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Contributor: Marie Hanna Marie Hanna
Of course, this is a question that really does have many factors, but how long are you normally in a relationship before you start having sex? I find that for me its about three months on average, but it really depends on how comfortable I am with the person and how well we "click".

I'm also curious what makes you decide when is the right time.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Do you mean until after dinner?
16  (18%)
Less than a month
16  (18%)
1-3 months
24  (27%)
up to 6 months
Not until marriage.
4  (4%)
Other?
29  (33%)
Total votes: 89
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01/21/2013
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Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by Marie Hanna
Of course, this is a question that really does have many factors, but how long are you normally in a relationship before you start having sex? I find that for me its about three months on average, but it really depends on how comfortable I am with ... more
Do you mean until after dinner?
01/21/2013
Contributor: mjtheprincess mjtheprincess
I always try to wait a month or two or three. But I usually fail. Oops =) hehe
01/21/2013
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by Marie Hanna
Of course, this is a question that really does have many factors, but how long are you normally in a relationship before you start having sex? I find that for me its about three months on average, but it really depends on how comfortable I am with ... more
I used to have a rule but I think it really depends on the people and what they feel.
01/21/2013
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
I wait a few months or longer.
01/22/2013
Contributor: skittlezjoyann skittlezjoyann
I usually wait but with my fiancee we were best friends for a while (he had be in love chasing me the whole time) and the day I finally agreed to be his girl friend we had had sex just a few ours before...
01/22/2013
Contributor: kitty1949 kitty1949
Whenever you feel ready. I tend to wait a few months.
01/22/2013
Contributor: Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by Marie Hanna
Of course, this is a question that really does have many factors, but how long are you normally in a relationship before you start having sex? I find that for me its about three months on average, but it really depends on how comfortable I am with ... more
Between three and six months.
01/22/2013
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Depends on how long you've known them before you started the relationship. A few dates are probably a safe choice, but it varies from couple to couple
01/22/2013
Contributor: *Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
Depends on how long I have known them. Most of my relationships come from friendships for the most part. Either way depends on how comfortable I am when around them and all that
01/22/2013
Contributor: Bleu Bleu
My boyfriend and I waited 4.75 years because we had a distance thing. I haven't been in any other sexual relationships to tell. It really depends on the person. I have broken up with guys I dated and have had friends who broke up with them because guys expect it like the week after you get together (not literally but depending on the amount of time you spend together it can feel like it).
01/22/2013
Contributor: KissTheSkyBaby KissTheSkyBaby
I think it depends on the situation. As an adult I have only had sex with people who I have been in established relationships with. One of them had been a friend for a long time so I don't even know how that would be counted. Another I met and dated for a couple weeks before doing anything (by dated I mean saw each other a total of 7 times) and my current partner I had been in an online relationship for a while before I had a chance to see him in person so by the time he got to me I was ready to jump his bones. In every instance it was more chemistry then time. The mood was right, the spark was there and we both knew it was going to happen.
01/22/2013
Contributor: Aisling Aisling
For me it depends on the person. I'd say "whenever feels right", really, but I don't know if I could go months. I'm not that patient lol.
01/23/2013
Contributor: travelnurse travelnurse
I waited for a couple of weeks with my husband and he has told me that he really respected that. Of course he tried to get into my pants for a while.
01/23/2013
Contributor: falalena falalena
Quote:
Originally posted by Marie Hanna
Of course, this is a question that really does have many factors, but how long are you normally in a relationship before you start having sex? I find that for me its about three months on average, but it really depends on how comfortable I am with ... more
it really depends on the person. my fiance started out as FWB, so yeah.
01/23/2013
Contributor: GirlOnGirl GirlOnGirl
Do you mean until after dinner? lol
01/25/2013
Contributor: doowop doowop
Usually 1-3 months, but I've waited up to 6 months before. I've also waited a few hours. Haha. But my usual is 1-3.
01/27/2013
Contributor: Rory Rory
I was 14 when we started going out after 5 or 6 months there was a lot of petting and fondling but no sex until I turned 18. Since I've never sex with anyone else I have no other answer! !
01/28/2013
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by Marie Hanna
Of course, this is a question that really does have many factors, but how long are you normally in a relationship before you start having sex? I find that for me its about three months on average, but it really depends on how comfortable I am with ... more
Do you mean until after dinner?
01/28/2013
Contributor: blondie blondie
I try to wait, but it's hard
01/28/2013
Contributor: J5ive J5ive
A few months
01/28/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
With my first girlfriend, it was over 6 months after we started dating. I wanted to do it after a few weeks; she said she wanted to wait until marriage. But finally, she was ready.

With my next girlfriend, it took 3 months. This time, I wasn't sure if I wanted to even kiss her. She later told me, she'd been ready since our second date.

With my third girlfriend, and with the woman who's now my wife, we'd known each other for a couple of months, but we had sex on our first actual date.

With the one guy I've had sex with, we'd known each other for about 10 years. But it only took a few minutes after the subject of having sex was broached before we were doing it.

I'd say it depends a lot on the people and the situation.
01/29/2013
Contributor: Lily Night Lily Night
My boyfriend and I waited a year. Then again he's the only guy I've ever been with. But if I was going to do it again I would choose the same path.
01/29/2013
Contributor: lainebug lainebug
Quote:
Originally posted by Marie Hanna
Of course, this is a question that really does have many factors, but how long are you normally in a relationship before you start having sex? I find that for me its about three months on average, but it really depends on how comfortable I am with ... more
i waited till my wedding night
01/29/2013
Contributor: Andrey2052 Andrey2052
1-3 months
02/03/2013
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I've only had sex with two people, but it was less than a month in both cases. We also spent nearly all of our time getting to know each other before dating, and then spent all kinds of time together once we became 'official'.
02/03/2013
Contributor: Lavender*Moon Lavender*Moon
It depends on the guy. My time range is anywhere from 2nd date to never. It also depends on if we actually date (go to dinner, go to the movies, etc) or if we just start "hanging out" (which tends to be my preferance). If we actually date the time is longer because it takes me longer to get to know the guy. If we just start "hanging out" it's usually quicker. And this is just because we both get to actually see what the other's life is like. So you tend to get more intimate quicker (not just sexually).
02/14/2013
Contributor: Noelle Noelle
Quote:
Originally posted by Marie Hanna
Of course, this is a question that really does have many factors, but how long are you normally in a relationship before you start having sex? I find that for me its about three months on average, but it really depends on how comfortable I am with ... more
When I was younger it was on the first date if we clicked, as I got older usually after a few dates if he was worthy of a second/third date. When I met my hubby we waited until about 2 weeks before we got married, so we waited a little less than 2 yrs. Knew he was the one so I didn't wanna screw it up like I had by jumping the gun in the past. Best decision we could have made!
02/14/2013
Contributor: Leather & Lace Leather & Lace
It was 3 plus years for me.
02/14/2013
Contributor: butts butts
Whenever you're both comfortable! I don't think there's any reason to not have sex with someone just to meet a "normal time" bullcrap, just do what feels right. If you're someone to wait a while and your partner wants to wait too, wait. If you both want to sleep together the first day you meet, go for it. My partner and I knew each other online for 3 months and knew we were going to be amazing together, and the first day we met we had sex. I don't regret it in the least!
02/14/2013