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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by hjtee
Having a physical relationship I could get past, but being in love with someone else, I'd have to let him go be happy, I think.
I feel the opposite. Love can remain, even if real, without cheating. Cheating, however, means he went to find something he didn't get here, and that I cannot will not "compete" with. Him falling in love I could understand. Cheating I could NOT forgive.
09/19/2012
Contributor: Claire-Bear Claire-Bear
Physical cheating seems the lesser of two evils.
09/19/2012
Contributor: PDex PDex
Experienced both, neither are easy to get over. It may be easy to say you can get over "just sex", but anybody truly in love isn't going to be tempted to either. When a partner cheats, or falls in love with someone else, something is wrong in the original relationship. At this point in my life, I would not forgive either choice, don't want to waste my time on people who lack a sense of commitment.

I'm a guy, and I know my SO feels identical about this.
09/19/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
Does it matter? Either way would likely mean the end of the relationship.
09/22/2012
Contributor: anonkitty anonkitty
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Originally posted by bayosgirl
Does it matter? Either way would likely mean the end of the relationship.
While I don't disagree...For science!
09/22/2012
Contributor: PepperPot PepperPot
Geez, those are super awful options. I think they're equally bad, so yeah.
09/22/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
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Originally posted by Rossie
Other. I'm female and I didn't vote, both choices are just as hurtful and damaging to me.
Exactly what I was going to say pretty much. I didn't vote either because it's just horrible. I just can't choose how I want to be hurt because both are equally horrid. None and personally it's not something I dwell on. Either option will put me in the position of absolutely leaving, although my partner wouldn't do that to me, but no way in hell I'd stick around for either kind of affair/betrayal.
09/22/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
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Originally posted by anonkitty
So the results of the study...

(And hopefully you all voted before reading this =])

I've framed the question a bit differently but:
The majority of the men in the study preferred news that their SO is in love with someone else. ... more
Okay, I see. What I very interesting study you done Anonkitty! I enjoyed reading the results.
09/22/2012
Contributor: MidnightStorm MidnightStorm
I couldn't even answer this one, because I don't know! It's hard either way... I feel like there's a serious problem if my SO IS cheating on me either way and it could mean that their love for me is fading, so either way it could be pretty rough.
09/22/2012
Contributor: marshmallow marshmallow
s.o.
09/22/2012
Contributor: FallFire FallFire
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Originally posted by anonkitty
...Find out that your SO is cheating on you or that your SO is in love with someone else? (And yes, it's intentionally vague, please interpret as you will. =])

I read this research paper written a while ago and wondered if the results from ... more
I heard about a study similar to this in my social psychology class in college and, from what I remember, men were more likely to be upset if their s/o cheated; women were more likely to prefer being cheated on that find out that their man was in love with someone else.

Honestly, I have to go against the "statistics" on this one. If he's in love with someone else, I would be able to understand that better than him just cheating on me.
09/22/2012
Contributor: Noelle Noelle
Quote:
Originally posted by anonkitty
...Find out that your SO is cheating on you or that your SO is in love with someone else? (And yes, it's intentionally vague, please interpret as you will. =])

I read this research paper written a while ago and wondered if the results from ... more
If I found out about either, I'd dump his sorry a**!!
09/22/2012
Contributor: Leather & Lace Leather & Lace
I'd rather find out none of that! haha
11/19/2012