Oh wow, I would be so hurt beyond words and massively pissed off. I'd at least pick up the nearest heavy object and throw it at both of them and then proceed to punch them both multiple times. No my marriage wouldn't be over, but it would take a crap ton of work to repair it. I'm not a violent person by any means or anything, but if my husband cheats on me, he better expect his face to meet my fist.
What would you do if you walked in on your partner having sex with someone else?
02/25/2012
The options are very, very bad ways of handling the situation, especially if said person is the other's husband. I think that it could be dealt with much better than just "walking out on the person."
02/26/2012
I'd be happy to include a third person occasionally to our bed. So if he talks to me about it ahead of time, we can turn this into a way better scenario.
I am a person that see emotional feeling and sexual lust as separates. If he's interested in just having sex with another person, I'd be able to work something out with him.
I am a person that see emotional feeling and sexual lust as separates. If he's interested in just having sex with another person, I'd be able to work something out with him.
02/26/2012
I would be devastated, betrayed and enraged. Hopefully I could be strong enough mentally to haul ass to a pawn shop and pawn my guns. Either way it would be over...and I would be the complete bitch during the divorce, leave town and let her have him. I am highly irrational, emotionally driven and vengeful when I am enraged, luckily I have only felt that way twice in my life, it scared me so much I never want to feel that again!
"That Georgia sun was blood red and going down..."
"That Georgia sun was blood red and going down..."
02/27/2012
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I honestly don't know, it happened to me when I was 16 I caught this skank sneaking out of my bf's house when he was having a party behind my back and my ass was climbing through her car window and I grabbed her hair and was trying to pull her out to beat her ass but someone came and carried me off. I grabbed ahold of him and let loose and his friend had to get me off. The girl broke the windshield of my car and went to court, she had a record and I didn't so she got charged with assault on me and had to pay for my car because they didn't believe her that I hit her first even though I really did. Ha, karma. I also found out one day that he was selling weed so I called the cops on him and he got busted. He was a piece of dirt, a real 'winner' I still occasionally see his name in the paper for theft, drugs or something else and I can't help but smile after the cheating and mental/physical abuse he put me through.
Originally posted by
Secret Pleasure
My friend just caught her husband cheating so I am curious to see how others would of handled this.
Now that I'm older and I don't want to go to jail it would take everything I had in me not to beat the living shit out of both of them. I know some people say don't beat on the 'other' girl but dammit most of the time they KNOW the guy is involved with someone else so if you wanna go there then you deserve an ass beating. I'd have to call my mom or someone to come get ahold of me before I do something stupid. My Associate degree is in Corrections and I'm finishing up my bachelor in 2 weeks for Corrections and Social Services and I CANNOT have any type of record and to be honest that has kept my ass in line more than once. Now I have to stop and THINK before I act, do I really want to risk an assault charge after all the years, time and work I put into school? I find other ways to get my revenge. I know revenge isn't really right but damn it feels good. Like recently a friend of 14 years realllllly screwed me over. I'm still hurt. What she did was pure evil and I'll never forgive her narcissistic ass since I did nothing but bend over backwards for her all those years. She was getting cable at the apartment she lives in for free because they forgot to cut the line or whatever so I have a friend that works for the cable company and I gave her the address and she had someone go out there and turn it off. I hope she likes watching the same DVD's over and over since she can't afford cable and isn't getting it for free anymore. *evil laugh*
02/27/2012
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Friends...yeah both get a huge kick in the ass, but just some random? Not worth the energy, the jail time, court dates, fines or the permanent record.
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Beck
I totally agree with this, but if the person is someone you know and they know about you then they are guilty too. But of course not as guilty as the one you are in a relationship with.
I am with you about how you would feel too. I would be ... more
I am with you about how you would feel too. I would be ... more
I totally agree with this, but if the person is someone you know and they know about you then they are guilty too. But of course not as guilty as the one you are in a relationship with.
