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Would you let your mom help organize your sex toys?

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Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
I finally decided to tell my mom about me reviewing. We're selling our house and she's been coming over to help us get it ready for showing. We had been moving our mass storage in and out of the garage every weekend which got to be a pain. I figured one day she'd pop over and see it, so it was best to tell her before that happened.

What was her response? One - could she borrow some toys (gross) and two that the setup I have for storage is too cluttered for showing the house. Now she wants to get new bins and help me reorganize all my toys. She's getting me under the bed bins for my "favorites" and closet bins for the rest. I think she intends to go through them one by one with me and go "is this an under the bed or bin one?" I'm disturbed. I don't think I'm comfortable going through my toys like that with my mom. Plus it will be a long process as I have somewhere around 300 toys.

Would you be comfortable doing something like this with your mom? Why or why not?
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Yes, I'd be comfortable with that.
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No, I wouldn't be comfortable with that.
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Maybe, depends on the situation.
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Total votes: 212
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06/28/2012
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Contributor: indiglo indiglo
Hey, just because you told her about it does NOT give her carte blanche to go through every piece of your collection. There are still boundaries. If she wants to get you some storage bins that's fine, but sounds like you're going to have to be really firm. I'd just tell her "thank you for the storage bins, I'll be organizing my collection myself at a different time."

If it makes you uncomfortable (understandably so) be direct and honest. Tell her YOU will go through your stuff ALONE.
06/28/2012
Contributor: Incendiaire Incendiaire
I think that knowing I'm gay provides enough disturbing mental images for my mother, without her knowing about the drawer full of things I like to stick inside myself. xD
06/28/2012
Contributor: bh253 bh253
My mom gives me bins to store things in but we don't go through it together. XP
06/28/2012
Contributor: Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
My collection is a lot smaller, so calling in extra hands to help move it around is completely unnecessary. However, even if I did need help moving it around, it would be a strictly husband & me job. I do not want questions or unsolicited opinions from my mother about my collection.
06/28/2012
Contributor: wdanas wdanas
Well, at least you know she's all right with it...

I don't think I'd want my mother to help sort my personal collection, but if she had questions and was curious about what a good toy option might be, that would be a safe "general" sort of conversation to have. You know, avoid jelly, these brands are high quality, etc. Things like that. I'd probably even get her a gift card and tell her to have fun shopping. Anything beyond that and I wouldn't be comfortable with it. Some things are just too personal.
06/28/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
Quote:
Originally posted by indiglo
Hey, just because you told her about it does NOT give her carte blanche to go through every piece of your collection. There are still boundaries. If she wants to get you some storage bins that's fine, but sounds like you're going to have to ... more
Yup, that's the conversation I'm thinking I'll have to have with her. I keep imagining her finding my Tentacle Jr. or one of the harnesses I use with my husband and asking a thousand questions. Acccckkkk.
06/28/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
Quote:
Originally posted by Petite Valentine
My collection is a lot smaller, so calling in extra hands to help move it around is completely unnecessary. However, even if I did need help moving it around, it would be a strictly husband & me job. I do not want questions or unsolicited ... more
It's the questions part that scares me the most I think!
06/28/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
Quote:
Originally posted by wdanas
Well, at least you know she's all right with it...

I don't think I'd want my mother to help sort my personal collection, but if she had questions and was curious about what a good toy option might be, that would be a safe ... more
Yeah, I'm more than happy to provide advice. I'd even buy her a few things. Probably not a gift card 'cause then she'd know where my reviews are and go digging for them. Yet again - aacckkk.
06/28/2012
Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
God no, my sister yes, my mom no.
06/28/2012
Contributor: sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
I don't think I would be comfortable with that.
06/28/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
I know this is awful for you. I'd be making hubby get his butt up and help me move the stuff and NOW before she starts asking questions as she digs through the boxes!
06/28/2012
Contributor: MistressDandelion MistressDandelion
Oh my. I wouldn't even tell my mom from the start..
06/28/2012
Contributor: Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
I know this is awful for you. I'd be making hubby get his butt up and help me move the stuff and NOW before she starts asking questions as she digs through the boxes!
If that doesn't motivate him to help, I don't know what will!

My stash is too personal for me to let others go through it. As it is, my mom is coming over this weekend to help me with a similar job, and I am thinking of where to stash my hubby's Fleshlight (in its original can) out of sight. He usually just leaves the can on his nightstand, but now my mom will be in there!
06/28/2012
Contributor: Lavendar Lavendar
Never in a million years.
06/28/2012
Contributor: Talena Talena
My mom knows I review. She has never asked me bout the toys (thank goodness). My mother in law told me about her collection because she felt she was going to pass on. She did end up passing about 6 months later. She told me where to find it, what was in it, and to not under any circumstances let her best friend (male) or her son (my partner) see the collection.

