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Contributor: LusciousLollypop LusciousLollypop
I literally despise Mother's day. I have cried today, slept all day, and had my first drink in over three years.

I am very blessed to have been raised by my terrific grandmother, Nana (she has raised me since I was born). I catagorize her as my Mother and I wished her a happy mother's day.. she is my world. When I was born, I almost died because my mother was on drugs and lied to the doctors about it.

My "real" mother, the one who gave birth to me, she really let me down. I've only had one mother's day with her. Last year. She was "sober" for four years and my sister and I had a very lovely mother's day with her. This year.. She is off the wagon again and it really disappointed my sister and I. (our mother has always been on drugs (crack, heroin, speed), drank, gambled, you know name.. she does it). She is turning 42 tomorrow the 14th of May. I wonder if she will ever grow up and learn.

I just wanted to know who else hates Mother's day as much as I do. I literally want to forget about this day. Sorry if I offended all the Mother's out there. It is just very traumatic for myself and my sister.

Does anyone else have Mother trauma stories? Please share. I'd love to talk with someone. xoxo
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
I love Mother's Day! I love my mother!
ZenaidaMacroura , Rin (aka Nire) , Peggi , ellejay , mama2007 , pootpootpoot , DeliciousSurprise , ksparkles16 , unfulfilled , WhoopieDoo , BG529 , Nora29714 , Passion plum , TheHardOne , Bignuf , richsam , MissCandyland , michael scofield , treefrog88 , Allstars316 , Missmarc , SimpleTeaser , booboo111926 , Chelle Love , Anne , Gluesnffr , Forever Hers! , spiced , leilani , LavenderSkies , souviet , Pandwhora , PropertyOfPotter
33
I hate Mother's Day! I hate my mother!
LusciousLollypop , Master DarkWolf , DeliciousSurprise , xilliannax
4
I don't care either way, I don't celebrate Mother's day!
KrissyNovacaine , Master DarkWolf , Antipova , Stinkytofu10 , dv8 , Bleu , Flower1
7
I have a different person as my Mother and love her more than anything!
LusciousLollypop , Peggi , Do emu
3
I have Mother Trauma Issues Too! Let me tell you about it!
LusciousLollypop , Peggi , Deeder , GONE! , DeliciousSurprise , padmeamidala , jennifur77
7
Other -- Please Explain!
bayosgirl , Taylor , Allison.Wilder , Peaches2000 , DustBunny , Ms. N , PropertyOfPotter
7
Total votes: 61 (53 voters)
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05/13/2012
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Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
Sorry to hear that you don't like today. But glad you had your Nana there for you.
05/13/2012
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
I have a somewhat similar situation, in that my biological mother was on drugs, drank and was on so much caffeine daily I have caffeine withdraws terribly and always have. She also lied a lot about it. Before I was 1 year old I was adopted by my grandparents and although they did let her see me, and I knew the situation, I was always resentful of her for it because I had a lot of neurological issues because of it.

I do, however, celebrate Mother's Day because I was always one of those strong kids who just figured things like, she messed me up so I can just put her out of my life, or ignore her, but won't dwell on what I can't fix. So I do still celebrate for the mother who raised me who I view as my mother. I don't really hold those traumas.
05/13/2012
Contributor: Deeder Deeder
In terms of "celebrating your mother", I never cared for the day. My mother died when I was 8, so I never really had a lot of vivid memories of her growing up, and it only got harder when we'd make little cards and whatnots for our moms in school. The one thing we did do for a couple of years was go to visit her "grave" (really, just a space on a wall, since she was cremated), but no kid wants to do that, and my sisters and I would only end up getting depressed over it.

Now, as a mother myself, I still can't really get into it. To me it's just another day, and because that's the way I see it I find it pointless to get cards/gifts for my father's current wife, or my mother-in-law.
05/13/2012
Contributor: mama2007 mama2007
Quote:
Originally posted by LusciousLollypop
I literally despise Mother's day. I have cried today, slept all day, and had my first drink in over three years.

I am very blessed to have been raised by my terrific grandmother, Nana (she has raised me since I was born). I catagorize her ... more
I love mother's day and look forward to it every year. my kids usually make my mom a card and my Grandma one too. We cooked out today and had a fun dinner. after church, we took kids to ride a train at the railroad museum. it was fun
05/13/2012
Contributor: Master DarkWolf Master DarkWolf
My mother was horrible, I am glad I don't have to see her anymore! And I don't celebrate it, so I don't care...
05/13/2012
Contributor: ksparkles16 ksparkles16
Sorry about how you feel! I have a Mom...I just don't like mother's day because I feel like it's a card holiday.
05/14/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
I too look forward to mother's day, but because it's a day for me. As I am a mother. We get to go visit the family, I get a gift, we out out to eat, and we have mad sex. It's always a lovely day.

I can see why it's not the best day for you. I'm sorry about your mom. Drug addict can be hard for anyone to over come especially when it's hard core drugs. My heart goes out to you!
05/14/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I'm sorry you have such a hard time during Mother's Day. Without your mom, no matter all the disappointments she has caused you, you wouldn't be here. So celebrate you!
05/14/2012
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
I was raised to bake people pies when certain fruits are in season, listen to them, be respectful to them, etc. to show I appreciate them, rather than get a card once a year. So I'm kind of oblivious to holidays (now that I'm out of elementary school and nobody has me make construction-paper cards... )
05/14/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
I hate Mother's Day, not because I hate my mom, but because I miscarried my first pregnancy two months ago. As if it wasn't bad enough to see other women heavily pregnant or holding their babies like I should be looking forward to.. Mother's day is another cruel reminder of what I lost.
05/14/2012
Contributor: VelvetDragon VelvetDragon
Lately I hate Mother's Day, but it's not because I hated my mother, it's because she died a few years ago and I miss her terribly. She was one of my best friends. Everything reminds me of her right now. Commercials everywhere, signs on all the stores, radio mentions, every single show talks about it, threads on all the forums, calls to the SOs' mothers.

