I'm pretty sure everyone here has probably seen or had personal experiences with this- I know I have.
For some reason, it seems to me, whenever someone finds out you have sex toys, they think you must either be:
1. So bad looking you can't get normal sex
2. Just a very pathetic person who never gets out much
or 3. For girls, they sometimes refer to us as 'someone who has never had a real cock in their lifetime.'

Now personally, I've never understood this stigma at all. I agree, sometimes I find it a bit funny myself, like laughing at something you don't quite agree with yet you find it funny anyhow. But WHY was such a stigma created? It seems to be even worse for men to own toys, much more of a stigma for them, but to be honest I've never even heard of a guy who owned anything more than lube or possibly a cockring at the VERY most, outside of this site- so it seems to be much more rare.

Why, though? Sex is on TV, on billboards, everywhere. Sex and sexual pleasure is always looked upon as some guilty thing- dripping in taboo, to the point that once it goes anywhere OFF of the tv, nobody wants to speak of it. Even I, who do own a lot of toys, get so very intimidated when in brick and mortar toy stores, since all my life I'd heard my mom referring to the people going into them as perverts and whores.

I know, since a lot of toys are made to enhance partner sex, the assumption that anyone who owns toys never gets any for real is very very wrong- It is for me, at the very least. I'm not exactly shy about owning those things, but somehow as soon as a guy or anyone else knows, they treat me a bit differently. My friends make jokes about me 'running the batteries dead' or they jeer at me saying they hope not to hear any 'vrrrrrrrr' noises whenever they are over to spend the night, but where they get the notion that I have no self restraint whatsoever, I haven't the slightest clue.

I suppose this is probably a bit of a serious issue for a sex toy site, however asking people who just aren't into toys or who dont know anything about them BESIDES the stigma, yields sarcastic, and joke answers. So, what's the view on this from the 'inside' of the group of people who likes toys?

Personally, toys for me are a bit of a fetish in themselves. I've always been a tech girl so it turns me on to use technology in ways that make me blush, plus, it keeps me from being cranky all the time.
What's your guys' and gals' viewpoints? less

I don't get the stigma about sex toys. I haven't been to sex shops in the states in a long time but I remember them being shady stores that middle aged men lurked around. If they made them bright and sexy and appealing maybe that would reduce the stigma, or have they done that already? In Europe sex and toys are more widely accepted but still has that slight bitter taste to it when you say toys. I honestly don't get it, you can stop for prostitutes but you stop for a toy to enhance your sex life and you're taboo.

like Sleeping Dreamer I found a different side to military wives when we had a sex toy party. People don't talk about this because they aren't sure about the response they'll get. It's frustrating but I think forums like this allow us all to get the information we need and frustrations out.

And Epiphora - I use my toys in my long term relationship too. I think it enhances it, changes it up and makes us hornier than ever for each other. I mean one night we could be masturbating in front of each other with different toys, or I could fuck him, or he could keep me spread apart, or I could be tied up, or he could be rubbed down or.... there are so many options now instead of hmmm you on top or me this time????

I think it is getting better with time, baby steps! less

I'm pretty sure everyone here has probably seen or had personal experiences with this- I know I have.
For some reason, it seems to me, whenever someone finds out you have sex toys, they think you must either be:
1. So bad looking you can't get normal sex
2. Just a very pathetic person who never gets out much
or 3. For girls, they sometimes refer to us as 'someone who has never had a real cock in their lifetime.'

Now personally, I've never understood this stigma at all. I agree, sometimes I find it a bit funny myself, like laughing at something you don't quite agree with yet you find it funny anyhow. But WHY was such a stigma created? It seems to be even worse for men to own toys, much more of a stigma for them, but to be honest I've never even heard of a guy who owned anything more than lube or possibly a cockring at the VERY most, outside of this site- so it seems to be much more rare.

