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Is it ok to cheat on a cheater?

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Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
The talk show I listen to every morning covers a wide range of topics, and today happened to cover 'is it ok to cheat on a cheater.' There were a couple different takes on it, and my personal opinion is that you shouldn't let yourself sink to the same level as the person who cheated on you, because it won't do anything but come back to haunt you in future relationships. There's the school of thought that an eye for an eye, but you could also turn the other cheek.

What do you think?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
It is ok depending on circumstances
10  (5%)
It's never ok
160  (85%)
And eye for an eye, they deserve it right back
7  (4%)
Other
11  (6%)
Total votes: 188
Poll is closed
07/09/2010
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Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Um, just get out of the relationship if it's that dysfunctional as to require both participants to act childish?
07/09/2010
Contributor: *Ashley* *Ashley*
Its never ok to cheat. Cheating is cheating no matter what the situation is. and If its that bad or if you cant forgive the person that has cheated on you, then just leave them. Or break up for a little while and see if getting back together is what is best. Point is if you feel the need to cheat or what to, don’t. Just split up for a while or for good and see where it leads you.
07/09/2010
Contributor: Penguin Penguin
Uh...no, that's childish.
07/09/2010
Contributor: Sir Sir
No need to. It does not make the person any better than the person who originally cheated.
07/09/2010
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
Um, just get out of the relationship if it's that dysfunctional as to require both participants to act childish?
yup. Totally agree!

As an aside, I don't believe that "once a cheater, always a cheater" because each relationship is different and there could be circumstances.
07/09/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
There are totally more satisfying ways to get back at someone. An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.
07/09/2010
Contributor: *Ashley* *Ashley*
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
There are totally more satisfying ways to get back at someone. An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.
"An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind." -Mahatma Gandhi. I love that quote!
07/10/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Quote:
Originally posted by *Ashley*
"An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind." -Mahatma Gandhi. I love that quote!
Yup, I got it from the old man. I studied Buddhism for awhile and it was one of my mantras. That and "Desire is the root of all evil."-so true!
07/10/2010
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
Quote:
Originally posted by *Ashley*
"An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind." -Mahatma Gandhi. I love that quote!
Yep, I have to agree with Gandhi as well.
07/11/2010
Contributor: sarahbear sarahbear
Why stoop to their level? Just end it with them and move on.
07/11/2010
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
Quote:
Originally posted by Alicia
Yep, I have to agree with Gandhi as well.
Agreeing with Mahatma Gandhi is a pretty safe bet.
07/11/2010
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
Quote:
Originally posted by sarahbear
Why stoop to their level? Just end it with them and move on.
agree!
07/11/2010
Contributor: BoomersGirl BoomersGirl
Two wrongs don't make a right and why stoop to their level?
07/11/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
Quote:
Originally posted by BoomersGirl
Two wrongs don't make a right and why stoop to their level?
Exactly why my fiance never cheated on the couple of girlfriends he had that cheated on him all the time, lol.
07/12/2010
Contributor: Lady Venus Lady Venus
Back when I was like say 18? Yes, I cheated on my cheater then left his ass. But today, I would just walk away and skip the games.
07/22/2010
Contributor: removedacnt removedacnt
There is no satisfaction in getting even. You only hurt yourself.
07/22/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Sometimes our parents and teachers told us the right thing. "Two wrongs don't make a right." No, it's ISN'T OK to cheat on a cheater. Leave on? OK. But, cheating just to "get back" is immature and only brings you down to the cheaters level.
07/22/2010
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Two wrongs do not make a right.

I had a friend back in high school that had a "hate f**k" as he called it and ended up getting the girl pregnant. After, his original girlfriend took him back. Three week later he found out about the pregnancy and lost both girls, and has to pay child support.

We call this sass-man.
07/22/2010
Contributor: Red Vinyl Kitty Red Vinyl Kitty
"Do unto others" ...?!

I would never cheat, but if someone cheated on me then YES I would be upset, but NO WAY would I cheat on them back. If it was a big issue to me, I would just leave the relationship.
07/22/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
I don't think it's right, it's childish and makes you stoop to their level. Why not rise above them and show you're the better person?
07/22/2010
Contributor: Ciao. Ciao.
Cheating to get back at someone cheating just seems entirely hypocritical...though I'm sure it happens frequently.
07/22/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
Two wrongs do not make a right.

I had a friend back in high school that had a "hate f**k" as he called it and ended up getting the girl pregnant. After, his original girlfriend took him back. Three week later he found out about the ... more
I also have a friend who got pregnant from "revenge sex." The guy still owes her $200.00 for the "procedure" and that was over 20 years ago. It's never a good idea.
07/22/2010
Contributor: LiftedUp LiftedUp
As far as I'm concerned, the actions of another person shouldn't ever compromise your moral standards.

It's not okay to cheat. Someone cheating on you has no bearing on that issue, no matter how emotionally involved you are. It is still not okay to cheat.
07/22/2010
Contributor: clp clp
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
There are totally more satisfying ways to get back at someone. An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.
To throw in another quote for reply: "the best revenge is living well."
07/22/2010
Contributor: SexyySarah SexyySarah
I wouldn't it just throws more flame to the fire!
07/25/2010
Contributor: Midway through Midway through
I wouldn't. And I don't think it's okay, because you're only doing the very thing that hurts and angers you.
07/25/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Glad to see the results of this as is.
07/26/2010
Contributor: joja joja
Cheating is never okay, and you can't "punish" someone for being a cheater by cheating on them, too.
07/26/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Not to mention that the other party will probably use it as justification for their (prior) behavior.
07/27/2010