How many people know about your EdenFantasys "life"?

Contributor: Miss Zombie Miss Zombie
Since Eden has become more like a social network, it is usually a daily for me. I am always looking, reading, and keeping myself updated with products and commenting on people's profiles or reviews. Whether you are "employed" by Eden or you are a dedicated reviewer, exactly how many people know about your "hobby" or job (depending on how you look at it)? Are you secretive about your EF "life" or does everyone know why the mailman(woman) drops big boxes off at your house at least twice a week? If so, how do people you know feel about it?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
My whole family knows.
Daniel & Brittany , Shellz31 , Midway through , Airen Wolf , Beck , Sir , Elaira
7
Only a few close friends/family know.
*HisMrs* , ZenaidaMacroura , PiratePrincess , eggiweg , Waterfall , Redboxbaby , teeny <3 , kawigrl , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , ID42 , softcoeur , kutekatie , SamsDelight , tigerkate , ToyTimeTim , Jimbo Jones , sixfootsex , PassionQT , Darling Jen , OhMy! , sexyk515 , BadassFatass , littlezimmey , Dusk , dv8 , 0 , lovemuscle n cookie , EJ , namelesschaos , VioletMoonstone , Kkay , Kimmie1980ca , One of Five , null , Diabolical Kitty , sarki , Sunshineamine , mizzmilla , Breas , PussyPurr , CAKES , SexyTabby , MR Chickhabit , Wildchild , Eva Schwaltz , kadytheredpanda , aliceinthehole , Jo lala
48
Only my significant other and I know.
MaryExy , Miss Zombie , darthkitt3n , Selective Sensualist , padmeamidala , Coralbell , Gunsmoke , Cream in the Cupcake , Sammi , wildcat , Lithaewyn , bunny love , Lummox , Erotica Explorer , Rossie , Bunnycups , ellejay , BlueDog , sexygoddess , purplekidney , hjtee , Mommy2 , yw2 , BadassFatass , rdytogo , tickle me pink , indiglo , ToyBoy , Kayla , Pink Jewel , l'amour , EvilHomer , mizzmilla , tooshy , That Man from Mars , mcl272 , lilly555 , Ser Pounce-a-lot , bdvnt , The Curious Couple , LittleBoPeep , T&A1987 , The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
43
Only me, myself, and I.
moonch1ld , pinkcupcakes , DCorrelle , slynch , Sohotdinosaur , Errant Venture , IslandGoddess , jay28 , Avant-garde , Nothere
10
I don't want anyone to know.
tooshy , Avant-garde , Nothere
3
I want people to know but I am unsure how they would react.
Miss Zombie , Coralbell , PiratePrincess , teeny <3 , Cream in the Cupcake , Lithaewyn , bunny love , Bunnycups , Ashley:) , Kindred , rdytogo , Kayla , null , mcl272 , SexyTabby , aliceinthehole
16
I don't care if people know.
MaryExy , Daniel & Brittany , *HisMrs* , Shellz31 , ZenaidaMacroura , eggiweg , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , ID42 , Lithaewyn , tigerkate , Lummox , Misfit Momma , hjtee , BadassFatass , Airen Wolf , Kayla , l'amour , mizzmilla , Sir , PussyPurr , MrWishyWashy
21
People know and they don't care.
Daniel & Brittany , Joie de Cherresse , Waterfall , Redboxbaby , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , ~LaUr3n~ , tigerkate , zracer , Misfit Momma , BadassFatass , hornypoet69 , Airen Wolf , null , Diabolical Kitty , mizzmilla , Sir , aliceinthehole , Elaira
18
People know and they don't like it.
Daniel & Brittany , Waterfall , Misfit Momma , Airen Wolf , Sir
5
Other (comment below)
MaryExy , Miss Zombie , Alan & Michele , Daniel & Brittany , Linga , Redboxbaby , Darling Jen , Cedarlooman , Errant Venture , Sir , lilly555 , momma22js , LadyDarknezz
13
Total votes: 184 (119 voters)
Poll is closed
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Contributor: MaryExy MaryExy
I wouldn't care if people casually knew. I would care if people knew and went on here purely to follow my sex life, particularly if they were commenting on it in real life. Haven't gotten really involved yet, though (waiting a while before working on serious reviewing.)
04/05/2011
Contributor: Miss Zombie Miss Zombie
All of my friends and family are uptight and closed-minded types.

