My father's opinions are irrelevant. My mum's are usually the same.

My mom died last year and my dad has nothing to do with me so I cut him out altogether.....so my parents aren't around anyway, but when my mom was alive I valued her opinion....not that I took her advice all the time (probably should have lol).

My parents' opinion matters a little, but I try to not let it weigh too much. Both of them don't always make the best decisions either, so why should I let their potentially bad call dictate my life?

I really respect my mother's opinions - not really my father's so much, even though I love him dearly - and am constantly asking her for advice. No hard feelings towards my dad or anything, I've just found that he tends to give bad advice and that he and I generally disagree on just about everything. My mom's pretty close to being my best friend, so I go to her with just about everything. Doesn't mean I do everything she says, mind.

As far as the situation outlined in the original post? That's a tough one. I guess you have to weigh which is more important to you. Then again, if your grandparents love you as much as it sounds like they do, they should eventually come to understand whatever decision you make. Then again, when it comes down to it, it's your decision - do what you feel is right. Hopefully no-one gets hurt in the process, but you're the one you should worry about most.

My mother's opinion often play a huge part in my final decision on many things, but I don't necessarily go with her opinion all the time if I feel strongly about a different choice.

I' an adult, and although sometimes my mothers views are insightful they're often grounded in her own self interests so I've learned to ignore them.

Their opinion does matter to me, as I love and respect them. However, I'm an adult. In the end, my decision falls on myself alone.