Is "going to a movie" a good first date?

Contributor: John E W John E W
I'll agree with Loving Boyfriend. If ya wanted to get to know the person then coffee or out for a walk along a beach or something quiet!
03/08/2012
Contributor: SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
I'd say covering each other in chocolate syrup is a good first date but everyone's different!
03/11/2012
Contributor: curious kitten curious kitten
Always, it is a chance to see how you feel being with a person and not talking and still being comfortable.
03/12/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
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Originally posted by Bignuf
Young friends having this debate constantly. On the one hand, you go, sit in the dark in silence. Crappy way to interact. On the other hand, once you leave, you have something in common to discuss, right from the get go.

SO? Are movies a good ... more
Yes and no. For a teenager or someone who doesn't know the person very well, I think a movie is a good idea only because others are around, it's a relaxed, non-pressure kind of environment. However, I do not enjoy going to the movies and wouldn't be ecstatic to go there on any date. I'm too active and really enjoy doing other really fun things instead of sitting in a movie.
03/12/2012
Contributor: Jaimes Jaimes
I always have and currently do enjoy movie dates. It doesn't put huge pressure on you to talk at the beginning, but gives you an awesome opportunity afterwards to see how engaging your date really is.
03/12/2012
Contributor: EvilHomer EvilHomer
If the purpose of a first date is to get to know each other and find out if there should a further dates, then sitting in a room for two hours where you cannot talk is a poor way to achieve that goal.

That's not to say there cannot be circumstance specific times when it is a good idea, but as a general rule no.
03/12/2012
Contributor: EvilHomer EvilHomer
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Originally posted by Ryuson
I think that "dinner and a movie" is a SAFE first date. If it's a blind date or someone you just met, it's good because you don't have to talk the whole time. If you end up at a theme park with some horrible, creepy person you ... more
But if you spend all that time just watching a movie wouldn't you end up thinking something like "gee we both enjoyed that movie, maybe we'll go to a theme park next time" and have wasted two dates and come to the same outcome?
03/12/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
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Originally posted by Bignuf
Young friends having this debate constantly. On the one hand, you go, sit in the dark in silence. Crappy way to interact. On the other hand, once you leave, you have something in common to discuss, right from the get go.

SO? Are movies a good ... more
So, I can take it or leave it as far as a movie goes. It's hard to have a conversation and get to know the person, but there is no awkward silence in the movies. I do expect at least dinner and a movie though.
03/12/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
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Originally posted by Chilipepper
Museum or theme park or something interactive. Movies are not interactive. Sitting in an eating/drinking establishment is begging for awkwardness.
I like the museum or theme park idea!
03/12/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
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Originally posted by Deidrenicole
It's true that after a movie you do have something in common to chat about, but you want more in common than that if you plan to continue dating them.
I agree with that. Hopefully you find out enough before going on a 1st date to know if you have anything in common. I know it's not always done, but being friends first can be a great start!
03/12/2012
Contributor: herMaster herMaster
If you both enjoy yourselves that is all that matters.
03/12/2012
Contributor: (k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
I think for our first date, we pretty much went out to a local place, grabbed a couple of sandwiches, and sat in his car- just talking- for hours. But we also love going to see movies, and do that frequently as well.

As for why or why not... Yeah, you may not talk much if you're watching a movie, but you can learn a lot about someone from how they act during movies. If they fall asleep, if they laugh out loud, if they lean over to whisper about something in the movie, if they're texting, etc.
03/12/2012
Contributor: corsetsaurus rex corsetsaurus rex
Yeah I really like to do things like talk to my date. And see them. -_-;
03/13/2012
Contributor: tinadice tinadice
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Originally posted by Bignuf
Young friends having this debate constantly. On the one hand, you go, sit in the dark in silence. Crappy way to interact. On the other hand, once you leave, you have something in common to discuss, right from the get go.

SO? Are movies a good ... more
Going to a movie is a great first date.
03/15/2012
Contributor: sexystuffeve sexystuffeve
My friends first date with her fiance included a trip to the movies and now they are engaged. My first date with my previous boyfriend was going to the movies and it didn't work out, it all depends on your personal preference, it doesn't deermine a relationship or anything.
03/15/2012
Contributor: breebree breebree
best dates that i've been on was a walk at the park. Walking and talking is the best way for two poeple to get to know each other.
04/21/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Depends a lot on how close you were before you started dating. It can serve as a nice icebreaker, especially if you have dinner after. In addition, there is safety benefits if it's a blind date (public place). However, if you know each other, you can do something that fits you better. For example, both my girlfriend and I love walks and nature, so our first date was going to walk around an park.
04/21/2012
Contributor: pixxie87 pixxie87
a walk is better
04/22/2012
Contributor: pitona pitona
it should be a rule to not go to movies on a first date
04/22/2012
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
Under normal circumstances, I'd say it's lousy, but it can be fun if you go to the right movie, at the right time, and have a particular sense of humor.

By which I mean, "Go to an awful movie or one that's been out long enough that the theater will be mostly empty. Take a spot in the back, then quietly make fun of it together."
04/26/2012
Contributor: Sci Sci
a movie is a crap first date, if it is the only thing you do. it doesnt allow you to talk to or even look at your date(its dark ). a meal would be better, or going on a hike, something where you can interact with the date. Now, if you went to a movie, and went to dinner, that would be ok. but unless there is some kind interaction, it is kinda pointless
04/29/2012
Contributor: Various Various
I thought the point of a date is to get to know someone-you can't do that in silence.
04/29/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
You can't really get to know a person by just going to a movie. Maybe dinner, bowling, snow cones, or something like that.
04/29/2012
Contributor: Undead Undead
Yeah, if you do something else before or after.
04/29/2012
Contributor: thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
It was my first date ever, haha! Since that date resulted in a relationship that lasted over 3 years, I'm going to say that it is a good first date for at least a few people.
05/27/2012
Contributor: sweetpea12 sweetpea12
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Originally posted by Bignuf
Young friends having this debate constantly. On the one hand, you go, sit in the dark in silence. Crappy way to interact. On the other hand, once you leave, you have something in common to discuss, right from the get go.

SO? Are movies a good ... more
I love going to the movies, so I would love it. But that's just me
06/19/2012
Contributor: Dixiemomma Dixiemomma
I have always enjoyed the movies as a first date but i can understand the point that you cant really talk .. but you can get snuggly and comfy with each other
06/19/2012
Contributor: Bodhi Bodhi
Lousy. I think a first date should involve lots of conversation and getting to know each other.
06/20/2012
Contributor: britanny0620 britanny0620
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Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
If that is all you are doing, yes, it's a bad first date. I say this because you can't talk much.
Good point
06/20/2012
Contributor: pasdechat pasdechat
I tend to agree with everyone who said it's not a good way to get to know someone, even if it gives you something to talk about afterward. And the thing is, speaking for myself, I find the idea of sitting quietly in a movie theater next to someone who is at that point basically a total stranger sort of...awkward.
06/20/2012