I am with you about how you would feel too. I would be extremely hurt, especially since we are open and he already has permission to have sex with someone else as longs as I get to watch. So the fact that he would be having sex behind my back would mean that person is something more than sex. I would have to leave the relationship as much as that would hurt me. I would not be able to forgive that. less
I am with you about how you would feel too. I would be extremely hurt, especially since we are open and he already has permission to have sex with someone else as longs as I get to watch. So the fact that he would be having sex behind my back would mean that person is something more than sex. I would have to leave the relationship as much as that would hurt me. I would not be able to forgive that. less
And..exactly. There's nothing we can't figure out together.
02/27/2012
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Sooo, you lied to the courts, and let this girl get in legal trouble for something YOU started? I don't think letting someone else take your heat is proper retribution at all. I'm sure she must appreciate that you further tarnished her record, especially when the only thing she did was have sex with your boyfriend, which isn't illegal. However, physically assaulting someone to "take revenge" and then LYING about it is very much so. I hope that you're able to better control your anger so that you don't risk your future or anyone else's.
Originally posted by
Zombirella
I honestly don't know, it happened to me when I was 16 I caught this skank sneaking out of my bf's house when he was having a party behind my back and my ass was climbing through her car window and I grabbed her hair and was trying to pull
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I honestly don't know, it happened to me when I was 16 I caught this skank sneaking out of my bf's house when he was having a party behind my back and my ass was climbing through her car window and I grabbed her hair and was trying to pull her out to beat her ass but someone came and carried me off. I grabbed ahold of him and let loose and his friend had to get me off. The girl broke the windshield of my car and went to court, she had a record and I didn't so she got charged with assault on me and had to pay for my car because they didn't believe her that I hit her first even though I really did. Ha, karma. I also found out one day that he was selling weed so I called the cops on him and he got busted. He was a piece of dirt, a real 'winner' I still occasionally see his name in the paper for theft, drugs or something else and I can't help but smile after the cheating and mental/physical abuse he put me through.
Now that I'm older and I don't want to go to jail it would take everything I had in me not to beat the living shit out of both of them. I know some people say don't beat on the 'other' girl but dammit most of the time they KNOW the guy is involved with someone else so if you wanna go there then you deserve an ass beating. I'd have to call my mom or someone to come get ahold of me before I do something stupid. My Associate degree is in Corrections and I'm finishing up my bachelor in 2 weeks for Corrections and Social Services and I CANNOT have any type of record and to be honest that has kept my ass in line more than once. Now I have to stop and THINK before I act, do I really want to risk an assault charge after all the years, time and work I put into school? I find other ways to get my revenge. I know revenge isn't really right but damn it feels good. Like recently a friend of 14 years realllllly screwed me over. I'm still hurt. What she did was pure evil and I'll never forgive her narcissistic ass since I did nothing but bend over backwards for her all those years. She was getting cable at the apartment she lives in for free because they forgot to cut the line or whatever so I have a friend that works for the cable company and I gave her the address and she had someone go out there and turn it off. I hope she likes watching the same DVD's over and over since she can't afford cable and isn't getting it for free anymore. *evil laugh* less
Now that I'm older and I don't want to go to jail it would take everything I had in me not to beat the living shit out of both of them. I know some people say don't beat on the 'other' girl but dammit most of the time they KNOW the guy is involved with someone else so if you wanna go there then you deserve an ass beating. I'd have to call my mom or someone to come get ahold of me before I do something stupid. My Associate degree is in Corrections and I'm finishing up my bachelor in 2 weeks for Corrections and Social Services and I CANNOT have any type of record and to be honest that has kept my ass in line more than once. Now I have to stop and THINK before I act, do I really want to risk an assault charge after all the years, time and work I put into school? I find other ways to get my revenge. I know revenge isn't really right but damn it feels good. Like recently a friend of 14 years realllllly screwed me over. I'm still hurt. What she did was pure evil and I'll never forgive her narcissistic ass since I did nothing but bend over backwards for her all those years. She was getting cable at the apartment she lives in for free because they forgot to cut the line or whatever so I have a friend that works for the cable company and I gave her the address and she had someone go out there and turn it off. I hope she likes watching the same DVD's over and over since she can't afford cable and isn't getting it for free anymore. *evil laugh* less
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02/27/2012
Im selfish and won't share my hubby so id walk away and probly be done. I would be crushed but the hubby and I both agree that cheating is an automatic deal breaker
02/27/2012
I would leave and be done with it. If we keeping going I couldn't ever forgive so we would honestly just be wasting each others' time at that point.
