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Contributor: Rossie Rossie
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Originally posted by Ryuson
That's a really good idea! i was kind of thinking of doing something like this, but it's hard to get her to go down that isle! She's really a 'get what we need and go' type of shopper! I was kind of considering asking her if ... more
Just pretend you're having a hard time to decide on a feminine product, and hang around that aisle. If my daughter asks me straight out whether I own adult toys, I'll feel kind of awkward, but I'll probably answer her in a matter of fact way. Just curious, how old is your mom, does she ever talk about how she lived her life when she was around your age? That will give you some perspective of what her reaction might be, when you discuss with her about things related to sex.
My daughter and I only have an age gap of twenty years, so we have a easier-going relationship than most mothers/daughters. She's comfortable talking to me about her boyfriend problems in her teen years, and I'll give her advise in a liberal way.
08/04/2011
Contributor: Sinfully Sinfully
"Other" it depends on your mom. You would know her better than any of us. If she is pretty chill about things I don't see a problem in telling her. If it's going to cause more drama than it's worth keep it on the hush hush.
08/04/2011
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
(Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
Just pretend you're having a hard time to decide on a feminine product, and hang around that aisle. If my daughter asks me straight out whether I own adult toys, I'll feel kind of awkward, but I'll probably answer her in a matter of ... more
There's around a 27 year age gap between me and my mum! It's a little bit weird, but I feel like she respects me and my decisions. I just really wouldn't know how to bring up the conversation~ And I feel like if I asked her what a vibrator was, to tell her a few weeks later that I've been reviewing them for a while, that would seem a little bit underhanded!
08/05/2011
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
Quote:
Originally posted by Ryuson
There's around a 27 year age gap between me and my mum! It's a little bit weird, but I feel like she respects me and my decisions. I just really wouldn't know how to bring up the conversation~ And I feel like if I asked her what a ... more
If you believe your mom respects you and trusts your decisions, then just sit down with her, and patiently explain to her about your connection with the Eden community. Helping her to comprehend your activities in a positive way is probably the thing to do. Showing her the Expectations of Conduct of this site might make her feel more at ease, knowing you're amongst a community of decent people.
08/05/2011
Contributor: systematicweasel systematicweasel
It all depends on your relationship with your parents to be honest. I wouldn't tell my parents, not because they'd be against it, but we all work under the theory of, "So what, people have sex, I don't need to hear about it, or know that you're doing it." It makes our lives easier in a sense lol.
08/05/2011
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
(Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
If you believe your mom respects you and trusts your decisions, then just sit down with her, and patiently explain to her about your connection with the Eden community. Helping her to comprehend your activities in a positive way is probably the ... more
Thank you for being so helpful! I might try and do this before my next shipment comes in!
I'd rather her know and not open any more packages!
08/06/2011
Contributor: Samantha Samantha
We have a lot of packages coming to the house. This proved real problematic when my stepdad almost opened one of my boxes . I've seen my mom come home from a shopping trip with a bag from an adult store (though she did try to hide it), so that leads me to believe she's open minded...still...I haven't told them that I review or receive toys. If you're real worried about her finding/opening packages and you decide to not tell her, try to place your order so that the delivery date will coincide with a time you're the only one home. It's worked for me since I started doing it that way with the exception of one delivery that got delayed by weather...it was a mad dash to meet the post lady that day, lol.
08/09/2011
Contributor: Apirka Apirka
I say as some others have... it depends on you relationship. In my case, no I would never tell my mother, and I'm in my early thirties.
02/02/2012
Contributor: Secret Pleasure Secret Pleasure
I voted for other because I think it is your business and who cares what anyone else thinks. Whats the wirst that will happen if you tell her? I say do what you feel is best for you.
02/02/2012
Contributor: NicNat NicNat
When ever I was visting my mom, I had a package sent there and she got really curios, so I told her about about Edens and she didn't say anything besides for she thought EF was pretty cool.
02/02/2012
Contributor: voenne voenne
Wait and see if she brings it up. It's your own business, you're basically an adult now with the right to your privacy from family, so you don't have to feel obligated. Otherwise it would be awkward to just randomly bring it up (in my opinion).

If she's curious in a good way, she'll ask. If she's guessed already and doesn't want to know that side of your life, then she probably won't and there's no use saying anything.
02/02/2012
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
I would be upset with my package being partially opened, regardless to my relationship with my mother. But it's up to you whether or not you tell her, it's your body, your business. Personally, I wouldn't.
02/02/2012
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
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Originally posted by GravyCakes
this is why i'm glad i have an apartment at school. i send all my stuff there. my parents can see when i spend money & where i spend it b/c they have access to my bank account so they can send me money every now & then. this is why i ... more
Oh yeah. Gotta love the points program.
02/02/2012
Contributor: calliope calliope
It's best for me to put things out in the open. Get it off my chest, but not always. I guess it really depends on your mom and the relationship between the two of you.
02/02/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
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Originally posted by Taylor
I think it would depend on your relationship. I know when I was living at home I wouldn't have wanted to talk to my parents about such things, but I know everyone's relationship with their parents is different. If you think she might react ... more
Great comments, Taylor!! This was what I was thinking as well.
02/02/2012
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by Nissa Nissa
Seeing how my telling her bit me in the ass. I'd be hesitant.
i'd never tell my mom, but then, we're not close, and she's very very conservative and judgmental... where as i'm not conservative and don't give a fuck about what other people do, as long as they're not hassling me.
02/02/2012
Contributor: Harpina is gone Harpina is gone
If you have a good/close relationship with her, then tell her! I talk to my mom about sex and toys all the time.
03/17/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Ryuson
My mum has been getting suspicious about the packages I've been getting (she even partially opened one of them) but is too polite to ask about them. Should I tell her about Eden? Or at least that I'm reviewing adult products? Or should I keep ... more
Really depends on both your moms personality and your relationship with her. Otherwise, could be awkward and uncomfortable...for no good reason.
03/17/2012
Contributor: jmex83 jmex83
Quote:
Originally posted by Ryuson
My mum has been getting suspicious about the packages I've been getting (she even partially opened one of them) but is too polite to ask about them. Should I tell her about Eden? Or at least that I'm reviewing adult products? Or should I keep ... more
my wife and I are pretty open with our parents, so its easy for us to say...but honestly if you and your mom have a decently good relationship, i doubt that she'll think poorly of you. Just explain things to her and that its not a big deal.

Maybe purchase some things for her? Get a beauty kit or lotions or something. Show her that its not all about "sex toys".
03/17/2012