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Do you think it is okay to have your ex as a Facebook friend?

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Contributor: TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
I think it all depends on the relationship. What was the damage, were/are there still romantic feelings, are they single, how long have you been broken up. I think these things factor in. I thought I could be friends with an ex, but when he started saying things like, "say hi to your grandparents for me" (whom he'd only met once), it was time to cut him out. Especially since he's the ex, I left for my husband.

Every situation is different, but the one thing that is the most important is that your spouse knows about it. At least that's my opinion.

Plus, if he's an weirdo with obsessive tendencies, then no. Probably not a good idea.
04/03/2013
Contributor: Leather & Lace Leather & Lace
I would be okay with it depending on the relationship.
04/03/2013
Contributor: Cosmonaut Cosmonaut
Depends. I don't have mine because I want the past to stay in the past. Then again, I don't go on FB often and I don't care enough of what people do/post...it's always so dumb.
04/03/2013
Contributor: bratcat bratcat
I see no problem in it. I try and stay friend with my ex's and will communicate with them via facebook sometimes. I dont bother going over who i have or have not dated on facebook with my partner as it seems totally unnecessary and time consuming, although if he asked i'd let him know about who or who i havent dated and still talk with.
04/03/2013
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
Yes, if you've moved on.
04/03/2013
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
I'm fb friends with all but 1 of my ex's and he's the only one I am not friends with. The rest I'm friends with and we still talk. A lot.
04/03/2013
Contributor: Allstars316 Allstars316
I think it depends on the breakup. But I think no.
04/03/2013
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
As long as your current partner knows, and the break up was civil. I have an ex on facebook, and my partner is completely cool with it.
04/03/2013
Contributor: TJax TJax
As long as your current lover knows and is ok with it. Still not the greatest idea though IMO.
04/03/2013
Contributor: Martiniman Martiniman
Yes if you're single.
No if you're in a relationship!

If your current partner is friends with your ex they can have them as friends on their profile, unless you're both still friends with your ex and your current partner is ok with you being Facebook friends with your ex. However, if your current partner is uneasy with you being Facebook friends with your ex, don't do it...it can cause too many problems now and in the future.
04/03/2013
Contributor: The Vixen The Vixen
It depends on the circumstance I guess, but I've never seen any good coming from being friends with exes on Facebook.
04/03/2013
Contributor: KrazyKandy KrazyKandy
I most relationships it all depends if you are being honest with your current partner or not.
04/04/2013
Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
Quote:
Originally posted by BrittaniMaree
just wondering peoples feelings on this subject
not me, personally, too hard to let go. but if it's from years ago or youre over it totally, then sure
04/04/2013
Contributor: princess22 princess22
y not
04/04/2013
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by BrittaniMaree
just wondering peoples feelings on this subject
Yes for certain exes and no for others. It really depends on the ex. I let my ex fiance back into my life as a friend, and before I know it, he's trying to sucker me into providing for him financially. Joke's on him...I'm broke!
04/04/2013
Contributor: mjtheprincess mjtheprincess
At one point I was friends with all my exs on facebook. But you get to a point where you trim out the ones who aren't actually your friends, so I have about half of them as friends now. Surprisingly enough I don't stalk their profiles. No reasons to really. I will maybe check in on them once a month, have a brief conversation about how they are doing, and move on with my day Lots of my exs are good men, they just weren't the right men for me. And every girl needs good, dependable male friends. Because you just never know when you are going to get into a situation where you need a guy and your guy can't come rescue you!
04/04/2013
Contributor: Qozt Qozt
This isn't really a "yes or no" question. Like someone else said, if you want to move on, it's probably a bad idea.
04/05/2013
Contributor: TheirPet TheirPet
It depends. I have some ex's and I don't even want them to know where I live. Others I love and are still friends.
04/05/2013
Contributor: peachmarie peachmarie
I know there are lots of people who are still in good relationships with their ex's. I think depending on how the relationship ended and if you are still attracted to them it could be a bad idea.
04/05/2013