The problem is, I am a sexual person. Strictly dedicated to my husband. We are always trying new things and trying to find new ways to expand the sexual part of our marriage.

I have girlfriends that I would love to talk about sex with or share "secrets" with but they are the "type", you know what I mean?

Everyone would definitely think it is abnormal that I buy sex toys and flavored lubes.

Do you feel that this is something you should keep in your marriage or should you be able to be open about these things?

I guess this is the main reason why I joined Eden to begin with... No judgement because everyone is here for the same thing..
04/05/2011
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
Our friends and what family we still keep in touch with know and, since they also know how we are, most of them were amused when they found out. My mom was actually a reviewer here for a short while too, and we get asked for a lot of advice these days. Scary thought, huh?

The UPS man definitely knows too (he Googled us and found our blog) and he likes to tease when he brings packages. I think he still believes that the over-sized box we got at Christmas time was a sex machine. Oh well, good to know we gave him something more interesting to ponder for the day than what was really in it .
04/05/2011
Contributor: Daniel & Brittany Daniel & Brittany
I'm not shy about anything nor is Britt, so both of our familys know and while some don't like or accept it, others do and think its great! Then you have the few (like Britts mom) who are always getting toys from us and think its really really great! Lol
04/05/2011
Contributor: Miss Zombie Miss Zombie
Quote:
Originally posted by Alan & Michele
Our friends and what family we still keep in touch with know and, since they also know how we are, most of them were amused when they found out. My mom was actually a reviewer here for a short while too, and we get asked for a lot of advice these ... more
LOL.. I am sure my mailman will google the address the packages are coming from pretty soon...

My mom is always trying to talk to me about sex stuff, but I am not sure how she'd react to sex toys.. lol
04/05/2011
Contributor: Miss Zombie Miss Zombie
Quote:
Originally posted by Daniel & Brittany
I'm not shy about anything nor is Britt, so both of our familys know and while some don't like or accept it, others do and think its great! Then you have the few (like Britts mom) who are always getting toys from us and think its really ... more
I am jealous! I don't want to be shy at all, I never was when I was younger. I get nervous when my parents come over.. I am afraid they are going to stumble across a box or a receipt or possibly a magazine and be like WTF?? I hide all the toys, but sometimes the packaging disappears.. lol
04/05/2011
Contributor: Daniel & Brittany Daniel & Brittany
Quote:
Originally posted by Miss Zombie
LOL.. I am sure my mailman will google the address the packages are coming from pretty soon...



My mom is always trying to talk to me about sex stuff, but I am not sure how she'd react to sex toys.. lol
Haha you should have seen when I showed my mother and Father our new Dick Rambone, he just laughed and she got all wide eyed
04/05/2011
Contributor: Miss Zombie Miss Zombie
Quote:
Originally posted by Daniel & Brittany
Haha you should have seen when I showed my mother and Father our new Dick Rambone, he just laughed and she got all wide eyed
haha! Well I always told my parents I was going to get a realistic dildo with a suction cup and stick it to the trunk of my car to see how many people would really notice. They got a kick out of it then.. do you think they would now that I actually have it? haha
04/05/2011
Contributor: Linga Linga
Everybody on my Facebook!!!!
04/05/2011
Contributor: PersonalAngel PersonalAngel
I told my mom and she was like disappointed, I felt like she took as if I was a drug addict street hooker. I was very surprised at her reaction; all I could say was oh well its my life and I cant stop because you don't approve.
04/05/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
I tell people that I review sex toys. They always find it interesting and start asking questions. I like people knowing!
How do they know to ask questions if they don't know I have experience with all sorts of toys...
04/05/2011
Contributor: Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
Quote:
Originally posted by Alan & Michele
Our friends and what family we still keep in touch with know and, since they also know how we are, most of them were amused when they found out. My mom was actually a reviewer here for a short while too, and we get asked for a lot of advice these ... more
That's a bit creepy that your UPS man Googled you guys! You mean he Googled your first and last names and that's how he found your blog? Was this spurred by the multitude of packages you receive or did you actually prompt him to look up your blog? (I'm hoping it's the latter!)
04/05/2011
Contributor: padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by Miss Zombie
Since Eden has become more like a social network, it is usually a daily for me. I am always looking, reading, and keeping myself updated with products and commenting on people's profiles or reviews. Whether you are "employed" by Eden or ... more
my husband and I both know although obviously any of my online friends know because I twitter about Eden Fantasys and have blogged about it.
04/05/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Miss Zombie
All of my friends and family are uptight and closed-minded types.



