When someone you live with is stealing your underwear and ruining them?!

Contributor: kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
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Originally posted by thatonegirl
see if you can find something with draws like maybe a filing cabinet would be great and if she is 21 she should now better then to steal or barrow with out asking.
can you help me find some good storage options and ones that don't look too tacky in a bedroom? also my room is small...also I posted a link to a storage option I was looking at wat do you think?
01/25/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by kinky girlfriend
haha no way too time consuming and it would start so much drama and fights I would get stressed out and my ibs would get worse...I find it more productive to go the silent way in controlling it...plus I don't want to go to her level
Well you could always ask your mother how she would feel if her underwear started turning up completely ruined on a regular basis.
01/25/2011
Contributor: BluePixi BluePixi
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Originally posted by kinky girlfriend
my dad pays for the internet ...my sister's labtop is the only other one in the house and just my mom and dad use my computer....no way can they use my sister's and I don't mind my mom checking her email or my dad on here to go on ... more
That is rather hypocritical, little sis can invade your privacy and steal your stuff but you can't retrieve it, I might hurt someone if I were in that position. A security camera and a new lock seems like a start.

A 35 gallon tote will hold a lot of stuff but you might have to keep some things in bags to keep clothes separate from toys and whatnot. I think a really big tote would be a quick fix, but if you are going to be stuck there long term and this argument stretches or escalates it won't be enough. If you are big on "gestures" maybe you could replace a dresser with locked tubs to drive your point across. You can also look at garage fixtures a lot of the higher quality cabinets and things will lock, but they will be kinda pricey.

You seem to be headed for a big confrontation no matter what you do, you might want to figure out what you want to say when this all comes to a head. Accusations and recriminations however justified won't get results, and childish pranks are not going to help matters at all. Remember that you are an adult and especially in this situation you must act like it, so long as you act like a child your parents will treat you as such. Your sister is also an adult, you need to discuss her behavior with her not complain to your parents. As adults neither you nor your sister can be punished by your parents without your consent, they can't ground you, take your personal property from you or tell you to go to bed without dinner.

that is a really crappy living situation, is there any way you can get out? any friends you know well enough to be roommates with, or an aunt or grandmother who might be less nosy?
01/25/2011
Contributor: Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
Make a stand. Tell them this is how things are going to be done. Yeah it might not be your house but, you are a person, and you are entitled to privacy and your private property should not be stolen.

Just because they are family, and you live with them, that does not mean they can break the law.

You may want to look up tenant laws and see if you fall into any of that.
01/25/2011
Contributor: kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
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Originally posted by BluePixi
That is rather hypocritical, little sis can invade your privacy and steal your stuff but you can't retrieve it, I might hurt someone if I were in that position. A security camera and a new lock seems like a start.

A 35 gallon tote will ... more
I've told them a million times had millions of talks it never has gotten through. I don't touch anyone's stuff except my own. My dad is a nosy guy and has went through my belongings so I will just lock up what I don't want him to see or my sister to take...I think it may really be that simple..if my dad asks about the locked storage I could just say oh ya its just storage no one can steal from me anymore?

I wouldn't be surprised if they were so lazy when they saw the locks they may just give up...but who knows I will let you all know when I have my room totally cleaned and have recieved all locking storage OK?

Its going to be some time before I can afford it all maybe a month...but we'll see..
01/25/2011
Contributor: BluePixi BluePixi
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Originally posted by kinky girlfriend
I've told them a million times had millions of talks it never has gotten through. I don't touch anyone's stuff except my own. My dad is a nosy guy and has went through my belongings so I will just lock up what I don't want him to see ... more
well that sux. I wish you the best.

Oh, I have a suggestion to make sure your panties don't get lost. You can get a sweater sized lingerie bag. I bought mine at Target to use for separating clothes that I don't want to go through the dryer. I can usually fit a couple of dresses or several shirts in one.
01/25/2011
Contributor: kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
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Originally posted by BluePixi
well that sux. I wish you the best.

Oh, I have a suggestion to make sure your panties don't get lost. You can get a sweater sized lingerie bag. I bought mine at Target to use for separating clothes that I don't want to go through the ... more
my room is so bad I had my please,sir book and now I can't find it so I don't know if it was stolen or lost I think I lost it in here because I went through her stuff it wasn't there..its like omg she could easily access my EF books.Thank god i"m getting a kindle! I will clean in an hour or so I think not yet I still feel ill with ibs but I think its starting to settle some today...

maybe just lock up the sexy underwear and the plain ones I don't need to worry about because I'm doing my own laundry..
01/25/2011
Contributor: Airekah Airekah
my sister stole one of my vibrators once... I found it and threw it away I was so mad. Stealing anything intimate is ridiculous. My Friend had a roommate, of no relation, steal her underwear once. ugghh. *shudder*
01/25/2011
Contributor: thatonegirl thatonegirl
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Originally posted by Airekah
my sister stole one of my vibrators once... I found it and threw it away I was so mad. Stealing anything intimate is ridiculous. My Friend had a roommate, of no relation, steal her underwear once. ugghh. *shudder*
there are just some things people should not do
01/25/2011
Contributor: wetone123 wetone123
This sounds awful! I absolutely hate other people wearing my clothing...especially my underwear! I would throw them away! I would also try to get out of the home I lived with this person, if I couldn't I'd lock my stuff up, even my laundry.
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