02/27/2012
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You know what? I'm tired of you and your rude comments to me in the forum. YOU don't know me. I didn't feel the need to write the whole damn story but this girl did more than have sex with my damn boyfriend! She harassed me along with her friends at my job numerous times. She had a prior record for being a delinquent and underage drinking. She had 3 of her friends and herself waiting on me outside of my job to where I had to book it to my car so I wouldn't have to fight 4 to 1! This was all BEFORE I knew she was sleeping with him. Not only did she do that to my windshield but she also damaged her own vehicle by taking out her headlights, grill and driver's side mirror and tried to say I did it when there was NO time for me to leave, them to leave, go park her car, tear it up THEN come back to his house to meet the police. She was talked to first. Not ONCE was I asked if I hit her first or not. A friend of mine had said when asked that the other girl was the aggressor which in reality is true because she had been tormenting me for a month! I never went to court because I was told by the officer that I didn't have to attend that she along with her friends were having such and such charges against them if I wanted to carry it through and I said yes. So not once was I asked who hit who first nor did I ever go under oath in court and LIE. So how dare you come at me like that! I'd appreciate if you would just not direct any conversation toward me anymore because. I could have told the officer I hit her first but who in the hell is going to admit to something they weren't asked? I was 16 anyways, a dumb teenager. I'm 26 now and like in my comment, I have TOO much going for me to hit someone over something like that now. Oh I would want to but hitting a cheater or the girl isn't worth what I would put in jeopardy! Good Lord!
Originally posted by
Ms. Spice
Sooo, you lied to the courts, and let this girl get in legal trouble for something YOU started? I don't think letting someone else take your heat is proper retribution at all. I'm sure she must appreciate that you further tarnished her
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Sooo, you lied to the courts, and let this girl get in legal trouble for something YOU started? I don't think letting someone else take your heat is proper retribution at all. I'm sure she must appreciate that you further tarnished her record, especially when the only thing she did was have sex with your boyfriend, which isn't illegal. However, physically assaulting someone to "take revenge" and then LYING about it is very much so. I hope that you're able to better control your anger so that you don't risk your future or anyone else's.
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02/27/2012
I would probably rage hard and then attack both of them. I would be out for blood.
02/27/2012
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Throw the covers back, slap him in the face, leave, and watch him try to run after me.
Originally posted by
Secret Pleasure
My friend just caught her husband cheating so I am curious to see how others would of handled this.
02/27/2012
It would seriously depend on whether I knew about it first. If my boyfriend asked first and I was ok with it, I'd probably join in. If he cheated, I'd walk away forever.
02/27/2012
I think she would be looking for a new home to move her stuff into, if that ever happened.
02/27/2012
Take some pictures for proof in the divorce, and then be done.
02/27/2012
Done!
02/27/2012
That would be the end of that. For both relationships, if I happened to know both parties.
02/27/2012
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we both agreed when we got together that any cheating would end our relationship.
Originally posted by
Secret Pleasure
My friend just caught her husband cheating so I am curious to see how others would of handled this.
02/27/2012
I would completely freak out. That would definitely be the end of ANY sort of relationship with that person, and I might badmouth them to everyone ever cheaters are horrible.