The problem is, I am a sexual person. Strictly dedicated to my husband. We are always trying new things and trying to find new ways to expand the sexual part of our ... more
I don't do a lot of talking with friends about sex. I did when I was younger, but only with friends I knew I could trust. My best friend was in a relationship very similar to mine (a D/s relationship, with a male Dom) but he died right before Thanksgiving, and it's been inappropriate to talk to her about sex, as she misses him so much. I don't want to hurt her.



I have other friends who are simply to hung up about sex to talk to.



As for family, I don't think so. I was raised in a not-so-tightly-knit Catholic family and s-e-x wasn't discussed much on one side and a bit of a joke on the other.



Obviously, My husband knows, but he's always going, "Be careful what you say online." He's pretty paranoid about the internet and isn't a "joiner" has never joined an online community, thinks Facebook is just there for employers to get dirt on their employees and his rather narrow minded attitude towards internet friendships bothers me. FTR, he isn't much for IRL friends, either. I've actually had to make play dates for him with other men. Really. He's in his 50s. Just not a really social guy.
04/05/2011
Contributor: Daniel & Brittany Daniel & Brittany
Quote:
Originally posted by Miss Zombie
haha! Well I always told my parents I was going to get a realistic dildo with a suction cup and stick it to the trunk of my car to see how many people would really notice. They got a kick out of it then.. do you think they would now that I actually ... more
depends on their sense of humor, I mean as far as my parents go they know i'm old enough to do as I wish, and I live with my girlfriend, so the fact I have sex is pretty apparent though we don't "talk" about it, What are they gonna do try to have me send it back? lol They just laughed after their eyes finally popped back in their head from witnessing the sheer size of a Dick Rambone lmao. Most people go around being shy about things, i'm one of those people who prefers to live out in the open. This is me and how I am, Love it or leave it. so naturally being parents they accept that I am rapidly becoming A sex freak and while they don't "support" me, they certinly don't chastise. So I say throw it up on the hood, probably better than the trunk so if it falls off you will see it and can stop to pick it up lol. Let us know how it goes
04/05/2011
Contributor: PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
My friends and boyfriend know, but at this point I wouldn't tell my family. I'm not sure how they would react. And only my close friends who don't judge know.
04/05/2011
Contributor: Waterfall Waterfall
A few of my friends know, and most of them don't care. However, I have one friend who thinks I own too many toys and thinks it is kind of "weird" that I review sex toys. He can get over it
04/05/2011
Contributor: Daniel & Brittany Daniel & Brittany
Quote:
Originally posted by PiratePrincess
My friends and boyfriend know, but at this point I wouldn't tell my family. I'm not sure how they would react. And only my close friends who don't judge know.
You shouldn't worry about being judged, and if they are gonna judge you there not really what I would call a "friend" anyway you know? I mean no offence to your friends of coarse but living in a shell and hiding who you really are is just, well not "you" lol. I recommend waterfalls approach, "They can get over it". Not to mention when people realise you stand for who you are they usually accept you for it, and in my experiance even respect you more for being braver than most people dare. Please don't think I'm telling you how to live lol, that would be seriously uncool of me. I just want to see the world happy, healthy and all getting along without fear of persecution. I'm a hippy at heart.
04/05/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I don't do a lot of talking with friends about sex. I did when I was younger, but only with friends I knew I could trust. My best friend was in a relationship very similar to mine (a D/s relationship, with a male Dom) but he died right before ... more
P'Gell, you always make me smile.

I thought it was just my husband who seemed to grow more anti-social with age. His motto is, "The more people I meet, the more I like my dogs." My son even teases him and says, "You need to go out with the guys, oh wait! That's right you don't have any friends." He would be perfectly happy with just me, him, the dogs and NEVER leaving the house. Honestly, I am all good with that. We are strange that way.

As for the question, I have about 4 "friends" (the kind you tell everything too), everyone else is in more of the acquaintance type category. My friends know about Eden and my reviewing. My mother knows too. I have helped her pick out some nice toys and given her suggestions on usage and lube tips. I am very open with people I trust.

