spoiled brat who can afford to throw money around. But I much prefer to pay my way when I can. I hate feeling like I owe people anything.
But initial dates? No way, I feel like if he pays for movies and dinner, he's expecting pussy. Plus the gas he wasted to come get me?
Nah.
I try to meet at mutual spots, and pay for my own things for awhile.
12/20/2010
my bf pays probably 2/3-3/4 of the time. Of course he also makes about 3x what I make and isn't trying to pay for school like I am.
I think if we made the same amount of money it would be split more evenly
I think if we made the same amount of money it would be split more evenly
12/20/2010
I think taking turns is the way to go.
12/20/2010
I like to pay if its obviously a date with my gf such as a movie but if we are just grabbing dinner and no where fancy I expect her to pay for her share.
12/20/2010
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i love this about my husband. since the first time we meet, he has alwaysed opened the door for me. always and i love it and appreciated it.
Originally posted by
Bunnycups
I also think a gentleman should open the door for me.
12/20/2010
I kinda wish guys would be more open that they expect you to pay.
I remember in H.S. and even after... a guy asking to "take" me out on a date... and not bringing any cash, because my mom said "if he's taking you he's paying" and then the guy will be like "Split the check in two please"
Just be upfront, you know.
I hate worrying whether or not to bring money.
Especially when I have none. I've turned down a lot of dates.. lol
I remember in H.S. and even after... a guy asking to "take" me out on a date... and not bringing any cash, because my mom said "if he's taking you he's paying" and then the guy will be like "Split the check in two please"
Just be upfront, you know.
I hate worrying whether or not to bring money.
Especially when I have none. I've turned down a lot of dates.. lol
12/21/2010
M and I switch off
12/21/2010
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Me, too! I'm a kinky Traditionalist.
Originally posted by
Bunnycups
I also think a gentleman should open the door for me.
12/21/2010
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Lol, I do like it, but it embarrasses me.
Originally posted by
P'Gell
Me, too! I'm a kinky Traditionalist.
When I doll all up for my boyfriend he does, and I allow that.
But, yeah... I'm weird
12/21/2010
We take turns but most of the time he pays. If we are out with a group of our friends we pay for ourselves
01/05/2011
I say it depends on the situation. For the most part, I think the asker should pay. That being said, when my man and I first started dating, we were spending quite a lot of time together, so I offered to take turns paying. I would pay for dinner, he would pay for drinks later at the club. I also let the person know if I can't afford going out at all, and offer a cheaper alternative such as movies and pizza at the house. That way, if they still wanted to go out, they knew up front that they had to pay for everything. Again, that goes back to the asker paying. If I couldn't afford to foot the bill, I would ask if they wanted to hang out at my place, or go a park or out for coffee. If I had the money, I would ask if they wanted to go out for dinner or whatever, and say, "my treat" so there was no confusion.
01/05/2011
I'm uncomfortable with anyone but my husband paying for me (since I give him all my money anyway, joint account and all). I even feel uncomfortable when my MOTHER pays for dinner or something. I know. I'm odd.
01/05/2011
Usually we split it, or we take turns with one paying for the meal and the other paying tip.
01/05/2011
Normally we would split it or take turns but since he's currently the bread winner he gets to pay.
01/05/2011
I depends on the situation. Most of the time I like to chip in, but it's nice for it to be a treat every once in a while.
01/05/2011
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I do the same thing. Just in case.
Originally posted by
cherryredhead88
I always bring enough with me, and they usually pick up the check anyways, but for me it is common courtesy to at least offer
02/23/2011
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Equality aside, I am poor! Pay for me!
Originally posted by
sugarOne
When your on a date which one do you prefer ?
02/23/2011
well, I am married so I always pay. But if I was in the dating scene, I would want to split it up, or take turns if we have been going out more then a couple of dates.
02/23/2011
I like going dutch or taking turns.
02/24/2011
I think the gentleman I go out with should pay for me (because seriously who wants to be asked out and then be expected to pay?). In the past I've taken girls out and I've payed for them, opened doors, etc. Really in all the dates I've been on the one who asks pays and the one who doesn't ask, doesn't pay.
02/24/2011
Well gentleman always pay. If your still a 'new' couple then he pays. I've been with my man for 4 years so we switch it up.
02/24/2011
I feel better if I pay or we split. Having the guy pay for me makes me feel awkward.
02/24/2011
He pays a lot now because I don't have a job, but I prefer to split or take turns paying.
02/24/2011
Even when we're paying with my card I pass it to him to pay.
02/25/2011
Depends who asked who out, but splitting is classiest (especially if you're both penniless students).
02/25/2011
Rather than worry about dividing up receipts, we just alternate paying for meals. If we genuinely forget whose turn it is then we error on the side of him paying. But not because he's the man and I'm the woman. It just so happens that he's the graduate with a job and I'm the student who is living off what my mother sends me.
02/25/2011
fair's fair
04/03/2011
We usually divide it up.
Sometimes we alternate paying (I pay all or she pays all) too.
Sometimes we alternate paying (I pay all or she pays all) too.
04/03/2011