Would you cheat?

Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Despite near ten years in a celibate marriage, I did not. I was tempted once, and my ex-husband stopped it before I made a decision about it (the fucker still had the nerve to be surprised, even though he was expecting it).

I still don't believe I'll cheat when I'm ready for my next relationship; I'll make damn sure the next one actually has a libido.
10/24/2010
Contributor: Pandahb Pandahb
I think it would be exciting and completely stupid. If I no longer wanted to be with someone, I would just break it off. It isnt fair to that person if I cheated on him.
10/24/2010
Contributor: Persephone Nightmare Persephone Nightmare
One word.

***Never***

I couldn't ever hurt Synthetik and do that. It's not even something I am mentally or physically capable of considering. Every single fiber of my being would not allow it to even begin to happen, that is just how I'm wired. I think I mentioned in a thread a while back about how I cannot love, lust, make out with, kiss, be intimate with (and etc) anyone other than the person I love and have feelings for. Synthetik is the only one, and will always be the only one. I'm with him, I don't even take notice of other men's attractiveness, at all, no matter whom they are.

I am completely, 100% monogamous, and fiercely so. When I say that, I literally mean it: I need no one else other than him.

(Please note: That up there is not a 'dis' to anyone in poly or swinger relationships *at all*. I may be monogamous, but I respect other's relationship differences completely I'm sorry if I seem rather stern on this issue, as someone who was cheated on in a past relationship, I know firsthand the hurt that one feels from it. Even if the guy was just a High school boyfriend, and not, say, a husband of x number of years; it still hurt me very badly nonetheless)
10/24/2010
Contributor: Beth D Beth D
I can't say never because stuff happens. I certainly wouldn't set out with a cheating mindset and I'd would do my very best to remain faithful even during the wort of times. If for whatever reason I felt the need to seek comfort elsewhere, I'd talk to them openly and honestly about whatever the root of the compulsion is. If it can be worked out without any cheating or if I still very much love my significant other and some arrangement can be made, awesome. If we can't figure it out, I'd dissolve the relationship and do as I please with whoever.

If there's no problem with the relationship and I just have a superficial attraction to someone else? That's what fantasy is for.
10/24/2010
Contributor: DustBunny DustBunny
Nope, I've gone months without sex because he doesn't seem interested at all, and while it's horrid, I'd never cheat on him. I'll wait it out, even for months if I have to. It hurts, it makes me wonder if I'm not what he wants or if he doesn't have any interest in me, but it's not going to make it better if I cheat on him.
11/22/2010
Contributor: Kinkyquing Kinkyquing
No, because if I wasn't satisfied it wouldn't be necessary because of A. Sex toys and B. The fact the SO and I have an arrangement where I can sleep with other people (my sex drive being the much higher one) as long as she meets prospective partners first and I use protection (which in my mind is not cheating as she's informed and would be giving her approval before anything happened)
11/22/2010
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
Definitely not cause I wouldn't like it if someone did that to me. What goes around, comes around!
11/26/2010
Contributor: cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
Quote:
Originally posted by SexyySarah
If you and your partner weren't doing so well in the bedroom and you had the opportunity to cheat would you?
Nope. If I don't want to be monogamous then I won't settle down with someone. I am an honest and open person up front, and they will know what my intentions from the get go.
11/26/2010
Contributor: Destri Destri
I have been married to someone who cheated, and it is very painful. I would never cheat, and yeah, I have had the opportunity in that past marriage. Cheating is wrong. period.
11/27/2010
Contributor: Kimbertrees Kimbertrees
Never.
11/29/2010
Contributor: CanMan CanMan
Wow seeing all the no's is a refreshing site to see. I personal have no reason to cheat, I love my girl more than anything we both love toys and have more than our share of playtime and were so open in our relationship we talk about anything and everything and we respect and love each other for it. There is nothing we can't talk about Ha every one should date people that use toys we don't cheat no reason to.
11/29/2010
Contributor: SexyTabby SexyTabby
No, hubby and I have a bond that's more then just sex and besides I can't imagine sharing with anyone else.
11/29/2010
Contributor: Airekah Airekah
I would never cheat because i know how much it hurts
12/01/2010
Contributor: darthkitt3n darthkitt3n
No, I would not. I love my boyfriend way too much to do that to him. If we are having problems we need to work them out, and cheating isn't exactly a method of working it out.
12/01/2010
Contributor: KnK KnK
I'd dump before I'd cheat. If that person is bothering me or I'm not into them that way anymore and working it out hasn't worked.

