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Is Bad Sex Better Than No Sex?

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Contributor: DigitalSweety DigitalSweety
I've heard some friends claim that bad sex is better than no sex, but at this point in my life I just can't tolerate bad sex. I don't mean "our relationship is in a lull and we're in a rut" sex, I mean straight up terrible sex where your partner is either completely inept or just doesn't seem to care how bad they are at it (or whether or not you're enjoying yourself).

So here's the question. What's better - terrible sex, or no sex at all?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
I'd rather have terrible sex than no sex at all.
Bubba29 , Hummingbird , big b
3  (4%)
I'd rather go without sex than have really bad sex.
DigitalSweety , Real or memorex , Missy27 , Flower1 , chicmichiw , BlooJay , evie.amor , Toy Fiend , Rossie , twelve13 , nikki0668 , MissCandyland , WhoopieDoo , SecondStory , CSM2010 , Allison.Wilder , LavenderSkies , Lady of the Lab , K101 , Rory , mpfm , Strider , Chelynn67 , kandy anjel , Cosmonaut , 783883877299373783 , Cindi025 , ViVix , BrittaniMaree , Wicked Wahine , tequilafish , Chastity Darling , Kirill1171 , table38792 , Love the look , MrWishyWashy , bayosgirl , The Vixen , SydVicious , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , edeneve , Bme , SecretKinksters , Bleu , XxFallenAngelxX , spiced , Qozt , married with children , Stinkytofu10 , Incendiaire , GONE! , travelnurse , SourAppleMartini , butts , LoganAshlee. , Living Doll , Falsepast , tami , sexynola , bog
60  (80%)
Other (there's always an other; explain below)
edenguy , "G" , Beautiful-Disaster , Sbmsvschoolgirl , Martiniman , Trysexual , srexom , VeganChick (is Gone) , Gunsmoke , sillylilkitten , TJtheMadHatter , elli
12  (16%)
Total votes: 75
Poll is closed
02/27/2013
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Contributor: edenguy edenguy
I guess it would depend on how bad the sex is and how long I've been without
02/27/2013
Contributor: Real or memorex Real or memorex
When it's bad, it's horrid, and when it's mediocre, it's bad. I would rather do without.
02/27/2013
Contributor: Missy27 Missy27
If its been a ridiculous amount of time, then I guess it's better. But in general, bad sex is not worth it.
02/27/2013
Contributor: "G" "G"
sometimes i just need sex regardless of the quality
02/27/2013
Contributor: Flower1 Flower1
I'd rather go without
02/27/2013
Contributor: chicmichiw chicmichiw
Without! Holy wow, always without! There's always masturbation which is a guaranteed success without any hurt or strange feelings.
02/27/2013
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
I'd rather go without sex than to have bad sex.
02/27/2013
Contributor: evie.amor evie.amor
Terrible sex is just.. terrible! I'd absolutely rather go without than be disappointed and feel just icky afterwords.
02/27/2013
Contributor: Toy Fiend Toy Fiend
no sex is way better than bad sex
02/27/2013
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
If sex was bad, I'd rather go without.
02/27/2013
Contributor: Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
I guess I'd rather go without it... but then again.. I don't know..
02/28/2013
Contributor: twelve13 twelve13
Oh dear. I'd rather go without.
02/28/2013
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
I would rather go without.
02/28/2013
Contributor: WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
I've had bad sex. Masturbation is WAY, WAY more fun and satisfying than bad sex.
02/28/2013
Contributor: SecondStory SecondStory
Bad sex sounds uncomfortable, I don't think I would want to do that if the other option was being less uncomfortable.
02/28/2013
Contributor: Sbmsvschoolgirl Sbmsvschoolgirl
I guess my philosophy is, if the sex is bad turn it around. Try and make it good. Talk to your partner, tell them what you're not liking and what you would prefer. Maybe you can teach them something and the sex will get better/be better in the future. (:
02/28/2013
Contributor: Allison.Wilder Allison.Wilder
Bad sex just leaves me wanting more and it's always awkward so I'd really rather go without than have terrible sex.
02/28/2013
Contributor: Martiniman Martiniman
This poll defines the sexes and our differences. I've always gone by the credo that there's great sex and good sex, but never bad sex.
02/28/2013
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by DigitalSweety
I've heard some friends claim that bad sex is better than no sex, but at this point in my life I just can't tolerate bad sex. I don't mean "our relationship is in a lull and we're in a rut" sex, I mean straight up terrible ... more
I'd rather have no sex than bad sex.
02/28/2013
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by DigitalSweety
I've heard some friends claim that bad sex is better than no sex, but at this point in my life I just can't tolerate bad sex. I don't mean "our relationship is in a lull and we're in a rut" sex, I mean straight up terrible ... more
No. Bad sex is bad sex. It's disappointing and frustrating, sometimes even painful. So for me, no sex is better than the leftover feeling of not being satisfied, wasted time and frustration.
02/28/2013
Contributor: DigitalSweety DigitalSweety
Quote:
Originally posted by Sbmsvschoolgirl
I guess my philosophy is, if the sex is bad turn it around. Try and make it good. Talk to your partner, tell them what you're not liking and what you would prefer. Maybe you can teach them something and the sex will get better/be better in the ... more
Sometimes, you do. And they just. Don't. Listen. You can only turn bad sex around if they'll actually listen to you, and both partners are willing to turn it around. :-/
02/28/2013
Contributor: Rory Rory
I want mine enjoyable or not at all.
02/28/2013
Contributor: kandy anjel kandy anjel
Quote:
Originally posted by DigitalSweety
I've heard some friends claim that bad sex is better than no sex, but at this point in my life I just can't tolerate bad sex. I don't mean "our relationship is in a lull and we're in a rut" sex, I mean straight up terrible ... more
bad sex is not worth it
02/28/2013
Contributor: Cosmonaut Cosmonaut
I'd rather go without sex than have really bad sex.
02/28/2013
Contributor: 783883877299373783 783883877299373783
Without sex
02/28/2013
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
Not sure it's every been thaaaat bad.
02/28/2013
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by DigitalSweety
I've heard some friends claim that bad sex is better than no sex, but at this point in my life I just can't tolerate bad sex. I don't mean "our relationship is in a lull and we're in a rut" sex, I mean straight up terrible ... more
Bad sex is okay, but an incompatible partner is not.
02/28/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Yes, no sex is better than bad sex.

I tend to think anyone who thinks otherwise has never really had the kind of BAD sex the rest of us are talking about! We're not talking boring, or merely disappointing; we're talking horrid, uncomfortable or even painful, upsetting...

Why not skip the bad sex part & get right to what you already might do afterwards? Masturbation is better than bad sex!
02/28/2013
Contributor: Chastity Darling Chastity Darling
No sex is definitely better than bad sex... besides I'm the best sex I've ever had
02/28/2013