My Eden friends are in a whole different category all your own! I love you guys.
04/05/2011
Contributor: hornypoet69 hornypoet69
I don't do the reviews or anything. Just buy stuff and participate on the forums. Need to get around to finishing an article I'm writing for Edencafe, though. My family doesn't know at all, that I use toys, and I intend to keep it that way. Several of my friends know, however. I am very open about my sexuality.
04/05/2011
Contributor: Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I don't do a lot of talking with friends about sex. I did when I was younger, but only with friends I knew I could trust. My best friend was in a relationship very similar to mine (a D/s relationship, with a male Dom) but he died right before ... more
Hmmm, other than the dom part, it sounded like you were describing my husband!
04/05/2011
Contributor: Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
Quote:
Originally posted by Redboxbaby
P'Gell, you always make me smile.



I thought it was just my husband who seemed to grow more anti-social with age. His motto is, "The more people I meet, the more I like my dogs." My son even teases him and says, "You ... more
We apparently have a lot in common with you and your husband, too.

As far as me being open with my family about the fact that my husband and I both use sex toys and watch porn (*gasp*), I can't ever see that happening. They would think we were weird and perverted. Sex is not really discussed, except jokingly or (even worse) judgmentally, in either my husband's or my extended family. Despite being comparatively vanilla, it's been insinuated that I am some type of whore on my husband's side of the family because they just KNOW I wasn't a virgin when I married him. (EDIT: Actually it was not insinuated but clearly stated. I quit worrying about what they thought of me after that since I was so disgusted with them. Apparently being a good, caring person who is faithful and loving to their son/brother doesn't mean a hill of beans to them. Their questionable, extremely HYPOCRITICAL, and condemnatory "values" reflect negatively on them, not me.)
04/05/2011
Contributor: kawigrl kawigrl
i've told some that I know well, and for those I do not know that well I mention it's a fantastic site but only a few ppl know my user name...
04/05/2011
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
My husband knows, and one close friend.
04/05/2011
Contributor: ID42 ID42
My husband, my sister, my best friend and her husband (my hubby's best friend), and the rest of my girlfriends know what I do on here. None of them have an issue with it. I really don't care who knows, but I don't advertise past my nearest and dearest. Except on my blog and it's anonymous for everyone who doesn't know me personally anyway.
04/06/2011
Contributor: Lithaewyn Lithaewyn
Truthfully, a handful of people know but only my husband knows where to find my reviews. I have some online friends that know too, but I don't really count them because they don't know who I am offline.

Some days I really want people to know, but that's mostly when it comes to conversations about sex. I really believe that toys can benefit anyone if they open up to the idea, but I find it hard to talk about without revealing just how much I know about toys. I really don't want to encourage anyone to get into cheap, potentially dangerous toys (like jelly).

The rest of the time I really don't care. If they know, cool, there's something else to chat about. If not, it's our really awesome "secret".
04/06/2011
Contributor: SamsDelight SamsDelight
I know I am new to EF and new to reviews but I answered anyways. I have always been into sex toys and have been the go to person for a few of my friends. So EF has been a wonderful outlet for me. Hard to believe at 17 I was going into a store that sold sex toys out of a closet way in the back, that you had to ask to go into.
04/06/2011
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
Quote:
Originally posted by Selective Sensualist
That's a bit creepy that your UPS man Googled you guys! You mean he Googled your first and last names and that's how he found your blog? Was this spurred by the multitude of packages you receive or did you actually prompt him to look up ... more
It sounds much creepier than it really is. He's been our delivery man for like 6 or 7 years now, and he's always flirted (with both of us), but not in an out-of-line way or anything. He commented on how often he was seeing us when we started getting a big influx of weekly packages, and we just said we were "product reviewers" but didn't say what kind. Unfortunately, some companies aren't as discreet about their shipping labels as others are, so it was obvious at a glance that we were getting at least some adult stuff. And everything comes to "Alan and Michele" (with no last name) so I'm sure that curiosity just got the better of him once all of the facts were combined.
04/06/2011
Contributor: tigerkate tigerkate
Well, my boyfriend knows.. and a few of my closer friends. I don't care either way.

It's just not a topic that comes up with a lot of my friends Not unless they are really close to me, anyway.
04/06/2011