I would never invite my mom to view my collection, organize it or anything else with it. I would tell her that's too personal.
06/28/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
I think if you explained that it is such a personal and private issue between you and your husband and that he is also uncomfortable with her knowing the contents she might understand. Keep aside some of the milder items and let her comment on if she would like some like them--that way you are still validating her interest but keeping your privacy as well.
06/28/2012
Contributor: michael scofield michael scofield
no my mother found my fleshlight and was horrified
06/28/2012
Contributor: Sundae Sparkles Sundae Sparkles
my mom is more kinky then me.... the things that come out of her mouth Gawd
06/28/2012
Contributor: dawnkye dawnkye
Quote:
Originally posted by Lavendar
Never in a million years.
Exactly my reaction!
06/28/2012
Contributor: travelnurse travelnurse
My mother is the most prudish frigid person in the world, she even considered going into a convent after my father died. So hell no, she would lecture me to no end. I'm pretty open as far the sex stuff totally opposite of her, and when I found my son's fleshlight I had no issues with it. I told him good job he cant get it pregnant and cant get a disease from it.
06/28/2012
Contributor: <3BF <3BF
I just threw up a little in my mouth.
06/28/2012
Contributor: AlianneCimorene AlianneCimorene
Quote:
Originally posted by - Kira -
I finally decided to tell my mom about me reviewing. We're selling our house and she's been coming over to help us get it ready for showing. We had been moving our mass storage in and out of the garage every weekend which got to be a pain. ... more
My mom and I are pretty open with each other about this kind of thing, especially since she used to actually pay for the things as a kind of "gift" to me. However, since I'm so much more organized than her, I wouldn't let her organize them just because she'd screw up my system. Although she has gone out with me when I was shopping for containers, so it depends on how much "help."
Regardless, you should let your mom know that you aren't comfortable with her going through your toys. It's nice that she's getting you bins and such, but since you are the one who uses these things, having her 'help' might only be a hinderence (from a purely practical standpoint, not even including your discomfort) since she'd need to ask you where you want each thing.
06/28/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
I think if you explained that it is such a personal and private issue between you and your husband and that he is also uncomfortable with her knowing the contents she might understand. Keep aside some of the milder items and let her comment on if she ... more
Keeping a few things aside is a great idea. I thought of sorting out a few unused things to give to her hoping that would placate her some.
06/28/2012
Contributor: pirata pirata
no way, it would be totally creepy and just super uncomfortable. especially since my toys are bdsm related O.o
06/28/2012
Contributor: G&L G&L
Quote:
Originally posted by Petite Valentine
My collection is a lot smaller, so calling in extra hands to help move it around is completely unnecessary. However, even if I did need help moving it around, it would be a strictly husband & me job. I do not want questions or unsolicited ... more
Exactly!
06/28/2012
Contributor: Gracie Gracie
I would tell her straight up, this feels too sensitive to me. My husband and I feel uncomfortable going through the contents of our collection with you. I think that might be kinder in the long run than making an excuse or trying to redirect her. I know us southern girls were taught not to say no to our mothers, but you can say no thank you!
06/28/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
Quote:
Originally posted by Gracie
I would tell her straight up, this feels too sensitive to me. My husband and I feel uncomfortable going through the contents of our collection with you. I think that might be kinder in the long run than making an excuse or trying to redirect her. ... more
Good point! I hate saying no, especially when she's offering to help, but that's such an uncomfortable thing to have her help with!
06/28/2012
Contributor: HusbandandWife HusbandandWife
Quote:
Originally posted by - Kira -
I finally decided to tell my mom about me reviewing. We're selling our house and she's been coming over to help us get it ready for showing. We had been moving our mass storage in and out of the garage every weekend which got to be a pain. ... more
That is hilarious! It's fine if you feel comfortable enough to let her help but I could not imagine that happening. No way would I want either of our parents or any family member near our toys! I can hear my mother now... Most of our friends would be surprised by what is hidden behind our doors. The thought of someone discovering our stash scares me a little. After the embarrassment passes I am sure we would look back and laugh at the whole thing. Good luck!
06/28/2012
Contributor: *Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
I would have to say NO I mean that is private and personal. If she wants items I would show her the UNUSED ones and tell her she can have a pick from there. I mean my mom knows I have them and I review them but she NEVER sees them outside of the brown box they come in
06/28/2012