Why, though? Sex is on TV, on billboards, everywhere. Sex and sexual pleasure is always looked upon as some guilty thing- dripping in taboo, to the point that once it goes anywhere OFF of the tv, nobody wants to speak of it. Even I, who do own a lot of toys, get so very intimidated when in brick and mortar toy stores, since all my life I'd heard my mom referring to the people going into them as perverts and whores.

I know, since a lot of toys are made to enhance partner sex, the assumption that anyone who owns toys never gets any for real is very very wrong- It is for me, at the very least. I'm not exactly shy about owning those things, but somehow as soon as a guy or anyone else knows, they treat me a bit differently. My friends make jokes about me 'running the batteries dead' or they jeer at me saying they hope not to hear any 'vrrrrrrrr' noises whenever they are over to spend the night, but where they get the notion that I have no self restraint whatsoever, I haven't the slightest clue.

I suppose this is probably a bit of a serious issue for a sex toy site, however asking people who just aren't into toys or who dont know anything about them BESIDES the stigma, yields sarcastic, and joke answers. So, what's the view on this from the 'inside' of the group of people who likes toys?

Personally, toys for me are a bit of a fetish in themselves. I've always been a tech girl so it turns me on to use technology in ways that make me blush, plus, it keeps me from being cranky all the time.
What's your guys' and gals' viewpoints? less

I get a lot of horseshit sometimes because I'm a lesbian. It's bad enough hearing, "Well, you just haven't found the right man yet," it's even worse when people assume I secretly want a penis because I use toys.

I don't mind playing with a penis or two. It's the men attached to them that I don't want! =P less

I'm pretty sure everyone here has probably seen or had personal experiences with this- I know I have.
For some reason, it seems to me, whenever someone finds out you have sex toys, they think you must either be:
1. So bad looking you can't get normal sex
2. Just a very pathetic person who never gets out much
or 3. For girls, they sometimes refer to us as 'someone who has never had a real cock in their lifetime.'

Now personally, I've never understood this stigma at all. I agree, sometimes I find it a bit funny myself, like laughing at something you don't quite agree with yet you find it funny anyhow. But WHY was such a stigma created? It seems to be even worse for men to own toys, much more of a stigma for them, but to be honest I've never even heard of a guy who owned anything more than lube or possibly a cockring at the VERY most, outside of this site- so it seems to be much more rare.

Why, though? Sex is on TV, on billboards, everywhere. Sex and sexual pleasure is always looked upon as some guilty thing- dripping in taboo, to the point that once it goes anywhere OFF of the tv, nobody wants to speak of it. Even I, who do own a lot of toys, get so very intimidated when in brick and mortar toy stores, since all my life I'd heard my mom referring to the people going into them as perverts and whores.

I know, since a lot of toys are made to enhance partner sex, the assumption that anyone who owns toys never gets any for real is very very wrong- It is for me, at the very least. I'm not exactly shy about owning those things, but somehow as soon as a guy or anyone else knows, they treat me a bit differently. My friends make jokes about me 'running the batteries dead' or they jeer at me saying they hope not to hear any 'vrrrrrrrr' noises whenever they are over to spend the night, but where they get the notion that I have no self restraint whatsoever, I haven't the slightest clue.

I suppose this is probably a bit of a serious issue for a sex toy site, however asking people who just aren't into toys or who dont know anything about them BESIDES the stigma, yields sarcastic, and joke answers. So, what's the view on this from the 'inside' of the group of people who likes toys?

Personally, toys for me are a bit of a fetish in themselves. I've always been a tech girl so it turns me on to use technology in ways that make me blush, plus, it keeps me from being cranky all the time.
What's your guys' and gals' viewpoints? less

I have been called a pervert, gross and a slut for having sex toys. Strangely it was always from females. My male friends have never seemed to be bothered or shocked that I own them, and I have even discussed masturbation with them in great length.

Not sure why the females that encounter view masturbation or sex toys as something unnatural and gross. hmm less