How long do you wait before sex?

Contributor: jenn g jenn g
Do you think it is important to wait before sex?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
I have no problem with 1st or 2nd date
CreamySweet , PussyPurr , wrecklesswords , Ghost , Tart , Ash1141 , jjonk , zeebot , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , CutiePatootie , Gunsmoke , LM , l'amour , shySEXXaddict , Apirka , Undead , plaidvulva , Teddixox , Geogeo , Noelle , John E W , Boyfriend , Missmarc , mammas place , pokefan15 , remember.me , novanilla , Robespierrethecat , table38792 , Stinkytofu10 , doowop , ImaGodiva
32  (44%)
At least 3 dates
DeliciousDrip , padmeamidala , stars , StephieBoo02 , mrs.mckrakn , shotjuan , brevado
7  (10%)
More than 3 dates
chicken12 , EJ , fifi , The Curious Couple , married with children , DiscretionAdvised , Miss Anonymous , ThoughtsAblaze , Girly Girl , Beck , wetone123 , TheSlyFox , Shellz31 , Subska , Feisty , Laschae , nova2014 , Zandrock , Rey , KrissyNovacaine , cburger , skeeterlynn , Squirtz Starz , Gone (LD29) , LovesAPoet , Princess Zelda , RedKyuubi , potstickers , Stagger13 , tortilla , Pink Lily , no longer here , PeaceToTheMiddleEast
33  (46%)
Total votes: 72
Poll is closed
10/21/2011
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Contributor: Peggi Peggi
There should be an 'other' option.

It depends COMPLETELY on the guy for me.

In some cases I wait a LONG time. Like, months. But then with my current guy we had sex before we were even through with our first date!
10/21/2011
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
Quote:
Originally posted by jenn g
Do you think it is important to wait before sex?
I agree with Peggi. It depends. If I am looking just for sex then it depends... hours minutes days weeks. But in the case of a relationship - when I met my hubby ( Love you naby!) I made him wait two and a half months. He stuck around and thats part of what made him the one because he didnt want me just for sex.
10/21/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
Quote:
Originally posted by Peggi
There should be an 'other' option.

It depends COMPLETELY on the guy for me.

In some cases I wait a LONG time. Like, months. But then with my current guy we had sex before we were even through with our first date!
I agree. I had one guy made him wait over 6months and then dumped him when sex was brought up. I gave in at 2weeks with my husband. Plus I have had one night stands also.

The poll might be best to be private also.
10/21/2011
Contributor: PussyPurr PussyPurr
Not really. It completely depends on the relationship. I've waited, I've had sex on first and second dates, and I've had one night stands. My current partner was supposed to be a one-night stand after a drunken night carousing for New Years' and here we are almost 3 years later!
10/21/2011
Contributor: DeliciousDrip DeliciousDrip
My RECENT ex bf && I waited for a year =/. I'm not sure that was by choice though.

But I had sex with one of my exes on our second date, and we stayed together for 3yrs.

So I have mixed feelings on waiting and not waiting, if I want to be in a relationship with the person, I might want to make sure our bodies fit like a puzzle. ^_^
10/21/2011
Contributor: wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
An other option would be nice.

I have never properly dated a person. I've usually only slept with someone before I dated them. Not the best way to do things. Happened with my current girlfriend, though, and she and I have been together for 8 months. Usually I'm only dating someone for a few weeks or months after sleeping with them.

My gf and I slept together a few times when she was in town visiting a mutual friend for her birthday and we really didn't plan on speaking to each other again. But I started to like her and I kind of had a feeling there might be more on her part, too, so I started to talk to her friendly-like and it just escalated from there.

Anyway, I really don't have a problem with sleeping with someone up front, but like I said, I've never properly dated someone or courted anyone before having sex.
10/21/2011
Contributor: Ghost Ghost
I always had sex with the person whenever I wanted. If the chemistry is there, the chemistry is there. However, I was always careful and used condoms and didn't exchange fluids. And just because I decided to have sex doesn't mean I thought we were compatible in other ways.
10/21/2011
Contributor: chicken12 chicken12
Actually . . I'm a virgin and I plan to stay that way until marriage.


