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How truthful should you be in a dating relationship?

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Contributor: systematicweasel systematicweasel
I think at first it's a tell what they need to know kind of thing then as time goes on eventually it all comes out lol.
08/29/2011
Contributor: Lavendar Lavendar
I wouldn't divulge everything until I was exclusively dating someone.
08/13/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Make sure they have the key parts, but you can open up slowly over time.
08/13/2012
Contributor: woodsdragon woodsdragon
I voted just what they need to know if you are in a dating relationship. However, if the relationship becomes serious then you need to be more open
08/14/2012
Contributor: snarknemesis snarknemesis
I always like to know what's going on and where I stand. Sometimes I do feel like I say too much though.
08/15/2012
Contributor: XxXxX XxXxX
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Originally posted by sexyintexas
I am newly single and I am talking to a couple of different guys. How much information should you divulge when you are just dating? I know once a relationship moves to the next level I believe in being honest but in the beggining? Hmmmm...I just dont ... more
If it is not an actual relationship and you are just dating or getting to know them, they only need to learn about you as a person, you should feel the need to disclose anything that you dont want or dont feel they should know.
08/16/2012
Contributor: novanilla novanilla
I wouldn't lie, unless it would cause unnecessary problems if I did not, but I wouldn't necessarily tell them everything. If having sex with multiple people, I'd likely disclose that for safety reasons.
08/16/2012
Contributor: (k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
I'm pretty much a full disclosure kind of person. My viewpoint is this: if I'm completely up-front from the start, we won't waste a lot of time if it turns out we're incompatible.
08/16/2012
Contributor: Gracie Gracie
I tend to be cautious. You should always be honest, but you can also respectfully say I think it is too soon to to discuss blank. As you know oneantother longer you will naturally share more personal information. And I feel it is okay to have some things remain private indefinitly. I feel there is a difference between secrets and privacy.
08/16/2012
Contributor: CaliGirl CaliGirl
I am as honest as I expect that other person to be with me.
08/21/2012
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by sexyintexas
I am newly single and I am talking to a couple of different guys. How much information should you divulge when you are just dating? I know once a relationship moves to the next level I believe in being honest but in the beggining? Hmmmm...I just dont ... more
Just what they need to know
08/21/2012
Contributor: caseyb caseyb
Quote:
Originally posted by sexyintexas
I am newly single and I am talking to a couple of different guys. How much information should you divulge when you are just dating? I know once a relationship moves to the next level I believe in being honest but in the beggining? Hmmmm...I just dont ... more
if your not married, then dont worry about it!
08/21/2012
Contributor: TWE112 TWE112
Unless you don't plan on having them potentially be with you for a while I'd say be completely honest.
09/06/2012
Contributor: Leather & Lace Leather & Lace
Total disclosure if it's a serious relationship. Otherwise, just what they need to know.
09/06/2012
Contributor: Rey Rey
disclose what is relevant, when it's relevant
09/07/2012
Contributor: Badass Badass
I think in the begining you only need to tell them the basis. I don't like the idea of full disclosure in the beginning. I like to keep it simple in the beginning.
09/07/2012
Contributor: Badass Badass
I think in the begining you only need to tell them the basis. I don't like the idea of full disclosure in the beginning. I like to keep it simple in the beginning.
09/07/2012
Contributor: Supervixen Supervixen
Don't lay everything out on the table all at once. First of all, that's no fun. If you're an open book and there's nothing new for your date to discover on his/her own, naturally and when the time is right, then you've killed a lot of the excitement and intrigue that comes with getting involved with a new person. You don't have to be mysterious and demure or anything (in fact, DON'T be mysterious and demure; it gets frustrating and it gets old really quickly, too); just allow things to unfold in a natural, organic way. Also, keep in mind that this new person who you don't know very well, may not be the type of person you want to share so much with. People take take advantage of information given to them--at least know if you are with someone who is worth your time or not, first.

The things you SHOULD disclose when things seem to be going well and there's potential for a relationship, are any obvious possible deal breakers.

Dating shouldn't be stressful! It should be fun! So be honest, be yourself, and just let things happen as they come.
09/07/2012