I think that is great. The more friends in life the better. I wouldn't mind being friends with any of my ex's

I agree, OH.
Her and I still love each other and I believe always will, just not in a sexual way anymore. I feel "blessed" and my life is richer for knowing her.

lol I don't know what that's like I have no exes. it probably depends on situation. My Bf has dozens. He was still great friends with an ex fiancé that cheated on him. She kept staying in their old house with the "other man" just because my Bf kept paying the rent and bills after he left. She pawned her ring without asking. The "Other man" stole a ton of his expensive tools before they finally left the house. He just let them. He needed to learn to slap a ho when she deserved it. As for friends, I stopped playing that game with people when I walked away from the band I was working with a while ago. They started stealing stuff I wrote and acting funny. No ones real anymore. My BF doesn't require me to be this way but I just sort of refuse to run around and play the friends game. I don't fit in with most girls my age cuz I have weird taste in music and different things are fun for me and I feel like the odd one out when trying to join their conversations. I'd rather be home with my art and records, good coffee, my sick sense of humor, and a drawer full of somewhat naughty toys. bwahahahahaha

And on the Eden forum. So glad you are here

We're swingers so...??

Awwwe shucks and golly gee willackers Mister. bahahaha

I can only speak for my husband and I and not for anyone else involved in swinging but for us, there is no jealousy on a relationship level. We are completely secure with one another. Two halves of a single whole. When C is with another woman or man, I know that his heart is always with me and that what's happening is no threat to that. The same goes for me if I'm with another man or woman as well. I just went on a date with an incredibly handsome black gentleman we met on SLS who treated me to dinner, great conversation, making out and oral sex in the parking lot and a hotel room afterwards. C was home with our toddler the whole time and when I got home, my god, did he pounce on me! He wanted to know everything, and insisted on me coming home as is with no clean up from the hotel. He was excited and passionate but never jealous.

Not sure how to vote here. A long time ago, during my 1st marriage, I had a flirtatious relationship with a female co-worker. My marriage was in shambles, and I was leaning heavily toward divorce, but hadn't committed to getting the ball rolling yet. Things got crazy one day when the crew stopped after work for drinks. After a couple of beers everyone headed home, I had caught a ride with someone else and was going to get driven home by the young woman. Up until that day nothing untoward had ever happened between us. We got into her pickup and I just looked at her sitting there. She put some lip gloss on and I just lost it, leaned over and put a hard kiss on her lips...........she kissed back and the sparks flew. We went to a place we had talked about that was a motorcycle trail ( we both rode bikes ) and parked, and talked and kissed some more. We eventually made out and each had an orgasm, no intercourse.
Oh, I failed to mention she was gay ! If it hadn't been for the fact she was lesbian, I would have left my wife right then, and hooked up with her, which of course was not possible.
It was the craziest, hottest, most confusing event I ever had, I still have fantasies over that day.

I've had sexual thoughts about others, never acted on them or cheated though