02/28/2012
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This. Probably with me keying their cars on the way out.
Originally posted by
Love Perpetua
Take some pictures for proof in the divorce, and then be done.
02/28/2012
I'd be done with the relationship.
If my boyfriend and/or I am going to be doing something sexual with another person, then we are both supposed to be present. That's a very clear and understood rule in our relationship. I would be incredibly hurt if I walked in on him with someone else. That's a HUGE violation of my trust.
If my boyfriend and/or I am going to be doing something sexual with another person, then we are both supposed to be present. That's a very clear and understood rule in our relationship. I would be incredibly hurt if I walked in on him with someone else. That's a HUGE violation of my trust.
02/28/2012
I would walk out and never see that person again! Instantly cut out of my life. I may beat the crap out of them before I leave, depends on the moment if i'm angry or not
03/20/2012
In the words of Velma Kelly...
Well, I was in such a state of shock,
I completely blacked out.I can't remember a thing.
It wasn't until later,
when I was washing the blood off my hands...
I can forgive many things, but bringing someone into our home to cheat with is so disrespectful and hurtful that I don't think it would end well.
Well, I was in such a state of shock,
I completely blacked out.I can't remember a thing.
It wasn't until later,
when I was washing the blood off my hands...
I can forgive many things, but bringing someone into our home to cheat with is so disrespectful and hurtful that I don't think it would end well.
03/20/2012
I'd calmly leave, make a pot of hot coffee in the kitchen, return to the bedroom and pour it over the both of them.
03/20/2012
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OK so in our case I would know and probably be the one who was being inconsiderate BUT before we opened our relationship I DID walk in on my best friend and my husband. I turned and walked out and it became a giant friendship ending/relationship ending affair. I didn't leave because I was actually walking in after taking a shower in preparation for a threesome with her but it was still a ahsock that they didn't wait! It was like they were so damn hot for each other that they just jumped on in as soon as I was out of the room. So ya...regardless of the actual circumstance cheating hurts. I am so sorry for your girlfriend, this is not going to be an easy time for her. Just let her know that 'this,too, shall pass' and there is life after cheating.
Originally posted by
Secret Pleasure
My friend just caught her husband cheating so I am curious to see how others would of handled this.
Massive hugs to her.
03/20/2012
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Personal flags or not I agree with Ms. Spice! By the Law of Attraction your actions incured Karma as well...You were young and, presumably, so were the boy and girl in your story. It's understandable but not at all laudable.
Originally posted by
Ms. Spice
Sooo, you lied to the courts, and let this girl get in legal trouble for something YOU started? I don't think letting someone else take your heat is proper retribution at all. I'm sure she must appreciate that you further tarnished her
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Sooo, you lied to the courts, and let this girl get in legal trouble for something YOU started? I don't think letting someone else take your heat is proper retribution at all. I'm sure she must appreciate that you further tarnished her record, especially when the only thing she did was have sex with your boyfriend, which isn't illegal. However, physically assaulting someone to "take revenge" and then LYING about it is very much so. I hope that you're able to better control your anger so that you don't risk your future or anyone else's.
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It truly is frightening how our society says it's ok to physically abuse or seek revenge on someone who cheats on you. It's NOT ok!
The appropriate response should be to walk away and get some help dealing with the immense feelings of betrayal and anger.
I have been cheated onrepeatedly but never once did I feel it was appropriate to escalate the matter into violence. I screamed, I yelled, I hurt, I got help and got better...to me that's a laudable response.
03/20/2012
probably dream about f*ing his brain for the rest of my natural born days and then a little more... in my next lives. Then when I came to my senses I would want to hang him from a tree every-time I thought about it. yup thats pretty much it
03/20/2012
I am horribly posessive (but so is he so it works) and he would probably never be seen again and I have told him as much. We refer to it as mutually assured destruction.
03/20/2012
oops repeat post.
03/20/2012
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