How long to wait before having sex.

Contributor: featherhead featherhead
for me its usually a couple months.
02/14/2013
Contributor: jr2012 jr2012
around the month mark for me. Somehow, there's a lot of things that I feel are more intimate than sex that I need to hold off on.
02/14/2013
Contributor: earthmama earthmama
I'm all over the map with this. I think it depends on the person and you won't know til later if it was the right thing or not, so try not to stress about it too much.
03/04/2013
Contributor: ChubbyNerd ChubbyNerd
A month or so!
03/05/2013
Contributor: VeganChick (is Gone) VeganChick (is Gone)
My current bf is the only one I've ever had sex with. We met Friday night, he spent the night. He came back Saturday, spent the night again. Sunday morning we had sex. We had talked about everything under the sun and both knew we were going to be in it for awhile, we clicked and matched and it just felt right. We were both virgins.
03/05/2013
Contributor: ginnyluvspotter ginnyluvspotter
I have sex before a month gotta test drive the car before you buy lol
03/05/2013
Contributor: snowminx snowminx
For me it's always been under a month but it's not like I planned it to be that way. In the future I will most likely wait longer when I want to get more serious.
03/15/2013
Contributor: SydneyScreams SydneyScreams
generally, I like to wait several dates rather than a set amount of time.
05/20/2013
Contributor: angel42539 angel42539
Usually wait 1-3 moths bc I want to make sure they are not just into sex
05/20/2013
Contributor: Clock Chime Clock Chime
When both people are comfortable.
05/20/2013
Contributor: lslsls92 lslsls92
As long as I've established the fact that my partner respects and cares for me, and we both want it, it really doesn't matter when. I'm seeing someone now who I had sex with the first time we met.
05/27/2013
Contributor: Intrepid Niddering Intrepid Niddering
I've never even considered waiting any amount of time. I usually decide fairly quickly if I want to have sex with someone or not; if I do want to, then I do.
05/27/2013
Contributor: Nezzie13 Nezzie13
I think that's between the two people involved to decide. I told my current bf I wasn't ready and he agreed to wait until I was. I don't think he expected it to be six months!
In my defense, I wanted him very much and we were still intimate, I just had to get on the pill before I was comfortable having PIV intercourse.
05/27/2013
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
My fiancee and I waited three months, and that seemed about perfect for us!
05/27/2013
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
usually about 2 months for me, but it can vary
05/27/2013
Contributor: extrafun extrafun
I said other mainly because I have been out and just new the date i had we both just wanted sex and then on the other hand if i wanted a relationship with the person i would be more willing to wait
05/31/2013
Contributor: karenm karenm
I would say 1-3 months, but it depends on the person and the circumstances. My boyfriend and I were close friends and knew each other very well, so we didn't wait very long.
06/04/2013
Contributor: lillmiss5054 lillmiss5054
I try to go by the rule of at least 6 dates then take it from there.
06/05/2013
Contributor: melliegirl melliegirl
so far its been like a few dates or less for me but obviously thats not getting me anywhere so i need to wait much longer
06/20/2013
Contributor: Crunches Crunches
Yeee... last one was two days (and just one for heavy petting). He said "Wow, that's the quickest anyone has ever gotten into my pants. Normally it's 2-3 months for handsy stuff and 6 for sex."

Then again, I'd known him for half a year and been close friends for over a month so it's not exactly "after dinner".
06/22/2013
Contributor: HannahPanda HannahPanda
I've done everything from one year to one night. It's circumstantial.
10/08/2013
Contributor: CinnamonNights CinnamonNights
I don't think there's really a set time that you should wait- I'd say maybe a month but at /least/ a week? The important thing about it is just actually knowing the person well, for there's lots of people who will just "hit it and quit it". Particularly they'll lie and proclaim love and such just to get the booty.
10/09/2013
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
In nearly all of my long term relationships, we had sex in one form or another on the first date. If that is what you both want, why wait? Because of what "you think" he or she will think of you? I have never disrespected a sex partner for not waiting.
As far at the person who will just "hit it and quit it" CinnamonDreams, that person is just foolish. Sex gets better when you become familiar with what your partner wants and likes.
10/09/2013
Contributor: Glinteye Glinteye
Haha, I've never been one for much waiting.
10/21/2013
Contributor: Slutty Girl Problems Slutty Girl Problems
I don't wait until we're in a relationship - I like to test drive the car before getting super emotionally invested. Somewhere between 1-5 dates - whenever we click, we click!
10/22/2013