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Love or Lust?

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Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by ac0313
Based on my failed marriage of 24 years, I can honestly say love without lust either will not last or will be very difficult to keep going. Lust is required to give you a reason to continue working on the relationship. Love can do this for a short ... more
I feel bad your first long term relationship ended, ac. But, I agree that the lust needs to be there along with the love. Yes, it waxes and wanes, like anything else, but that "OMG- I-need-to-fuck-you" sentiment is required for a relationship to bloom and remain viable.

At least from my experience of more than 20 years.

I hope this relationships lasts forever for you and your partner.
04/09/2011
Contributor: KennyMister KennyMister
I only date for personalty and love, lust is just a bonus
04/09/2011
Contributor: froggiemoma froggiemoma
Quote:
Originally posted by NightNight
Love makes lust more fulfilling, and vice versa. They complement each other, I think.
ditto
04/10/2011
Contributor: Willis2011 Willis2011
Love!
04/13/2011
Contributor: LadieWithSwagg LadieWithSwagg
i love being in love
04/30/2011
Contributor: Curves Curves
I don't think you can have a healthy relationship without both.
05/01/2011
Contributor: Virgulino Virgulino
Lust!
05/08/2011
Contributor: SexyLilPixi SexyLilPixi
Obviously a combo, but love is everything.
05/09/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
Honestly, I don't think my partner and I will ever not be extremely hot and "lustful" for each other. We've been together for 5 years and it's not changed at all. I think as long as you keep the love fresh and alive, there's sure to be lust. That is how it's worked for us anyways. I couldn't see us ever losing either.
05/11/2011
Contributor: MJ1337 MJ1337
Love, with nice hot and heavy sex. <3
07/10/2011
Contributor: SweetieLuv SweetieLuv
more love but def lust lol
12/15/2011
Contributor: SweetieLuv SweetieLuv
Quote:
Originally posted by PassionQT
Lust is that emotional high, love is what remains after the majority of the lust is gone. That's my mantra concerning all this
agree
12/15/2011
Contributor: inmytoybox inmytoybox
A little bit of both is a not a bad thing
12/16/2011
Contributor: WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
Quote:
Originally posted by LikeSunshineDust
I agree with PassionQT, though I voted for a mixture with more lust than love.... I suspect that my voting is influenced by my current situation though.
here here
12/16/2011
Contributor: jedent jedent
because i love him i lust for him. and i suppose to an extent because i lust for him i love him.
12/16/2011
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
Thanks for making mostly love, with some lust an option! Man that sounds like the perfect combo.
12/21/2011
Contributor: poetprincess poetprincess
Quote:
Originally posted by kck
As kids, we're fed story tales with instantaneous love, romance, and Happily Ever Afters (whatever those are, eh?). And as adults... well, obviously growing up we learn that this isn't necessarily how things are. Sure, there are real-life ... more
I would prefer a relationship built on trust, respect and love, with a bit of crazy lust thrown in to spice it up..
12/21/2011
Contributor: eeep eeep
Love is more important to me, as it will outlast lust. Though a mixture of the two is needed.
12/31/2011
Contributor: Lano4ka Lano4ka
Lust is great but might not last without love.
02/28/2012
Contributor: LaSchwartz LaSchwartz
I like a mix because lust will fade but without lust your love will become fleeting.
02/28/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
I would say it's not always 50/50 but changes from day to day.
02/28/2012
Contributor: Tork48309 Tork48309
Gotta have Love, that's what makes the world go 'round.
02/28/2012
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
It hits that point where you are so synchronized with your partner... it's great.
02/29/2012
Contributor: Hibangel Hibangel
both are nescessary for a happy relationship.
02/29/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Love > all.
02/29/2012
Contributor: oneeyedoctopus oneeyedoctopus
If I didn't have both love and desire for my boyfriend I would be unsatisfied with the relationship.
02/29/2012
Contributor: dbm6907 dbm6907
I have lust for my boyfriend and I find him incredibly sexy and desireable. I also have so much love for him that nobody will ever understand. You have to have both love and lust for a healthy relationship, in my opinion.
02/29/2012
Contributor: Azule Azule
Good love will make up for the lust is the way I feel about it.
02/29/2012
Contributor: corsetsaurus rex corsetsaurus rex
I'm not sure it's possible for me to love someone romantically and *not* want to jump them. Love for a person without that spark feels too much like sibling-hood.
02/29/2012
Contributor: x203 x203
lust usually starts it and then love comes around. You dont fall in love right away. I think that's rare. Then lust goes away
03/03/2012