Does the label "virgin" bother you?

Contributor: Sensual husband Sensual husband
It does not bother me either way but the word virgin when used as a negative thing is just a writer being lazy.
09/14/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
The concept seems to imply that being a virgin is somehow superior to not being one - until some mythical time where the meaning reverses.

Very few people are really virgins at the point of marriage, and being a virgin at marriage confers no ... more
Love this statement right here!

I do really hate the thought that virgins are more pure and whatever. Just because someone has sex does not make the vagina worthless! Just cause some one has not had sex does not make that vagina gold either.
09/14/2011
Contributor: Pink Jewel Pink Jewel
I doesn't bother me
09/30/2011
Contributor: noelleish noelleish
hate the word.
02/17/2012
Contributor: icyqueen icyqueen
Quote:
Originally posted by Beth D
It doesn't bother me either way. I see it as a fact and I don't have anything against facts. However, if someone uses it as some kind of slander, e.g. 'You're just a virgin that doesn't know anything', that bothers me.
I agree!
02/23/2012
Contributor: SecretToyLover2 SecretToyLover2
Saying someone is a virgin does not bother me
02/23/2012
Contributor: JessCee JessCee
I've never thought of "virgin" as a label... It's more of a factual thing, I think... not a label.
02/23/2012
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
The term itself doesn't bother me, but I hate the emphasis placed on it. Virginity is either placed on a pedestal or looked down upon. There's no middle ground for most people. The ambiguity bugs me, too - most people agree that PIV sex is a clear loss of virginity, but branching out into all the other types of sex just muddies the issue.

I call myself a virgin simply because I've never had sexual contact of any kind with another person. Once I've actually fooled around, even if PIV sex isn't involved, I'll probably drop it.
02/23/2012
Contributor: rawsonbr rawsonbr
Doesn't bother me just another word.
02/23/2012
Contributor: anonkitty anonkitty
It's all about the intention behind the word more than the word itself. That being said, the label doesn't bother me at all. =]
08/21/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
It's silly, so I don't really care about the word
08/21/2012
Contributor: HannahPanda HannahPanda
Rubs me the wrong way a little but then again, it's the emphasis moreso than the label that bothers me.
08/21/2012
Contributor: XxFallenAngelxX XxFallenAngelxX
I would LOVE to be one again, lol..
08/22/2012
Contributor: Vaginas Vaginas
I feel like it's a social construct created to make people feel bad about themselves. it's like you either feel bad that you are a virgin, or you feel bad that you aren't.
08/22/2012
Contributor: namelesschaos namelesschaos
I find the entire concept of virginity to be backwards (why do we culturally refer to the gain of sexual experience as a loss) patriarchal, hetero-sexist and sex negative. Hence I don't find the label to be very useful.
08/22/2012
Contributor: Willowe Willowe
The label itself doesn't bother me but I don't like the connotations that go along with it.
08/22/2012
Contributor: Rory Rory
The label doesn't bother me but it really shouldn't be anyone else's business if I an a virgin.
08/23/2012
Contributor: pitonno pitonno
either way is fine
08/23/2012