Her birthday is the end of April too, so these reminders just pile on. I've been having tons of nightmares about her being sick.
05/14/2012
Contributor: xilliannax xilliannax
Quote:
Originally posted by LusciousLollypop
I literally despise Mother's day. I have cried today, slept all day, and had my first drink in over three years.

I am very blessed to have been raised by my terrific grandmother, Nana (she has raised me since I was born). I catagorize her ... more
I hate mothers day because it reminds me of all the years when I thought my mom was doing so well and then I had children and realized how much of a selfish whore she was. It makes me very angry.
05/14/2012
Contributor: Annemarie Annemarie
I just don't celebrate it at all. My mother disowned me when I was 13. Haven't spoken to her since. Don't want to.

I'm pretty okay with things. It took awhile to get here, but it is what it is, and that's how you have to look at it. The past is in the past. Move on with your life. You're wasting so much energy hating something/someone that doesn't matter. Let it go.
05/14/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by LusciousLollypop
I literally despise Mother's day. I have cried today, slept all day, and had my first drink in over three years.

I am very blessed to have been raised by my terrific grandmother, Nana (she has raised me since I was born). I catagorize her ... more
I try to do something special for my mother on mother's day, not always though. I don't hate mother's day, but it's not my favorite holiday either.
05/14/2012
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
I don't really like mother's day that much, but will usually do something for my dad since my mom died when I was a kid and he basically had to be mom and dad. We didn't do anything this year though since he had to be out of town.
05/14/2012
Contributor: Allison.Wilder Allison.Wilder
I voted other. My mom died when I was 18 months old. My gram raised me and I always celebrated it for her. She passed away last year and it literally wrecked my world.

I'm a mom myself, but between last mothers day and this one, my boyfriend and I split up. My son is 19 months and my ex didn't even bother to have him color on a card or a piece of paper for me. It was pretty crappy.

I'm torn, I want to love mothers day, but I guess I'll remain undecided until next year.
05/14/2012
Contributor: Passion plum Passion plum
As a mother I like mother's day. I also got a nice mother's day gift for myself
05/14/2012
Contributor: Peaches2000 Peaches2000
Quote:
Originally posted by LusciousLollypop
I literally despise Mother's day. I have cried today, slept all day, and had my first drink in over three years.

I am very blessed to have been raised by my terrific grandmother, Nana (she has raised me since I was born). I catagorize her ... more
I love opportunity to do for others on Mother's day! This year I was able to take dinner to a mother of 5 whose hubby is serving our country. It was really fun!
05/14/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by LusciousLollypop
I literally despise Mother's day. I have cried today, slept all day, and had my first drink in over three years.

I am very blessed to have been raised by my terrific grandmother, Nana (she has raised me since I was born). I catagorize her ... more
You don't have to hate mothers day, since you can use it to celebrate any WORTHY woman in your life. You have that beautiful woman NANA to celebrate it for...so forget the pain that YOU had nothing to do with, and celebrate the woman who DESERVES and EARNED your love. It can be a GREAT day, when you look at the RIGHT reason to celebrate it!!!!
05/14/2012
Contributor: richsam richsam
Quote:
Originally posted by LusciousLollypop
I literally despise Mother's day. I have cried today, slept all day, and had my first drink in over three years.

I am very blessed to have been raised by my terrific grandmother, Nana (she has raised me since I was born). I catagorize her ... more
i love mothers day
05/17/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
I'm fortunate to have the mother that I have. Even though she doesn't always agree with what I say or do, she is always there for me.
05/17/2012
Contributor: michael scofield michael scofield
i love my mom and buy her a gift or take her out to eat even if it will hurt my pockets. this year i spent this mothers day i spent 200 total on her! that was a killer for me but she deserves it
05/17/2012
Contributor: DustBunny DustBunny
I like the chance to thank my mother, but I do so all the time. I find it to be somewhat annoying when I'm getting emails for weeks before telling me what's on sale, what to get her, how much I can "Save" if I shop here. I did send a gift, but I don't need 5 reminders a day from FTD, they are thee worst when it comes to that. All that being said, I love my mother, she's been a huge help in my life and it means the world to me that she's around.
05/17/2012
Contributor: Allstars316 Allstars316
I love my mother. We had a nice mothers day this year.
06/15/2012
Contributor: jennifur77 jennifur77
Quote:
Originally posted by LusciousLollypop
I literally despise Mother's day. I have cried today, slept all day, and had my first drink in over three years.

I am very blessed to have been raised by my terrific grandmother, Nana (she has raised me since I was born). I catagorize her ... more
I hate Mother's Day because I would like to be a mother, and I'm not. I often feel like a second class citizen around mother's day.
06/15/2012
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by LusciousLollypop
I literally despise Mother's day. I have cried today, slept all day, and had my first drink in over three years.

I am very blessed to have been raised by my terrific grandmother, Nana (she has raised me since I was born). I catagorize her ... more
I love my mom My dad wasn't there most of the time when I was little.
06/15/2012
Contributor: booboo111926 booboo111926
im super closed to my mom so mothers day is important to me
06/15/2012
Contributor: Anne Anne
My mother is my best friend.
08/07/2012
Contributor: Gluesnffr Gluesnffr
i appreciate my mom for everything she has done for me
10/16/2012