Or at the very least, months/years into a relationship.
10/21/2011
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
I'm also with other. I've never had a one night stand. I have had sex on first dates and I have made guys wait a month. Rarely a month and more likely around a week as an average. It does depend on the situation.
10/21/2011
Contributor: Tart Tart
Maybe I should hold out longer?
10/21/2011
Contributor: Ash1141 Ash1141
It depends on the person
10/21/2011
Contributor: fifi fifi
Quote:
Originally posted by jenn g
Do you think it is important to wait before sex?
I agree that there should be an other option. The last person I slept with previous to the person i'm seeing, we slept together without any dates technically. I met him at an almost 2 week long festival, we spent all day, every day together, and last night of festival we had sex. But technically, no dates. Most every other instance, it's several dates before I sleep with someone, I'm a bit old fashioned like that.
10/21/2011
Contributor: fifi fifi
Quote:
Originally posted by chicken12
Actually . . I'm a virgin and I plan to stay that way until marriage.


Or at the very least, months/years into a relationship.
Not a bad way to go! Sex prior to marriage can have lots of complications, so if you're someone who feels it's best to wait, then it's good that you recognize that and are true to yourself!
10/21/2011
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
My fiancee and I waited a little over six months.
10/21/2011
Contributor: chicken12 chicken12
Quote:
Originally posted by fifi
Not a bad way to go! Sex prior to marriage can have lots of complications, so if you're someone who feels it's best to wait, then it's good that you recognize that and are true to yourself!
A bit off topic, but as I'm reading this, I'm also listening to the song "Be true to your heart.
10/21/2011
Contributor: zeebot zeebot
Depends very much on the situation.
10/21/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
I always waited until I got to know someone, and every time I found that the person I was dating was not a person I wanted to sleep with. Until I found my wife.
10/23/2011
Contributor: DiscretionAdvised DiscretionAdvised
Until after marriage
10/23/2011
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
Much longer then three dates.
10/23/2011
Contributor: Talena Talena
It depends on the date..but usually much much longer than 3 dates but I slept with my husband on the first night and now we been together for 10 years.
10/23/2011
Contributor: Girly Girl Girly Girl
i wait a little longer
10/24/2011
Contributor: l'amour l'amour
Quote:
Originally posted by Peggi
There should be an 'other' option.

It depends COMPLETELY on the guy for me.

In some cases I wait a LONG time. Like, months. But then with my current guy we had sex before we were even through with our first date!
I totally agree!
10/24/2011
Contributor: GravyCakes GravyCakes
i'm waiting till i'm married to avoid having any regrets, lol. but that's just me. i do still fool around some w/ my bf. but i wait till i'm in a relationship for a little while.
10/25/2011
Contributor: TheSlyFox TheSlyFox
it depends on the situation/person, usually 3+ dates though.
10/26/2011
Contributor: shySEXXaddict shySEXXaddict
Quote:
Originally posted by jenn g
Do you think it is important to wait before sex?
ok normally i like to wait but I just had sex on the first date so i picked that one.but by me having sex on the first date i now wonder if theres going to be a second date and is he going to respect me now.normally i wait til the 3rd or 4th
11/21/2011
Contributor: Apirka Apirka
Other. It definitely depends on the situation/guy.
03/05/2012
Contributor: jmex83 jmex83
Quote:
Originally posted by jenn g
Do you think it is important to wait before sex?
My wife and I knew each other for a few months before hand. We spent a few weekends together just hanging out and we actually started out as friends, before we started dating. Before her though, there were a few first night stands. Though, I really didn't find those memorable or lasting relationships, so I guess that all depends on where you want the relationship to go and what your intentions are for the long haul
03/06/2012
Contributor: Undead Undead
Quote:
Originally posted by jenn g
Do you think it is important to wait before sex?
It just depends
03/06/2012
Contributor: plaidvulva plaidvulva
lol. I hooked up with someone once specifically for sex. We ended up going out on dates and considering ourselves a couple AFTER having sex a couple times.
03/06/2012