I should have rechecked this sooner. Sorry. I did want to address this.

I totally agree that the lust probably won't last too long without the love, but I have to disagree again, quite respectfully, because we all have different experiences, that Lust can't last. It does for many people. Like I said before, there are ebbs and flows. But, My Man and I have been together and having sex for well over 20 years, and the Lust is as strong, if not stronger, than ever before.

Yes, we had times of lesser Lust. Either due to not seeing eye to eye (this happens in long term relationships. Sometimes you go through periods where you really don't like the other person very much) or due to Life getting in the way, like having kids etc.

We are pretty good about not letting "work" get in the way of our Love or our Lust. (I know too many couples who let their work, need to "succeed" and desire to make money and acquire "stuff" destroy their Intimacy.) I can be a Woman Possessed, if I am working on writing something, or dealing with a challenging client, and he can be this way at his job, or his projects around the house. But, at the end of the day, or at least by the next morning, I pull myself away from my computer, my notebooks and my phone, he comes down off the roof (he's been fixing up, renovating and painting our outbuildings the last month or two) and out of the workshop puts down the tools, and we reconnect. We have found that physical contact, Sex, and conversation the best ways to stay in touch. Almost always in that order.

When we got married, the minister told us "The intense physical passion will fade and you will find something deeper over time." He was half right. The passion only fades occasionally, only to come back stronger than ever, but we find something deeper in our relationship as time goes on. But, at least in our case (and I'm not saying this is true for everyone) the Lust is a dynamic Constant. Just as the Love is. If that makes sense.

So, I can't choose. I want both.

Good thread, kck!

Oh, it does exist!??! You will just have to find the one that feels the same way you do. Personally, I would love to find someone that felt just as much lust as love towards me and someone I could feel just as much lust as love for, as well. But, it isn't a requirement for me. There are some of us men left out here, but if we don't find the right partner that knows how to deal with it, they act like we are just hormonal or addicted to sex. I believe that there should be a healthy balance of love and lust in a relationship. It can make it really nice for both partners and keep your love going.

I agree completely.

love sometimes can get boring.. personally id rather have lust with someone i care about.. its easier &wayy funner =]

i completely agree

totally agreee

ditto

prefaced by an other quote: I, too, personally believe that love is what will outlive lust.

I have to, once more, respectfully disagree. If you look at long term couples (on this board I'm thinking of Airen and her men, NuMe and her man, Gunsmoke and his woman, DWTim and his woman, Gary and Victoria, Carrie Ann and her man, Alicia and her man and My Man and I, as well as others I may have missed (sorry if I missed you)) we all have found ways to make the lust last. Not just for months, or years, but some of us for DECADES!!!!

It is possible. The couple has to work on it, and realize that sometimes the lust will wane (only, if it works out and you both work hard enough, to come back more strong) and the love will grow.

My Man and I have said we will be fucking our brains out in our old age, until one of us breaks a hip, then we will find a way to KEEP doing it.

The lust can last as long as the love. Many satisfied long term relationships attest to this.

Totally agree. Love will just fuel the lust. You can't have sex 24/7, but that doesn't necessarily mean the lust is gone. In fact, I would even say that you can't really love someone as a partner and not lust after them.

I want love, but I still want the WOW factor in the bedroom

What about saying "I love you with all my heart" while fucking your brains out during up-against-the-wall-se x?

Lust is great for short term or every once in a while partners, but for longevity love does fuel the lust. I have found that in times where body image or weight gain by one of the partners where you really don't necessarily see the person as sexy physically, that love can fuel the lust and still lead to some great lovemaking sessions.