I think cheating is sleazy if an open relationship has not been agreed upon and the other party isn't okay with it.
12/02/2010
Contributor: Mr. E Mr. E
If you and your partner weren't doing so well in the bedroom and you had the opportunity to cheat would you?

Risk everything that we have worked so hard to build...just for a piece of ass...Hell no!
We would make every effort to fix what was wrong in the bedroom.

But, after 20+ years, I think we've got the bedroom thing figured out.
12/02/2010
Contributor: northstar northstar
I'd either communicate or leave the person. Cheating most often turns around and bites people in the ass.
12/26/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
Quote:
Originally posted by Blinker
Just because things may go into a sexual rut, I would never leave behind all the love and intimacy and trust we've built together. I wuv my woobsie, even though he's a complete sadist and anime geek.
Awww
12/26/2010
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
Nope. Not a chance. If I weren't sexually satisfied with my partner, I'd talk to him about it and we'd work it out together.
02/13/2011
Contributor: Danielle1220 Danielle1220
Never...I believe in communication.
02/14/2011
Contributor: markeagleone markeagleone
Quote:
Originally posted by SexyySarah
If you and your partner weren't doing so well in the bedroom and you had the opportunity to cheat would you?
The bedroom is only one aspect of a relationship. My heart belongs to my wife and therefore, so does the rest of me!
02/16/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
depends on the situation, relationship, alcohol and person. I'm not going to say "I would never" because I think there are too many variables. Currently it's a non-issue though.
10/23/2011
Contributor: Eucaly Eucaly
It's an incredibly painful and heart-breaking thing to inflict on someone. If you really want to go behind their backs to cheat, it's far more honest just to end the relationship.

Unless the original relationship is abusive, so that it might be dangerous to ask to leave, there's simply no excuse for cheating.

What is so difficult about simply telling the first person it's over before starting a new sexual relationship? Some break-up emotional pain occurs, yes, but it's nothing compared to the pain inflicted on someone who gets cheated on, and at least it's honest.

Even if the new thing started very suddenly and unexpectedly, you still have the ability to pick up a phone and make a thirty-second phone call.
10/23/2011
Contributor: Mister CreamySweet Mister CreamySweet
Quote:
Originally posted by SexyySarah
If you and your partner weren't doing so well in the bedroom and you had the opportunity to cheat would you?
I would just ask first. Our marriage allows this with prior mutual knowledge and agreement.
10/23/2011
Contributor: Katastophy Katastophy
The only way that I could cheat has nothing to do with how life is in the bedroom. It completely depends on the emotional aspects. If I don't feel loved and wanted completely by my S/O, then I may go try to feel wanted by someone else if I'm in a weak mental state. I'm a good person, and I don't want to hurt any one, but if I'm mentally weak, I sometimes do things that I'm ashamed of. It's happened in the past when my relationship should have ended a year before, but we kept dragging it out. Obviously, I intend for it to never happen in future relationships. But if it even gets to that point, it's a pretty good sign that the relationship should end.
10/23/2011
Contributor: Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
I don't cheat. I just share partners with my beautiful fiance.
10/23/2011
Contributor: GenderSexplorations GenderSexplorations
Cheat? Never, no way. Threesome to spice things up? Maybe.
10/23/2011
Contributor: hjtee hjtee
Not a chance in hell, especialy not over something as trivial as sex.
10/23/2011
Contributor: JRabbits JRabbits
Absolutely not. Nor is that a good reason to cheat on someone.
10/23/2011
Contributor: Seth912 Seth912
I couldnt cheat.
10/23/2011