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Do you hold the door open for people? Do you get mad if they don't say "Thank You"?

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Contributor: Shumway Shumway
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Originally posted by vegan.guy
When you go into public buildings, do you hold the door open for strangers? Do you get mad if they don't say "Thanks"?
I think it's really rude of people to not express any gratitude when someone holds the door open for them. It's really only a small thing to say "thank-you".

The other thing that pisses me off (and I think this is worse than someone not saying "thanks", is when the person entering a building immediately in front of me doesn't hold the door and I get a door in the face.

It's no wonder the world is going to shit, everyone is so concerned with themselves that they don't take a few seconds to pass along a little kindness to their fellow humans. It really takes very little energy or time to say thanks and give a smile.
02/18/2011
Contributor: Shumway Shumway
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Originally posted by Angel deSanguine
I don't get mad but if they sashay through the door, nose stuck up in the air then yes, I think something like 'Go ahead, your Highness!' and wonder where a thing called manners went.
hahah, that's when I say loudly "you're welcome!"
02/18/2011
Contributor: girl next door girl next door
Sometimes when they don't say 'thank you', I say 'you're welcome' really loudly so they can hear. Cause it does peeve me when they don't say thank you.
02/19/2011
Contributor: vegan.guy vegan.guy
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Originally posted by Shumway
I think it's really rude of people to not express any gratitude when someone holds the door open for them. It's really only a small thing to say "thank-you".

The other thing that pisses me off (and I think this is worse than ... more
Yeah, I agree. It's really the little things in life that show how bad things are getting sometimes.
02/19/2011
Contributor: vegan.guy vegan.guy
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Originally posted by Shumway
hahah, that's when I say loudly "you're welcome!"
lol, I'll do that sometimes too, but only when I get really frustrated.
02/19/2011
Contributor: BadgersRose BadgersRose
It's a common courtesy thing. Some people say thanks and others don't. Not to sound biased but it's usually the older generations that says thanks and the younger ones who don't.
03/26/2011
Contributor: Joie de Cherresse Joie de Cherresse
I don't really care if they say thank you or not. I'm gonna be nice either way.
03/26/2011
Contributor: Bunnycups Bunnycups
I was raised to be polite and helpful. It's nice if someone says thank you, but I'm not going to stop being kind if they don't.
03/26/2011
Contributor: Ajax Ajax
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Originally posted by HoneyHoney
Sometimes I say it, sometimes I don't. Depends if I'm in a hurry and just need to get through the door without a whole deal about how grateful I am for you holding a door, I say thanks while I'm on my way through. It's never been an ... more
Yea when I go to hold the door for someone and 13 other people squeeze through I kind of regret holding the door.
03/27/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
I don't expect a thankyou but 99% of people over here are polite and just naturally say thankyou.
03/27/2011
Contributor: Waterfall Waterfall
I hold the door open and do not always expect a "thank you". However today I witnessed a girl who held the door open for someone and then continued to yell "you're welcome" over and over until the guy turned around and looked at her, she then said "yeah I was talking to you" and I happened to be leaving so I am not sure what happened. That is just not necessary in my opinion and it feels like it defeats the purpose of doing something nice if you are going to act like that when you don't get the response you want.
03/27/2011
Contributor: sexyk515 sexyk515
yes i hold the door open and i don't get mad if i don't get a thanks
03/27/2011
Contributor: PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
I usually hold the door open, and most people say thank you. It's only annoying when someone stands there expecting you to open the door for them and then doesn't say thank you in response.
03/28/2011
Contributor: KnK KnK
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Originally posted by vegan.guy
When you go into public buildings, do you hold the door open for strangers? Do you get mad if they don't say "Thanks"?
Lol, the first "other."

I guess it depends on the body language of the person. Some people walk around with this irritating sense of entitlement, if that makes sense...
03/28/2011
Contributor: ShadowKitten ShadowKitten
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Originally posted by KikiChrome
Agreed!

+100

The value for me is in the giving, not in the thanks.
I agree but on some days I get a bit grouchy if I do something nice for random people and they just act like I'm REQUIRED to do sh*t for them, people in my city are quite arrogant and have a 'entitled' attitude towards everyone else though so :\
03/28/2011
Contributor: SaucyMan SaucyMan
I'm quite old fashioned, so I hold the doors open, stand up when a woman walks in the room, leaves the table, let the lady cum first...
But I don't expect a thank you. It's quite sad that, in large urban areas, people don't like to talk to each other, even to be polite.
03/28/2011
Contributor: PersonalAngel PersonalAngel
I dont usually hold the door for people but when I do I expect a thank you.
03/28/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by clp
I'm not sure if I expect a thank you, but I do expect acknowledgment. Look me in the eye, tilt your head, nod, anything. I HATE IT when I hold the door or go out of my way for someone and they breeze on by like I am their servant and they deserve ... more
This is my sentiment exactly.

Maybe it's a Southern thing. But when I open a door, let you into traffic, make eye contact... I expect a little wave or a nod or a thanks. I will sometimes call out 'You're Welcome' as well. Or, "By all means, I live to serve..." Depends on how snarky I'm feeling and how many people I've been polite to who simply don't respond.

I just don't understand when being polite became something that we don't teach. I feel like I'm constantly reminding my children to be aware of their surroundings and to make sure we're not disturbing those around us and to be aware if we're in the way, to say Please, Thank You, and You're Welcome.
03/28/2011
Contributor: hjtee hjtee
I appreciate a thank you, but I don't mind if I don't get one.
03/31/2011