I was recently told that I was wrong in how I chose who to talk to or vent with by a friend of mine. I was just wondering if there was a normal or right way to choose and appreciate your help.
When you need to vent or confide in someone, who do you usually choose?
07/18/2011
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I sometimes vent about non important (but angry) issues with strangers or people I barely know. I do not confide my serious problems/feelings in anyone at all, (preferring to deal with it myself), and I talk to my friends about certain basic or common issues and my daughter about upsetting but short lived issues.
07/18/2011
I normally prefer to vent to my husband, but I'll rant to my best friend, some of my family members, and my coworkers. They're all amazing people who will sit there and listen to me rant and rave about something that really makes no difference in the long run whatsoever, but I need to complain about it at that moment.
07/18/2011
Depends on the topic to be honest.
But the very few people I vent too I only rant too simply because they will usually just laugh at me for it all. And that is what I want at the end of the day. I don't want pity or sympathy, I just want to be reminded that it is small potatoes and really not all that big int he grand scheme of things.
But the very few people I vent too I only rant too simply because they will usually just laugh at me for it all. And that is what I want at the end of the day. I don't want pity or sympathy, I just want to be reminded that it is small potatoes and really not all that big int he grand scheme of things.
07/18/2011
My husband.
07/18/2011
My wife.
07/18/2011
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Spouse.
Originally posted by
js250
I was recently told that I was wrong in how I chose who to talk to or vent with by a friend of mine. I was just wondering if there was a normal or right way to choose and appreciate your help.
07/18/2011
I NEVER ever speak badly of my spouse when we're having problems, ever. I might inquire how someone else felt but I never tear him down in the process.
There's a very good reason for it, too. Chances are in your favor that you'll work the argument out with them and move on but whomever you've spilled the beans to might hold a grudge against your spouse, especially if it is a close friend or family member you've been talking to.
And of course if you are vehement about the depth of your anger and then it does get worked out, you could then be considered one who cries wolf.
I have a 'friend' that I frequently reject her calls as soon as I see it on the caller ID because I *KNOW* she's just going to tell me some sob story about how she picked a fight with her husband, slept with her boytoy, neglected her children and/or used drugs I don't condone the use of. If I do pick up the phone, I let her rant, I tell her to change it if that's what she wants and I get off the phone. I don't value her opinion, her parenting-style or really anything about her as a person at all because this is ALL she does in life. I certainly don't give a shit about anything related to her marriage. That's for sure!
There's a very good reason for it, too. Chances are in your favor that you'll work the argument out with them and move on but whomever you've spilled the beans to might hold a grudge against your spouse, especially if it is a close friend or family member you've been talking to.
And of course if you are vehement about the depth of your anger and then it does get worked out, you could then be considered one who cries wolf.
I have a 'friend' that I frequently reject her calls as soon as I see it on the caller ID because I *KNOW* she's just going to tell me some sob story about how she picked a fight with her husband, slept with her boytoy, neglected her children and/or used drugs I don't condone the use of. If I do pick up the phone, I let her rant, I tell her to change it if that's what she wants and I get off the phone. I don't value her opinion, her parenting-style or really anything about her as a person at all because this is ALL she does in life. I certainly don't give a shit about anything related to her marriage. That's for sure!
07/18/2011
i go to my best friend or my bf.
07/18/2011
Depending on the subject, usually my best friend. After careful consideration, sometimes my husband.
07/18/2011
My best friend or my boyfriend.
07/18/2011
My boyfriend, who just happens to me my best friend as well!
07/18/2011
I go to my boyfriend or my best friend. They are the people I trust the most. For some things that aren't too personal I might talk to other friends.
07/18/2011
Sometimes when I'm really upset, venting immediately into a diary is the best choice. That way I can spew all the crap I want, and not being saying stuff I don't really mean to someone.
07/18/2011
I tend to vent to my close friends, they are the only ones who seem to really listen to me when it comes to stuff like that. And to thank them for all their listening I am always there when they want to vent as well
07/18/2011
Depending on what I want to vent about, I either vent to my best friend from college (we've known each other for 7 years and lived together for 4 years) or I vent to my man. Even though he's a good listener and someone I trust sincerely, I limit my venting with my man because I don't want to whine too much.
07/18/2011
I vent to my fiancee and to my family when I feel like I need to.
07/18/2011
My husband.
07/19/2011
it depends on the situation because i talk to different people about different stuff. i usually vent to my close friends though; sometimes family if i feel i can share it with them
07/19/2011
if i'm venting about my boy, i'll vent to girlfriends. anything else, i'll vent to my boy. family related stuff though (my parents, usually) i'll vent to my sisters. if it's about my sisters, i'll vent to my parents.
07/19/2011
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Exactly what I was gonna say, except for the family stuff. Family stuff goes to my boy as well.
Originally posted by
aliceinthehole
if i'm venting about my boy, i'll vent to girlfriends. anything else, i'll vent to my boy. family related stuff though (my parents, usually) i'll vent to my sisters. if it's about my sisters, i'll vent to my parents.
07/19/2011
Usually my guy, we vent and make each other feel better . . . also my family at times.
07/19/2011
No one. I just hold it in. I sometimes confide in my girl, but even then I restrain myself from full on venting.
07/19/2011
My sister hears mine
07/19/2011
It depends on the topic for me. Usually if I am going to vent, I talk to my husband or my mom. Most of the time though, I just hold it in, or I journal it privately so I can work through my feelings.
07/19/2011
One of my two best friends. But now that I think of it, I haven't had the need to do it for a while...
07/20/2011
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I will vent to my Master but I also have a very close friend who I like to vent to also. We go for breakfast and vent to each other.
Originally posted by
js250
I was recently told that I was wrong in how I chose who to talk to or vent with by a friend of mine. I was just wondering if there was a normal or right way to choose and appreciate your help.
07/20/2011
I vent to my SO and a few close friends.
07/20/2011
I talk to my wife about everything because she's always on my side (even if she has to lovingly correct me) and I know it will stay between us. If I have to talk to someone besides her it's my brother-in-law because I know it will stay between us as well.
07/20/2011
Most of the time I go to my sister........
07/20/2011
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