I would say how I feel but wouldnt bitch about it.
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Should the bridesmaid voice her opinion of her dress or keep her freaking mouth shut?
12/05/2011
if someone told me that they didn't like the dress I put them in, I'll probably either get sad or kind of pissed. More than likely the Bride is paying for the dress, so I personally would keep my mouth shut unless it didn't fit properly.
12/05/2011
I think so
12/05/2011
I agree with Pgell, the wedding day is not the most important part of being married! I do think that it is the bride's day, but she should also to a point take into consideration her bridesmaids opinions about the dresses. The bridesmaids should not be ruling the wedding though!
12/06/2011
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Second this. It is the Bride's wedding, and the bridesmaids need to understand that and realize they might not be wearing a color or style that they like. But when it comes to something that is unflattering to the point of indecent, a bridesmaid should speak up. I have a friend who is getting married next year and picked out gorgeous strapless sweetheart neckline gowns for her bridesmaids... without thinking about how two of them are quite large in the chest area and would not be able to wear the dress without showing lots of cleavage. Thankfully it was easily remedied by adding straps, but in that case it was good that the bridesmaids spoke up before the day of the wedding!
Originally posted by
Maiden
Ultimately I have to agree that it is the bride's day and they should just suck it up. There are two instances where I feel they should voice their opinion. One: the dress doesn't look well on their body type. I know as a plus sized woman, I
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Ultimately I have to agree that it is the bride's day and they should just suck it up. There are two instances where I feel they should voice their opinion. One: the dress doesn't look well on their body type. I know as a plus sized woman, I would feel very uncomfortable in a strapless, too short, too tight dress. I think in this case a bride should be willing to compromise and find a dress similar or have the dress altered to have a better fit. Two: In the instance where the bride is requiring the bridesmaid to buy her own dress. First of all, I disagree entirely on this issue. A bridesmaid should never be made to buy her own dress unless the bride doesn't care what she wears at all. In that case the bridesmaid should at least be able to buy a flattering dress that she can wear at many different occasions. If the bride wants her bridesmaids to buy their own dress, they shouldn't really have any say about what dress they buy. That's just my opinion.
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12/06/2011
I don't understand why weddings have become theatre shows.
You used to just wear your nicest clothes, no matchy-matchy and forcing everyone to buy new clothes and look the same.
While I don't think it's completely wrong, and if that's what you want and everyone can really afford it - go for it, I think more people should evaluate the idea of a wedding and think outside the box.
You used to just wear your nicest clothes, no matchy-matchy and forcing everyone to buy new clothes and look the same.
While I don't think it's completely wrong, and if that's what you want and everyone can really afford it - go for it, I think more people should evaluate the idea of a wedding and think outside the box.
12/06/2011
My bridesmaids had only one requirement . They had to wear a black dress (we had an evening wedding)of their choosing; preferably one they already owned. They all were unique and stunning.
I think it is ridiculous the amounts of money that are wasted on dresses that will never see the light of day again. Maybe I am too practical.
I think it is ridiculous the amounts of money that are wasted on dresses that will never see the light of day again. Maybe I am too practical.
12/06/2011
I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH YOU!
I, too, watch those shows (and am completely addicted!) and when some of those bridesmaids get to going, I honestly wanna reach though the screen and slap them! If I were a bridesmaid, I would start off by asking the bride to pick something that would work with my body type and let her chose what she wanted, because she IS the bride...
I, too, watch those shows (and am completely addicted!) and when some of those bridesmaids get to going, I honestly wanna reach though the screen and slap them! If I were a bridesmaid, I would start off by asking the bride to pick something that would work with my body type and let her chose what she wanted, because she IS the bride...
12/06/2011
I'm about to get married-I let My bridesmaids pick out their dresses, but they had to stick to the color scheme and I had to like it, she found one she loved, and luckily i loved it too, but i made the final say since i was the one paying for her dress anyways.
12/06/2011
Granted, I wouldn't be in such a position, but I've never been one to keep quiet about something that irks me. If a guy I know wanted me as a best man and wanted me to wear some florid suit, I'd definitely speak up. Furthermore, if I were to inflict something like that on my best friend, I'd expect him to speak up (otherwise I wouldn't think much of him, and thus not best man material), and if he has a point, I'd change it to something we both can agree on.
12/06/2011
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Yeah, like that. It makes no sense to me that there has to be so much friction.
Originally posted by
TheSlyFox
I'm about to get married-I let My bridesmaids pick out their dresses, but they had to stick to the color scheme and I had to like it, she found one she loved, and luckily i loved it too, but i made the final say since i was the one paying for her
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I'm about to get married-I let My bridesmaids pick out their dresses, but they had to stick to the color scheme and I had to like it, she found one she loved, and luckily i loved it too, but i made the final say since i was the one paying for her dress anyways.
