If you or your partner is on birth control, how long into the relationship do/ did you wait until you stop using condoms?
No more condoms
04/15/2011
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My guy and I are discussing this for his next visit. I'd say in a normal relationship I'd wait somewhere between 6 months and a year to bring up not using condoms, still debating before I vote.
04/15/2011
It depends on the commitment you are willing to make in case something goes wrong. You should be willing to have the consequences just in case. If you are in agreement, then no condoms is fine in my opinion.
04/15/2011
The hubby & I used condoms until we got married. It left something "new" for marriage, something special to look forward to. There is a slight chance of birth control failing so we didn't want to take chances. I also had this fear that I would get pregnant and he would always doubt if I was taking the birth control properly.
04/16/2011
having sex without condoms is a big step in a relationship. It takes alot of trust to put your life in your partners hands
04/16/2011
I think the best thing is to get tested immediately whether you plan to wait or not because you never can know for sure that things won't get carried away. I honestly, do not trust condoms. As bad as this was, my partner and I did not use condoms at all and still don't. We both were tested & I get tested every 6-12 months anyways as a requirement for a shot I have to take. Also, I've been on Depo-Provera shots since I was 14 due to having endometriosis. That's a birth control shot, but I've had to be on it to keep my endometriosis from "growing." I also am unable to have children, but lost 2 so pregnancy is not a worry for us although I do wish it was different for when the day comes that I want kids of my own rather than only having my familie's children to raise. I guess I'm getting off subject, but I do think waiting and being tested is the very best way to go.
Sloppy Donkey is right, it does take a lot of trust to put your life in your partner's hands and that's exactly what no condom is. My partner and I have been in our monogamous relationship for 5 years and I do trust him with my life so I don't worry about STD'S and unfortunately we don't have to worry about pregnancy.
Sloppy Donkey is right, it does take a lot of trust to put your life in your partner's hands and that's exactly what no condom is. My partner and I have been in our monogamous relationship for 5 years and I do trust him with my life so I don't worry about STD'S and unfortunately we don't have to worry about pregnancy.
04/16/2011
I apologize for the extra post, but I thought I might add that a good idea, if you plan to have sex, is to use condoms with another type of birth control just to be on the safe side. You can get those insertable spermicides a.k.a. "sperm killers" or female condoms/films for a low price at drugstores. Although they can cause discomfort and major leakage, they are a good idea when it comes to being super safe.
04/16/2011
My (monogamous) partner and I have never used condoms. I'm on the pill, and we both got tested before we had sex the first time. He has a latex allergy, and is of the "magnum" size, so it's kind of hard to find condoms that work with him anyway. Neither of us like condoms, nor are they necessary, so, we don't use them.
We're at that point in our relationship where, if my hormonal birth control fails (incredibly unlikely), it's not the end of the world.
We're at that point in our relationship where, if my hormonal birth control fails (incredibly unlikely), it's not the end of the world.
04/16/2011
I haven't talked it over with my partner yet (I probably should?) but I'd like to keep using condoms until I'm actually at a point in my life where I might like kids. So, I'm hoping even after marriage (for a while) but we'll see.
04/16/2011
We've been together for 2 months and we're using condoms and plan to continue using them as an extra precaution, even though I am on birth control pills and there is no risk of STDs. With my first partner we didn't use condoms unless there was a reason we needed to, right from the start. I would be ok with not using condoms now because I trust my pills, but my boyfriend feels more comfortable using an extra method of protection, especially one he has more control over.
04/16/2011
Me and my husband never used condoms. We've been knowing each other for over 15 years, so we know neither of us had anything. And it didn't stop me from getting pregnant twice for him, lol.
04/16/2011
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I agree with this. I will not have sex with someone until we both get tested, even with condoms. Condoms break, and no matter how much you trust them, it's a matter of do you trust everyone they've ever been with, and every person that person's ever been with?
