I wasn't a virgin. I have mixed feelings about my own daughter being a virgin until marriage.
Virginity
04/10/2011
She: We were each other's firsts. I waited to have sex until I knew I wanted to be with him for the long haul.
04/10/2011
I wanted to save myself for marriage, both as a religous and personal choice. My husband was very respectful of me being a virgin and really wanted to uphold that for me. But we fell madly in love (joking gags) with each other and one day things got hot and heavy between my now husband and I couldnt help myself and we did it. I understand the arguement of sexual compatability. But I guess Im one of those weird folks that think I dont have to sleep with ever person i have dated or any person I meet to see who I am sexually compatible with. My husband and I have different sex drives but you know, we have figured out how to make it work. We both are sexually satisfied.
04/10/2011
Thought I would be when I was little. Glad I was wrong.
12/16/2012
Oh man...thats a good question. I was kinda..well actually...I was a slut. I had a lot of partners before my wife came along.
12/16/2012
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I am not a virgin, I am not married.
Originally posted by
Miss T
I am the very proud mother of an 18 year old daughter who is still a virgin by choice. She has been in a few long term relationships, but is saving herself for marriage. I'm very proud of her for wanting to complete college and make something of
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I am the very proud mother of an 18 year old daughter who is still a virgin by choice. She has been in a few long term relationships, but is saving herself for marriage. I'm very proud of her for wanting to complete college and make something of herself before marriage and kids. So what I was wondering is how many of you EF members saved yourself for marriage or have daughters that are.
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12/16/2012
I wasn't a virgin when I got married, due to believing in the old adage that you never buy a pair of shoes without trying them on first.
12/16/2012
I'm still a virgin and not married yet.
12/16/2012
My husband and I didn't wait until marriage, and honestly, the sexual struggles we went through (and overcame) really brought us closer.
12/16/2012
I'm not married, but I am not a virgin. "Saving myself for marriage" never even crossed my mind as a possibility. I just always believed I would have sex with whomever I wanted to have sex with. I never saw the point in "saving myself." Saving myself from what? Pleasure?
Sexual compatibility is just as important as emotional compatibility. If I don't have sex with someone, how am I going to know if we are sexually compatible?
My mom also never raised me expecting me to be a virgin. She raised me expecting me to have sex, so she always made sure I knew to use condoms, that I could come to her for birth control pills if I wanted them, etc. She was a teenage mother. She didn't want that to happen to me, but knew that I would have sex.
Sexual compatibility is just as important as emotional compatibility. If I don't have sex with someone, how am I going to know if we are sexually compatible?
My mom also never raised me expecting me to be a virgin. She raised me expecting me to have sex, so she always made sure I knew to use condoms, that I could come to her for birth control pills if I wanted them, etc. She was a teenage mother. She didn't want that to happen to me, but knew that I would have sex.
12/16/2012
my thought is...i would be worried about the curiosity factor. having only been with one perons, i would wonder if i'd missed something. as a man, i don't know if it would work very well to never have been with anyone else. i know a couple where she was a virgin but he wasn't. they seem happy enough. i guess what i'm saying is that it might be easier for a woman to do that than a man. but i suppose it just depends on the person. i wouldn't say it is a good thing or a bad thing. if that is her choice, then it is right for her.
12/16/2012
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I highly agree with this. I'm not married, but I have a daughter (obviously not a virgin).
Originally posted by
Tori Rebel
I was not a virgin when I got married. I had, at one time, planned on being so, and it was my parents of all people that convinced me that may not be the smartest way to go. They certainly weren't pushing me into bed with anyone, but they
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I was not a virgin when I got married. I had, at one time, planned on being so, and it was my parents of all people that convinced me that may not be the smartest way to go. They certainly weren't pushing me into bed with anyone, but they explained (in the least embarrassing terms possible) that physical incompatibility can be a complete deal breaker in a relationship. Knowing what I do now, I completely agree with them.
They didn't want me to marry someone only to end up in a completely incompatible relationship and be unsatisfied for my entire adult life. They encouraged me to take my time and never be rushed, but to consider being sure that anyone I was going to be with forever was compatible with me in ALL ways. It's one of the strangest, yet smartest, things they ever did for me. less
They didn't want me to marry someone only to end up in a completely incompatible relationship and be unsatisfied for my entire adult life. They encouraged me to take my time and never be rushed, but to consider being sure that anyone I was going to be with forever was compatible with me in ALL ways. It's one of the strangest, yet smartest, things they ever did for me. less
12/16/2012
I was not a virgin when I got married, but I married the guy I lost my virginity to.
12/16/2012
same here. i was not a virgin when i got married but i made the mad i lost my virginity with
12/16/2012
apparently that is very rare now a days
12/16/2012
I won't be a virgin when I get married but I waited until I was over 18 and responsible enough to make such a big decision and to be able to handle any consequences.
12/17/2012
I'm not married yet and won't be a virgin when I am and I'm totally fine with that.
12/17/2012
I think 17-18 is a good age.
12/17/2012
Not a virgin and not married but I am going out with the person that I'd like to marry.
12/18/2012
I voted married but only because I was a virgin until I met my wife and never slept with anyone else. We married soon after our first time,
12/18/2012
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