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12/06/2011
I think it's ok if they voice their opinion, but they either need to accept that's what the bride wants or ditch the job altogether.
I'd take the second option personally. I think being a bridesmaid is the worst job EVER and I'll NEVER do it again!
I'd take the second option personally. I think being a bridesmaid is the worst job EVER and I'll NEVER do it again!
12/06/2011
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Good idea. I bet it was beautiful and unique.
Originally posted by
Redboxbaby
My bridesmaids had only one requirement . They had to wear a black dress (we had an evening wedding)of their choosing; preferably one they already owned. They all were unique and stunning.
I think it is ridiculous the amounts of money that ... more
I think it is ridiculous the amounts of money that ... more
My bridesmaids had only one requirement . They had to wear a black dress (we had an evening wedding)of their choosing; preferably one they already owned. They all were unique and stunning.
I think it is ridiculous the amounts of money that are wasted on dresses that will never see the light of day again. Maybe I am too practical. less
I think it is ridiculous the amounts of money that are wasted on dresses that will never see the light of day again. Maybe I am too practical. less
I, too, think that people are too impracticable about weddings.
I've only stood up to one wedding, my mom's second wedding. The dress was, of course hideous. I was standing up with my step sister, who was a cutter, so the dresses had turtle necks and long sleeves. I hate turtle necks and long sleeves and I looked hideous in the dress.
Most of my friends' parents couldn't afford big weddings and/or they only had a Maid of Honor (usually their sister, my step sister was a lesbian, so of course no wedding years ago) so I have never had the "honor" (thank G*d) to have to stand up in a wedding. My friends now are too old to have "Wedding parties" with people standing up, (I would certainly hope a woman my age wouldn't go insane like a 23 year old girl and have a Bridezilla type wedding) so there's no fear it will ever happen.
12/06/2011
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I actually saw that episode!
Originally posted by
GravyCakes
i love watching say yes to the dress & all those shows that deal w/ wedding dress & bridesmaids dress sales. whenever i watch a bridal party pick out bridesmaids dresses, though, it's the same every time. the bride wants a certain look
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i love watching say yes to the dress & all those shows that deal w/ wedding dress & bridesmaids dress sales. whenever i watch a bridal party pick out bridesmaids dresses, though, it's the same every time. the bride wants a certain look for HER wedding, & the bridesmaids bitch b/c they don't like the dress's style or color or whatever. i can understand why they would if a bride is intentionally putting you in something that even she doesn't like or that you don't like just to piss you off, but most of the time, the bride wants a specific look & color to go with HER wedding. i feel that if you at least say something nicely ONCE or the bride ASKS for your opinion, then you should keep your mouth shut. on one of the shows the other day, the bride's colors for the wedding were black & red. she was nice enough to let her 2 bridesmaids pick out the dresses they wanted to wear, as long as it was flowy, knee length, & black or red. well, both the bridesmaids love the color pink & started bitching about how they wanted to wear pink & were trying on a bunch of pink dresses. they eventually ended up leaving w/out purchasing anything. IT'S NOT YOUR WEDDING!!! my sister & i have an agreement that when we get married, we'll wear whatever we tell each other to wear as long as we aren't purposely trying to make each other look like shit. i told her that if she makes me wear something ugly at her wedding, then i'll make her wear something ugly at mine. either way, we aren't going to argue & bitch & threaten to not be in the wedding if we don't get out way b/c IT'S NOT OUR FREAKING WEDDING! it's not all about you, it's all about the bride! & groom of course. how do you feel about this?
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In my opinion, you do what the bride wants. Sometimes that can seem to bite you in the ass when the bride wants something you think is super tacky, but if you're there to support your friend you support your friend and suck it up and wear the dress you don't like. I've seen people get into huge fights over bridesmaids dresses, and I've been saddled with dresses that I can't wear again and had to pay a decent amount of money for. This is why I opted for something that really could be worn again and made sure to get my bridesmaids opinions on it. I mostly had a specific color in mind, and found a dress that everybody was happy with.
12/06/2011
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I disagree that it's likely the bride is paying for the dress. A lot of bridesmaids have to pay for their own. This could be a location thing but all the weddings I've been in required the bridesmaids to buy their own dresses.
Originally posted by
Ms. Spice
if someone told me that they didn't like the dress I put them in, I'll probably either get sad or kind of pissed. More than likely the Bride is paying for the dress, so I personally would keep my mouth shut unless it didn't fit properly.
I think bridesmaids should be given a reasonable voice considering they're frequently throwing money out the window. I mean, who really gets more than one use out of the dress? Not many. Maybe they don't need to love the dress but if it something they truly hate, how much fun are they going to have at a wedding..? IE, how are they going to contribute to the bride's day?
But what bride really wants her bridesmaids to look poor or feel uncomfortable? That's probably a bigger issue in itself (the bride's a bitch).
12/07/2011
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