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K101
I think the best thing is to get tested immediately whether you plan to wait or not because you never can know for sure that things won't get carried away. I honestly, do not trust condoms. As bad as this was, my partner and I did not use condoms
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I think the best thing is to get tested immediately whether you plan to wait or not because you never can know for sure that things won't get carried away. I honestly, do not trust condoms. As bad as this was, my partner and I did not use condoms at all and still don't. We both were tested & I get tested every 6-12 months anyways as a requirement for a shot I have to take. Also, I've been on Depo-Provera shots since I was 14 due to having endometriosis. That's a birth control shot, but I've had to be on it to keep my endometriosis from "growing." I also am unable to have children, but lost 2 so pregnancy is not a worry for us although I do wish it was different for when the day comes that I want kids of my own rather than only having my familie's children to raise. I guess I'm getting off subject, but I do think waiting and being tested is the very best way to go.
Sloppy Donkey is right, it does take a lot of trust to put your life in your partner's hands and that's exactly what no condom is. My partner and I have been in our monogamous relationship for 5 years and I do trust him with my life so I don't worry about STD'S and unfortunately we don't have to worry about pregnancy. less
Sloppy Donkey is right, it does take a lot of trust to put your life in your partner's hands and that's exactly what no condom is. My partner and I have been in our monogamous relationship for 5 years and I do trust him with my life so I don't worry about STD'S and unfortunately we don't have to worry about pregnancy. less
04/16/2011
My situation was a bit different. We were already married when I went back on birth control so we stopped using condoms probably about a week after I started taking the pills. Sex alone I think is a huge step in a relationship, and going without a condom takes that one step further, so you really have to have a lot of trust in each other. It really depends on each individuals situation, but it's always better to be on the safe side and at least get tested first!
04/16/2011
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Other-until we get tested. That should have been an option on the list.
Originally posted by
link82
If you or your partner is on birth control, how long into the relationship do/ did you wait until you stop using condoms?
04/17/2011
both tested, and my tubes are tied so we dont use them
04/18/2011
My husband and I have been married a few months and we still use condoms. Mostly for the ease of cleanup since I'm on the pill and we've both been tested.
04/18/2011
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when I feel like I will be fine with having a baby
Originally posted by
link82
If you or your partner is on birth control, how long into the relationship do/ did you wait until you stop using condoms?
04/18/2011
I'm not on the pill, but I imagine I would still use condoms. I don't think not using a condom would would be some massive step, I just don't think I would like the clean up.
04/18/2011
We just did it however. It was the first time we had both been comfortable enough with someone to not use one.
04/18/2011
It really depends on the relationship and where I feel things are headed but the soonest for me would be a few months.
04/18/2011
A month or so
04/18/2011
There is no rule because I have only done it with one guy. If we broke up, I don't know that I would do it with the next. Of course all the boyfriends would have preferred to do it without. All my previous boyfriends had done it (and finished) without a condom with their previous partners, but they all respected my choice of saving ejacualtion without a condom for marriage. It took almost 6 months with my current boyfriend and it will be marriage before he actually finishes in me. I believe that should be for the person I am willing AND READY to have a kid with. Accidents happen no matter how careful you are.
04/18/2011
I think it depends on the relationship
04/18/2011
I don't like being on birth control pills, so it's condoms all the time.
04/19/2011
I picked 'other' only because a '~2 years' option wasn't available. There was no hard or fast rule about a time limit or anything for us though. He had more sexual experience than I did when we first got together, so he was super patient with me to get comfortable with everything. I am on 'the pill' though, so we're not all willy nilly with lack of birth control or anything.
04/23/2011
We waited a few months after I started birth control before we had sex without condoms. The only reason we waited was to allow the pills a good amount of time to work with my body.
04/23/2011
i wouldnt stop until we were engaged atleast
04/24/2011
We talked for a few months before meeting. Ended up having sex (using pull out method) second time we met.
04/25/2011
I have no hard a fast rule about how long to wait, it just depends on the relationship. I was in a relationship for 2 years where I never would have considered not using condoms, but with my current relationship we stopped using them around 6 months after we both got tested.
04/26/2011
I know someone who got pregnant while on birth control. I don't think I'd be ready for a kid before marriage anyways so. I'd stick with condoms and birth control together.
04/27/2011
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